Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
OK, so, in my neverending quest to become a DJ, I have noticed a very interesting observation about some women that I probably wouldn't have before having been to this board.
In my opinion, one of the really important lessons from this board involves embracing and projecting your male sexuality, eye contact, and in general, not being afraid to show your interest in a woman.
Now, this doesn't mean telling her you are interested, but SHOWING her. You have all read the stuff regarding this, so I won't go into detail.
But one of the most important reasons I think this is something you really need to embrace is because alot of women themselves ARE GUILTY OF THIS!
I have noticed in alot of my interactions with the opposite sex lately that they are afraid to show their interest sometimes.
The reasons for this, I suspect are twofold - society dictates that a woman behave in a certain way lest she be considered 'lose' or worse, a 'hor'. The second more important thing I think is a little bit of low self esteem. Now, given the daily onslaught of great female bodies and beautiful, and perfect faces in the media, this problem is rampant.
If a woman doesn't think she stands a chance with you, she will get shy. Her signs of interest will be passing glances that you catch out of the corner of your eye, and she will avert her gaze the minute you catch onto it.
I've seen this alot lately. And as we become more DJ, we will invariably encounter it more. Think about it, when we go jaunting around as 'the catch' and we in fact are 'the catch', this can be very intimidating.
A case in point, riding the bus I have seen on several occasions going to work, a woman that I found quite attractive. However, she would not make eye contact with me, in fact, wouldn't give me any sort of sign at all.
This started to bug me after a few times. Is she a lesbian, I asked myself? or worse, not interested? PERISH THE THOUGHT! Of course she's interested in me, what woman in her right mind wouldn't be, right?
So. I decided to take matters in my own hands. I started sitting directly across from her everytime on the bus. While she was sitting their reading her book, head down, I could tell she was making very small, awkward glances at me from time to time. If I turned to look to my left, I could tell her head would come up from her book from time to time out of the corner of my eye. Pretty observant, right?
Soooo. I just made sure that I kept checking her out nice and good, and really obviously. Let her see that I was digging her - not like some weirdo either, mind you, but checking her out, nontheless. I could tell this made her a little uncomfortable. But it did the trick, because the next time I saw her in the bus platform, this woman who never gave me the slightest attention couldn't keep her eyes off of me!!!!
Interesting, isn't it? So I smiled at her, lots of eye contact and said hello. She's still seems a little shy though, so when I see her next, I'm going to approach and hopefully number close.
I think there's alot of good examples in this story about being observant, confident, and embracing and projecting out sexuality and interest.
My guess is this women probably saw me and thought I was out of her league. So, showing interest is important guys! Make sure you do it, and don't be afraid to - lots of eye contact, and make sure you check for those little signs, however small, of interest.
The good thing is, with a little work, this will be far from a cold approach.
And I know some of you DJs are going to say, why waste time, just ask for her number!
But I think there's nothing wrong with softening up your target a little first, to improve your odds of getting the close.
In my opinion, one of the really important lessons from this board involves embracing and projecting your male sexuality, eye contact, and in general, not being afraid to show your interest in a woman.
Now, this doesn't mean telling her you are interested, but SHOWING her. You have all read the stuff regarding this, so I won't go into detail.
But one of the most important reasons I think this is something you really need to embrace is because alot of women themselves ARE GUILTY OF THIS!
I have noticed in alot of my interactions with the opposite sex lately that they are afraid to show their interest sometimes.
The reasons for this, I suspect are twofold - society dictates that a woman behave in a certain way lest she be considered 'lose' or worse, a 'hor'. The second more important thing I think is a little bit of low self esteem. Now, given the daily onslaught of great female bodies and beautiful, and perfect faces in the media, this problem is rampant.
If a woman doesn't think she stands a chance with you, she will get shy. Her signs of interest will be passing glances that you catch out of the corner of your eye, and she will avert her gaze the minute you catch onto it.
I've seen this alot lately. And as we become more DJ, we will invariably encounter it more. Think about it, when we go jaunting around as 'the catch' and we in fact are 'the catch', this can be very intimidating.
A case in point, riding the bus I have seen on several occasions going to work, a woman that I found quite attractive. However, she would not make eye contact with me, in fact, wouldn't give me any sort of sign at all.
This started to bug me after a few times. Is she a lesbian, I asked myself? or worse, not interested? PERISH THE THOUGHT! Of course she's interested in me, what woman in her right mind wouldn't be, right?
So. I decided to take matters in my own hands. I started sitting directly across from her everytime on the bus. While she was sitting their reading her book, head down, I could tell she was making very small, awkward glances at me from time to time. If I turned to look to my left, I could tell her head would come up from her book from time to time out of the corner of my eye. Pretty observant, right?
Soooo. I just made sure that I kept checking her out nice and good, and really obviously. Let her see that I was digging her - not like some weirdo either, mind you, but checking her out, nontheless. I could tell this made her a little uncomfortable. But it did the trick, because the next time I saw her in the bus platform, this woman who never gave me the slightest attention couldn't keep her eyes off of me!!!!
Interesting, isn't it? So I smiled at her, lots of eye contact and said hello. She's still seems a little shy though, so when I see her next, I'm going to approach and hopefully number close.
I think there's alot of good examples in this story about being observant, confident, and embracing and projecting out sexuality and interest.
My guess is this women probably saw me and thought I was out of her league. So, showing interest is important guys! Make sure you do it, and don't be afraid to - lots of eye contact, and make sure you check for those little signs, however small, of interest.
The good thing is, with a little work, this will be far from a cold approach.
And I know some of you DJs are going to say, why waste time, just ask for her number!
But I think there's nothing wrong with softening up your target a little first, to improve your odds of getting the close.