So yesterday a girl whom i approached last week walked by me at the gym, i said hi and asked how shes doing ? She tells me everything is good, and i asked what her plans are for today ? She tells me shes gonna wash the car, visit the parents and in the evening go out ... I tell her great sounds like a good day to me.. "But before you do all that, lets take a cup of coffee here at the gym, what you say "? She smiles and says yes... i tell her iam done with my workout in like 10 min, she says "great , I'll go and get my jacket".
We talked for like 1 hour.... it went really smooth .. no awkward silence whatsoever. Then my phone rang, i answer and say: "yes iam coming in like 15 min" then i told the girl "hey i gotta go now, but before i go type in your diggts ... i gave her the phone, got the number.. Gave her a hug and we said goodbye...
That's a good approach. Gym approaching can be challenging, especially with the rampant use of earbuds/headphones.
Instantaneous dates are good. I've only had one instanteous date from a non-bar approach. I stopped a woman on a popular walking path in my city. After about 5 minutes of talking, we continued walking the path together for over an hour. Going on a walk together can be considered a date. After that, we did have a 2nd date in a bar but that was the end of that. 2 dates, no sex. She was a bit of a mediocre prospect anyway. Hope you get more out of your interaction.
I have never used a dating app in my life, and every girl whom i dated has been trough a cold approach first. To everyone here, please open yours eyes and uninstall Tinder etc... Your greatest "edge" against other guys is SELFCONFINDENCE , woman cant not help themself but to "admire" a man who have the balls to approach old school style, ask the question and get a yes or a no.
Good for you for never using a dating app in your life. You have saved yourself a lot of time, a lot of money, and a lot of emotional distress. You've had fewer "one date, no sex, no second date" type interactions, which is a cause of money loss and one component of emotional distress from the apps.
There are times where women will admire a man for doing old school approaches. I did an approach on some woman on the same walking path mentioned above. She agreed to go on a date with me, I got her number, but she flaked prior to the date. Many months later, I get a text from her saying that she was unemployed when I approached her and she ended up moving to another city for a job a few weeks after that. I was able to verify from her LinkedIn that she was not lying about the new job and relocation. She did tell me how she liked meeting me in such an unexpected way. She perceived it as unexpected. I was doing a weekend afternoon approach session.
You will see few stories like the one I told above. Most women won't give you any feedback about whether or not they admired you for having the guts to do the approach. Some women display very negative body language on approaches. On a different walking path, there was a time where I approached woman and asked her about the tourist destination on the shirt she was wearing. She sped up her walking and displayed extremely uncomfortable body language, acting as if I were some homeless man asking her for money in the Walmart parking lot. I found that incident unusual as I had showered right before that approach session, my clothes were clean, and this walking path was not in a ghetto area.
I agree with the advice of uninstalling apps and not swiping. No dates are better than the overwhelming majority of swipe app arranged dates.
100% more satisfying then any Tinder date.
Yes, I have felt this. When I have obtained a date from real life approaching, it has felt much better than when I have obtained a date from swiping or using a website (pre-swipe app era).
In the past, swipe app or website dates were easier to arrange than real life dates. I remember saying to myself at one time in the swipe app era that I could arrange as many first dates in 2 weeks on a swipe app as it would take in 3-4 months of real life approaching. Quantity was the only advantage there as the swipe app dates were generally garbage dates of the "one date, no sex, no second date" variety. I don't think those numbers would be true anymore as it is getting more difficult even to get the quantity of garbage dates from the apps.
