Interesting Case Studies~! Solve and debate please.

[charlezz]

Hey Guys, I have started sarging and gotta some phone numbers. Some quick questions.

1) A HB6.5, We are supposed to have a Day 2 on Tuesday but she's overwhelmed by work, counter offered me with a thurs to watch World Cup. She mentioned about bringing along 3 Male platonic friends.

I replied humourously "Damn, No chicks, then why should i be there?"
She replied "Haha ok you stay at home!"
I replied with "No way at home, I'll be elsewhere having fun. Enjoy!"

Somethings kept me pondering. Shouldn't I accept it and keep her as a platonic friend and such that one day I will be able to get to know her other female friends? Like sales, referrals~

2) Korean HB8, she's a tourist whom came to my country. Got several dates before she went back to korea. Kiss & Make out closed. She's back and emailed me ending with a "Miss you" <We joked with one another stating we are bf/gf>.

From the start I knew its just a Fling and no LTR chance due to distance. The question is.
a) you guys will reply to this email immediately or take around 2 days?
b) When someone emailed you a "Miss you/ love you" thingee. Do you guys recipocate with a miss you too?

3) My Ex Fling HB8.5, I admit I have a slight ONEitis problem. She's the one LJBF me and the reason why I found this website. <Blessing in disguise>

Brief background :-She is an attention Wh***. She LJBFed me after I declared my interest 3months ago.. Have been holding on for a month until I FINALLY ignored her totally for 2 solid months (going to the sarging game and getting more flings.) Recently, she begins to sense my 'coldness' and started MSNing and text msging me. Since i have not F*** her yet, I am finding a chance to give her a great BigBung.

Question is.. Should i carry on paying minimal attention to her? Or show slight interest and ask her out?

Great Comments and Discussion are Welcomed!
Cheers from Charlezz!

 

[jonwon]

No1 no dont be another male tag along!
She has turned you down for a date and only wants to see you on her terms! With 3 guys??? WTF is that, get rid move on, she seems to be more thrilled with male company then female.

1: where are her female buddies, a girl who has more male firends then female is trouble believe me! Yeh girls watch football too!

2: who give a monkeys how long it takes! Half the dating stuff is a false confidence booster, you already have her in the zone, why play more games, be natural not robotic.

3: Never get back with a women who rejected you, yeh she is bitten now you dont want her back, it bite's the rejection is her pain and that is her attraction, once she has you back that will fade and she will have you again.
You already said it did not work last time and she has issues, why go back? Do you like to be kicked in the balls more then once!!

Never date an EX-GF it alwasy goes wrong, unless you where the one to dump them, but then again if you dumped em why take em back? they did not meet your standereds dont lower em again.
Since she is not really an ex' (should have read more), use her for target practice, see how it goes) One other thing never date a women who craves attention to an uncomfortable lvl, you will have to share her with all the wimpish saps of this world that she will accumulate, see no1.


No1 is a no, no.
No2 is an easy ride.
No3 is asking for trouble.

No4,5,6,7,8,9------------ are still out there

 

[Desdinova]

Somethings kept me pondering. Shouldn't I accept it and keep her as a platonic friend and such that one day I will be able to get to know her other female friends? Like sales, referrals~

If you like, but if you're going to go this route, you should actually develope a one-on-one friendship with her. The other question, does she have ANY female friends? No point in pursuing her for anything if she has nothing but guy friends.

The question is.
a) you guys will reply to this email immediately or take around 2 days?

I'd reply immediately and set up a date. She's only a f-buddy.

b) When someone emailed you a "Miss you/ love you" thingee. Do you guys recipocate with a miss you too?

No, I'd just say "We should hook up, is Thursday good for you?" That way you're showing interest, but you're not showing desperation.

Question is.. Should i carry on paying minimal attention to her? Or show slight interest and ask her out?

Don't bother. You're spinning other plates, so why do you need a woman who isn't interested in fvcking you? You could better spend that time with a woman who IS interested in fvcking you.

 

[NewMan]

Somethings kept me pondering. Shouldn't I accept it and keep her as a platonic friend and such that one day I will be able to get to know her other female friends? Like sales, referrals~

It really doesn't matter - the point is, you don't want to go out with her and a bunch of guys you don't know. If you want to be just friends - thats all good - so go out with her and her GF's - I see no point in going out with her and a bunch of dudes.

I also think that the old "get to know her, she has friends" routinue is highly overrated. But that is another topic.

From the start I knew its just a Fling and no LTR chance due to distance. The question is.
a) you guys will reply to this email immediately or take around 2 days?
b) When someone emailed you a "Miss you/ love you" thingee. Do you guys recipocate with a miss you too?

1) It doesn't matter how long you wait. She in Korea. It was a fling so ensure that this doesn't get out of hand (like you joking your bf/gf).
2)No. Again don't give her the wrong idea.

Question is.. Should i carry on paying minimal attention to her? Or show slight interest and ask her out?

Do you really have to ask this one?

She burned you and you want to go back for more?

your asking for trouble.

continue to show zero intrest and concentrate on meeting more girls.

SHOULD, and I mean SHOULD - an opportunity arise to fvck this girl, then take it - if and only if you can handle it (the emotional swings that this will cause)

 

[charlezz]

Pure gold advices, guys.

One small error i did on Point 2) the korean babe situation >
before i refer to your replies (don't bash me! I'm learning)..

I replied with some fluff talks and ending with "Take care, miss ya, from your Singapore BF"
Anyway, she only understand minimal English, as she is using a dictionary to translate nearly EVERYTHING i typed.

Oh well.. -_-" Will tone down on my next email.



General Thoughts :-
Is there a tactic which mentions that when a girl shows IOI, you show her slightly lesser IOI? So as not to show desperation.

 

[Desdinova]

Is there a tactic which mentions that when a girl shows IOI, you show her slightly lesser IOI? So as not to show desperation.

Women don't look for IOIs. They react to what their emotions tell them. Women are also more likely to focus on your body language, facial expressions and voice tone instead of actual words. Unfortunately, the modern AFC has ruined words like "date" and "relationship" by appearing needy when using them (very much the same with flowers and teddy bears)

Women will scan your body language, facial expression, and voice tone for desperation. If you are desperate, it will show in one (or more) of these three. If you're confident, nothing will show up.