Interesting article about women and internet & speed dating

[MatureDJ]

http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/companion.asp?id=10&compID=16

A 57-year-old professional woman who is the mother of two grown children has tried both online dating and speed dating. She reports:

There were very few men in my part of the country, and I discovered too late that most of them had been members for many years. Talk about scraping the bottom of the barrel!

I tried speed dating only once. The good thing about it is that it's highly efficient. You can meet 8 or 10 guys in little more than an hour, and you don't have to tell them to their faces whether or not you're interested in seeing them again (you just put a discreet check mark on a little card). The bad thing is that a lot of the men seemed like the same ones left on the bottom of that other barrel.

One of the drawbacks to online dating is that you can easily fall in love with someone before you've met him, only to have your balloon rudely burst when you finally get together and discover that he looks like a frog and weighs less than you do.

Lady, at 57, you should be thankful you have a date with a man that has a pulse! And you are disappointed that he weighs less than you?

A 26-year-old lawyer writes:

Maybe it's just me, but I met many desperate guys. They weren't losers (good jobs, normal-good-looking, considerate, socially competent…) but they really wanted to have a girlfriend. Within minutes of meeting them, they were smitten and I was uncomfortable. I think that a lot of men online haven't learned to read women's signals...

Additionally, women are a hot commodity in online dating. It can be a massive self-esteem boost to realize how many men respond to a woman's ad. If a woman hasn't dated in a while, either because of a dry spell or because she just got out of a relationship, this is a great way to get back into dating and feel confident again.

Case in point about what we have been saying here. A DJ doesn't get smitten immediately, or look like he really wants to have a girlfriend. However, I have a hunch that if this woman were really attracted to a man she met, that she wouldn't be so uncomfortable.

And of course, she is spot on about the sex ratio in online dating.

I'm a 44-year-old, never-married single woman, living in a fairly small city. While it's a great community, it's very difficult to meet single, straight men to date.

There are certain "red flags" I have: If a man's preferred age range for a woman stops at an age much younger than himself (i.e. a 45-year-old man who is seeking women between the ages of 18 and 35) ... It's hard for me to disregard looks, but I'm afraid that does make a difference to me.

Lady, at 44, if a man rejects you because you're old, it's not YOUR red flag in rejecting him, it's him rejecting you because your barren. You probably were waiting for Superman, but alas, you were not quite Lois Lane. You should go after that bald, pot-bellied 55 y.o. that is not a bum, and be happy you can get him.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

LOL!


You're spot ON, MatureDJ. And the only thing I'd add is to your comments is this:

Another reason why that 45 year old man would want a chick that's between 18 and 35 is because that man has a better chance of finding a chick that RESPECTS him from that age group. Most women are AT LEAST 10 years more advanced at relationship dynamics than most men (the NON-DJs) are.

I have personally found that a lot of younger women are less prone to rush into an OBVIOUS power struggle with men who are significantly older (10 years or more). Sure, there's always SOME conflict, but it's usually nowhere near as overt with the women that you meet who are in the exact same age bracket as you are.


Peace...one day.

 

[Latinoman]

Additionally, women are a hot commodity in online dating. It can be a massive self-esteem boost to realize how many men respond to a woman's ad. If a woman hasn't dated in a while, either because of a dry spell or because she just got out of a relationship, this is a great way to get back into dating and feel confident again.

One of the main reasons women frequent those places and try the "online" thing. Many don't do it to get laid...they do it to get ATTENTION.

 

[Sir Drinksalot]

http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/companion.asp?id=10&compID=16



Lady, at 57, you should be thankful you have a date with a man that has a pulse! And you are disappointed that he weighs less than you?



Case in point about what we have been saying here. A DJ doesn't get smitten immediately, or look like he really wants to have a girlfriend. However, I have a hunch that if this woman were really attracted to a man she met, that she wouldn't be so uncomfortable.

And of course, she is spot on about the sex ratio in online dating.



Lady, at 44, if a man rejects you because you're old, it's not YOUR red flag in rejecting him, it's him rejecting you because your barren. You probably were waiting for Superman, but alas, you were not quite Lois Lane. You should go after that bald, pot-bellied 55 y.o. that is not a bum, and be happy you can get him.

LMAO!

A lot of people don't know this but I used to work for a women's magazine. They did these "sl*t on the street" interviews for almost every article. Most of them are conducted by other women, so the interviewees act like they actually have self esteem. In reality, a 57 year old and a 44 year old who's never been married would settle for a heroin addict who lives in a trash can like oscar the grouch.

They hate that men are attracted to younger women. Sorry, that's just biology. At 12 I wanted 19-22 yo women, at 35 I want 19-22 yo women, and its a safe bet that at 90 I'll want 19-22 yo women.