Interested, or just friendly?

[sumat]

I've met this girl at work, and while I've easily gotten her number/email, and have managed to get her to want to go out (for dinner or lunch - something - not yet decided), I'm not sure if she's actually interested in me, or just plain friendly.

Some people will say that I can create attraction - personally, I don't want to be somebody I'm not. The seduction community has really boosted my confidence, and I get laughs from lots of people (her included), but that's just me. I don't want to start pulling magic tricks or comments that aren't me.

However, I've haven't given her any compliments yet (which is a good thing, I suppose).

I think my interest in her is probably apparent to her, but I'm generally goofy and flirty with everyone, so she might think it's just my personality.

Thing is, I wouldn't mind having her as a friend, but if there are chances, I don't intend to spoil them. I'm extremely picky, so while there are plenty of 10s and 9s, and 8s, there aren't many I actually would want to be around, which makes me sort of one-itis-ish, but I try not to show it.

A friend of mine suggested I check for IOIs, but what are some positive IOIs that are definite, and I realize that some people, while attracted to you, will show different or less IOIs.

Any ideas?

Thanks

 

[AlphaOmega]

Unless she's stupid, a girl is not going to agree to anything private with you unless she has SOME interest in you. Would you agree to dinner alone with a fat/ugly woman who you don't like?

Just make sure you keep it simple, don't do anything AFC-ish, like you are right now being worried about whether she likes you when she already agreed to see you!

There are no definate IOI's, thats why they are called IOI's, they are merely indicators. Whatever you find in the bible is more than enough. Just be yourself, dating is funny in that when you try your hardest for a particular person is when you fail, unlike other things. Just be non-chalant but keep making 'em laugh. Keep doing what you've been doing and don't you dare put her on that pedestal! You barely even know the girl and you are already talking about oneitis like she is the one....don't do it.

 

[joseph_went_south]

I have several huge problems with this. First, I think it is completely nuts to be getting involved with women at your work. If the ***** is more important than the job, then fine, go for it. When things go sour, she will turn every woman and most of the guys against you in that place... is that the environment you want to be waking up to every morning? Like I said, if the ***** is more important than your career, then by all means, go for it.

Next problem is that in order to have sex with a woman she needs to feel safe that you KNOW how to bang her, from start to finish. You make love to a woman both mentally AND physically. Learn what this means. If you don't have the CONFIDENCE to escalate, then in her mind you don't have the ABILITY. Women don't want to be with men who don't know what they're doing.

Learn this equation and learn it well: for a woman, CONFIDENCE = ABILITY.

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[Dark Chivalry]

Do you need to know now? Date her and find out.

 

[sumat]

I have several huge problems with this. First, I think it is completely nuts to be getting involved with women at your work. If the ***** is more important than the job, then fine, go for it. When things go sour, she will turn every woman and most of the guys against you in that place... is that the environment you want to be waking up to every morning? Like I said, if the ***** is more important than your career, then by all means, go for it.

Next problem is that in order to have sex with a woman she needs to feel safe that you KNOW how to bang her, from start to finish. You make love to a woman both mentally AND physically. Learn what this means. If you don't have the CONFIDENCE to escalate, then in her mind you don't have the ABILITY. Women don't want to be with men who don't know what they're doing.

Learn this equation and learn it well: for a woman, CONFIDENCE = ABILITY.

The job is not a problem. It's just a summer thing that'll last a couple months. And we're both on the same level in the company.

I'm looking for a relationship, not just a hole to stick myself in.

Also, in response to AlphaOmega - I'd like to think I'm not totally repulsive.

 

[jmm854]

You've got her vagina up in the clouds. Come on dude you know better.

You can never worry about whether or not a chick is into you. Because she either will be or won't be, and there's not much you can do. But when you got that mentality that she wants your c*ck, it puts you in your most attractive attitude, where you have the best chance to succeed.

Girls agree to dates with men they want inside them and turn down/lie to c*ck they have no interest in. Act as if bro.

It's not hard to have sex with a beautiful woman. All you've gotta do is present yourself appealing and act different than the riff raff. It's finding the right relationship that's the *****.

 

[CompleteControl]

...First, I think it is completely nuts to be getting involved with women at your work....

While I agree you need to be careful about screwing women you work with - I disagree with your hard and fast rule "don't date women at work"

If you are a VP at IBM you probably shouldn't be banging your secretary - but if you are a fry cook at McDonalds - what the hell - go ahead and sleep with the cute cashiers, why not?

Additionally, I agree - If you are inexperienced and you have a career, it is a bad idea to start "gaming" girls where you work. However, if you are experienced with women, and you understand and are willing to deal with some possible negative consequences work can be a great place to meet quality women. (just be sure to abide by any company policies regarding dating and/or sexual harrasment)