Instead of nexting... Is this a good idea?

[silverwex]

So you kinda like a girl and she (as far as you know) likes you also.

Whenever you see/ring/talk to her she seems interested but shes not TOO interested.

Instead of NEXTING her straight away how about this...

Tell her: Hey listen, an ex of mine/a girl who i've met is really wanting to get with me, if you dont make up your mind im going off with her. So whats it to be?

I tried this a few years back and it NEARLY worked according to plan.

Any thoughts?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Sounds too much like an ultimatum and be prepared for the ch*ck to call your bluff. Plus, she might just read this as an act of desperation on your part. I don't think I would use this at all because it betrays the whole confidence/challenge/control thing in my mind.

 

[Slickster]

Sorry man but that is very lame. I can't see that approach working at all.

Giving an ultimatum isn't going to increase her IL.

Letting her know that you are exploring other options will.

 

[silverwex]

Cheers for the reply.

So how would you subtely (sp?) let her know that u are exploring other options?

 

[jonny football hero]

dont get to general......


Me: can't tommorow, going out with !nancy!.
HB: Nancy?
Me: yeah, (change the subject)

don't tell her who nancy is, just mention her.

 

[the_ajp]

Yeah that's a good one.

 

[Dukester]

dont think that is very good at all.
giving her an ultimatum, and putting her on the spot is not a good idea. if you make her choose right then and there, she will choose- NO.

you cant give girls ultimatums, otherwise they will backfire upon u.

best of luck to ya- if it works, congrats
if not- dont say we didnt tell ya

 

[MRomeo99]

Best way to dial up the intensity is to back off. Go have fun, do some stuff on your own. Have a blast, have a guinness for me.

Don't call her. Or if you do call her, tell her look I've gotta run, I'm going out with my mates. I'll call you tomorrow. Then don't call for two or three days.

The harder you lean in, the farther she'll lean back. And if you do finally call her after an extended absence and she still acts disinterested. NEXT.

HTH,

M

 

[silverwex]

thanks all

MRomeo99 ill have that pint of guiness for ya at the weekend!

 

[Paintballguy]

Personally when I feel a girl is losing interest and I don't have a chance, I LJBF her. Not only is it good to keep a hot chick around for social proof but for her hot friends.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by jonny football hero
dont get to general......


Me: can't tommorow, going out with !nancy!.
HB: Nancy?
Me: yeah, (change the subject)

don't tell her who nancy is, just mention her.

That's a good way to do it. Just bring up lots of names in casual conversation. Never elaborate on who they are.

Or better yet, actually BE going with other girls and it'll come up naturally.