Inter-racial relationships/flings/hook ups in the US

[Fuglydude]

Kind of a stupid question, but I've always wanted to know, so your opinion counts...

Me any my gf are inter-racial...i'm East indian (visible minority). My gf is caucasian. Even when I was single, I've always hooked up with mostly white women...a couple of asians, and a mix as well. Race doesn't really seem to be a factor in Canada, even though I live in the redneck part of the country.

Inter-racial relationships aren't a big deal here in Canada...but I've heard that in the US that inter-racial relationships are not as common. My friend says she and her coloured bf were stared at blatantly when they held hands in public.

Just wondering if there's any real palpable social stigma associated with inter-ratial relationships in the US...Would like to hear your thoughts and opinions.

 

[LostAndConfused]

It depends where your from. I go to a private school and theres probably only one interracial relationship each year. It's not unheard of but it certainly does turn heads.

I'm mixed race and it always brings attention when I'm out on a date with a white girl.

 

[The Bat]

I think your friend just has a bad experience, lives in a bad neighborhood, or cares too much about strangers. I mean, strangers stare at ANY couples. I think your friend just took it "blatantly" because she was with a colored bf and she is subconsciously "expecting" some "blatant stares". I bet if your friend was with a white bf, then she wouldn't get "blatant stares" simply because she isn't looking for any "blatant stares". Make sense?

I love my white women too. I come from an eastern culture and I find white women exotic. It's the whole being raised in a non-white culture that has made my perspective of white women as exotic and beautiful. Ironically, lot of white women told me that they find me exotic because they rarely meet an exotic, non-westerner, non-white guy as myself. /done gloating :rockon:

Anyway, I think the bigger issue might be inter-racial marriages. Not that it's an "issue" but it's just something different, y'know. Different can be viewed as good or bad depending on your prejudices and personal biases.

 

[youngwilliam]

I think a good place to start is not call us "colored". It's not 1935. Anyway, my wife looks white and I don't have any problems. I live in the Northeast though. I'm originally from the South, and believe me it's prevalent there. Just a matter of geographic location. But, I always know deep down I could give a rat's ass what they think.

 

[TheCandyMan3003]

i live in the south(georgia), and youngwilliam is right, it is a bigger deal down here than anywhere up north. even so, it is barely a big deal at all. inter-racial relationships aren't uncommon in a good sized town, but if you go to a smaller community in the middle of no where, yes, you will probably be looked down apon for it.

So no. I do not believe that, outside of butt-fvck county, there is any real social problem with inter-racial relationships in the U.S.

 

[justiceseeker]

Interracial relationships aren't really a big deal anywhere these days. A lot of times the couple who are in the relationship try to act like it's a big deal because one of the reasons they're in an interracial relationship is because they want to be controversial. (This mostly applies to white women)

I think most people stick with their same race. Of course there are exceptions, but the sterotype about all white women wanting to date black men only applies if she's of a certain weight category or socio-economic class.

Now some might say I'm being sterotypical, but it's the truth.

 

[Yce]

"Colored"?

I don't know whether to just laugh or shake my head in disbelief... Just say BLACK; it's OK.

 

[Effington]

I live in Chicago and it's pretty common. In the suburbs it's only rare because usually those communities are not as diverse.

In general I don't see a negative reaction towards seeing it in public, although I can imagine it may be different in the south. Yeah, I went there.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I live in Chicago and it's pretty common. In the suburbs it's only rare because usually those communities are not as diverse...

Which makes me believe that socio-economic separation has more weight than race. I see few interracial couples who span across socio-economic-geographic areas but more when they are share socio-economic similarities.

 

[Fuglydude]

"Colored"?

I don't know whether to just laugh or shake my head in disbelief... Just say BLACK; it's OK.

By colored I mean non-white or visible minority... i consider myself colored... i think its a much more universal term to encompass black, latino, asian, samoan, mixes, etc...

 

[SharinganUser]

Intra-racial dating is disturbing if you ask me. I have been with at least 4 Chinese girls and one Filipino, and I don't think I am going to date another white girl again for the rest of my life. Intra-racial dating is just a few genes to close to inbreeding.

 

[Wodan]

Intra-racial dating is disturbing if you ask me. I have been with at least 4 Chinese girls and one Filipino, and I don't think I am going to date another white girl again for the rest of my life. Intra-racial dating is just a few genes to close to inbreeding.

Thats a ridiculous statement. Are you trying to say that every person purely from one race is to some degree an inbred? Im white and ill always date only white because thats what i want.

Other people can cross over and stuff if they want thats theyre choice. I do however notice that families made in those circumstances often break apart, a good portion of my friends are mixed race 'black dad' 'white mum' none of them had theyre dad stick around, anyway thats just my personal experience im not saying it happens to everyone, im guessing it happens alot though.

 

[backbreaker]

lol, white people turn red when they are mad, purple when they hold their breath, pale when they die, and they call us colored (joke, laugh on queue)

in all seriousness, as most know i'm african american. my GF is white, british actually. We have the "look at us crazy in public" combo going. I'm black she's white. I'll be 25 in about 20 days and she's 33 and to top it off we have a 3 week old!

it is a big deal? only if you make it one. you are always going to have people like the poster above me, stop trying to make other people happy and do what you feel is right. I like her, she likes me. that's all that really matters and that's all I give a damn about.

however, very rarley have we ran into any REAL problems/disturbances. I mean it happens literarly once in a blue moon, but it's not that big a deal. we joke about it. I remember we went out when she was REALLY pregnant and this older woman was looking at her and at me and she blurts out "Yes it's his".

 

[nando]

Sometimes it is an issue, usually in the south, and I hate it when fat white girls think that just because I am black I will like their wobbly jelly asses and big bellies.

 

[SharinganUser]

Thats a ridiculous statement. Are you trying to say that every person purely from one race is to some degree an inbred? Im white and ill always date only white because thats what i want.

Other people can cross over and stuff if they want thats theyre choice. I do however notice that families made in those circumstances often break apart, a good portion of my friends are mixed race 'black dad' 'white mum' none of them had theyre dad stick around, anyway thats just my personal experience im not saying it happens to everyone, im guessing it happens alot though.

What's your point? I have many, many pure white friends that come from broken homes. Black people don't have the monopoly on bad marriages. In fact I would go so far as to say that having an inter-racial marriage can strengthen a relationship.

Personally, I looooooooove inter-racial relationships for various reasons, one being the cultural exchange. I like learning about people and different cultures, so that gives foreign women an edge over white women for me. If I want to learn a different language, then they can help me out more than someone who isn't from their culture.

I'd just rather not date someone that someone that looks like my sister, so that eliminates all Caucasian blondes, some brunettes, and unfortunately I think redheads are psychotic.

 

[Paradox]

I wish sometimes that these kinds of topics could be discussed but....I've already gotten Mod reports. People get offended for 1 reason or another when race issues are discussed. I have seen some questionable comments here, so...

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