Instant clinger, red flag?

[shizz702]

Well had a funny unusual experience last night. Met this hb7 I'd say, maybe 7.5 on okcupid. Lots of flirty sexual texts prior to meeting, and she even sent me nude pics.

So date went well, her attraction for me was apparent and within no time she started going on and on complimenting me and saying I was just her type, tall, tats, muscles bla bla bla, and then towards the end of the night she was already hinting around about wanting to be my gf lol!

She was like I know it's early on, but what do you think about me, and what do you think about us, I said I think you ask too many questions.

It was funny cause I stayed kinda distant from her and didn't really show any attraction to her or compliment her and she kept persisting.

We hooked up off and on throughout the night as we bar hopped around a bit at a casino, and no doubt I could have f closed if I want to and i know she wants it but decided to call it early as I had to work the next day early.

After dropping her off like 10 min later she sent this text "Wow butterflies, words cannot express how I feel right now I am so thankful to meet you and thank you for such a great time."

I just replied saying I had a good time too and that I'd talk to her later.

Lol then she called, I didn't answer. And she then texted "I called and wanted to tell you good night doll! Sleep tight and dream of us having a naughty blast!"

Then she texted another nude pic.

And then first thing this morning she sent me a good morning text. And has been blowing my phone up ever since!

Lol 5 star clinger here fellas! What do you think? Red flags?

I've had attractions build fast before but never seen one come on this strong!

 

[Leopold]

:/ how do you do it?

May I see your profile so I can compare it to mines? PM it to me when you have a chance.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Well had a funny unusual experience last night. Met this hb7 I'd say, maybe 7.5 on okcupid. Lots of flirty sexual texts prior to meeting, and she even sent me nude pics.

So date went well, her attraction for me was apparent and within no time she started going on and on complimenting me and saying I was just her type, tall, tats, muscles bla bla bla, and then towards the end of the night she was already hinting around about wanting to be my gf lol!

She was like I know it's early on, but what do you think about me, and what do you think about us, I said I think you ask too many questions.

It was funny cause I stayed kinda distant from her and didn't really show any attraction to her or compliment her and she kept persisting.

We hooked up off and on throughout the night as we bar hopped around a bit at a casino, and no doubt I could have f closed if I want to and i know she wants it but decided to call it early as I had to work the next day early.

After dropping her off like 10 min later she sent this text "Wow butterflies, words cannot express how I feel right now I am so thankful to meet you and thank you for such a great time."

I just replied saying I had a good time too and that I'd talk to her later.

Lol then she called, I didn't answer. And she then texted "I called and wanted to tell you good night doll! Sleep tight and dream of us having a naughty blast!"

Then she texted another nude pic.

And then first thing this morning she sent me a good morning text. And has been blowing my phone up ever since!

Lol 5 star clinger here fellas! What do you think? Red flags?

I've had attractions build fast before but never seen one come on this strong!

Hahaha! Definitely stage 5 clinger material here bro!! LOL

But on the flip side, if she's pretty cute, sexxy and into you; ride the wave while meeting new women.

I don't see anything wrong with keeping her as a plate UNLESS you see her getting PSYCHO clingy in which case its better to stop before you even start.









PIMP

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

If you can stand her looks go ahead and see what this girl can offer you. She might be a good asset for you.

 

[shizz702]

:/ how do you do it?

May I see your profile so I can compare it to mines? PM it to me when you have a chance.

Everything you need to know brotha, I will pm you my profile though too:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=190409


My man AJ and pimpsicle! Yea bro stage 5 son! She ain't bad looking either, actually I showed some of my bros some pics of her and they dug her. She is just very lonely, just moved to the city 2 months ago, and obviously very clingy and needy right now.

Gonna keep her around for sure and spin this plate for a bit! She seems like she is gonna be a good lay and very open about her sexuality.

 

[spartanfan]

Damn Ninja is good!! Some great points about that mainly worthless POF site!

Anyway about this stage 5 clinger/stalker just be sure she isn't the psycho/crazy kind that thinks you only have eyes for her.

I have been there before with a beautiful and CRAZY puerto rican. When they find out you have been spinning other plates watch out because it usually backfires on you then you have to duck and run for cover hahaha. :cuss:

Good luck though man...

 

[Masculinity]

"Wow butterflies, words cannot express how I feel right now I am so thankful to meet you and thank you for such a great time."

I just replied saying I had a good time too and that I'd talk to her later.

Lol then she called, I didn't answer. And she then texted "I called and wanted to tell you good night doll! Sleep tight and dream of us having a naughty blast!"

Then she texted another nude pic.

And then first thing this morning she sent me a good morning text. And has been blowing my phone up ever since!

No bashing, but you have some growing up do to. Being a DJ is about being better men, not about reversing the tables for revenge and play the immature and manipulative games women play with men. If she is stalking you or being b!tchy, then you take the appropriate action, but this is a girl who is simply very interested in you. If you think she's clingy and you aren't interested, then just tell her that; it's simple dude, no need be an AW and lead her on.

This thread, it is actually quite similar to yours: thread

-Rob

 

[spartanfan]

Rob does have some good advice and its not all about degrading her or yourself as well by taking advantage of someone who you already said is lonely and just moved to your city. You have to respect her situation as well BUT if she turns out to be a psycho then you know what to do...

 

[window]

women who have a very high interest level demonstrate this behaviour...it's good. The thing for a guy is to not get sucked in to quickly. i.e take it slow and see if the girl is consistent over time...

 

[shizz702]

No bashing, but you have some growing up do to. Being a DJ is about being better men, not about reversing the tables for revenge and play the immature and manipulative games women play with men. If she is stalking you or being b!tchy, then you take the appropriate action, but this is a girl who is simply very interested in you. If you think she's clingy and you aren't interested, then just tell her that; it's simple dude, no need be an AW and lead her on.

This thread, it is actually quite similar to yours: thread

-Rob

Whoa, whoa take it easy bro!

I guess you gauged the context here wrong, I really was being humorous here, and in all intents and purposes plan on having fun with her and seeing where it goes. I just have never had one come on this strong so fast and wanted to get a little discussion going about the experience. I'm not playing any games with her. I am interested in her, but am just maintaing a bit of distance and not giving in too quick that's all.

I will say though it is at least nice to see a woman that knows what she wants. You get jaded after a while with all the hangups most chicks have and all the bs you got to go through at first with them.


Well, update here too, you guys are not going to believe this. She texted me today saying she booked a hotel for us, is treating me to dinner, and has a present for me.

Is this real life? :rock:


My only worry about this is though, I see she is totally infatuated with me, and I don't want to end up hurting her. Maybe this is just a little infatuation phase here initially and she will mellow out in time.

Don't know, just gonna have some good times with her and see where it goes.

 

[shizz702]

Rob does have some good advice and its not all about degrading her or yourself as well by taking advantage of someone who you already said is lonely and just moved to your city. You have to respect her situation as well BUT if she turns out to be a psycho then you know what to do...

Right, and I am cognizant of this and am keeping it in mind.

I will definitely be watching for those psycho signs too.

 

[spartanfan]

Hmmm... she has booked a hotel room for you and is treating you to dinner on her wow I wish I found that chick first. I don't know it does sound a little too good to be true because nothing is free these days especially Women!!

How old is this girl? Early 20's perhaps or in her early 30's?? I do like the older girls due to the infinite less baggage but I guess it all depends on each female.

Just make sure she doesn't have a long distance boyfriend or isn't married as well that is waiting to jump you in the parking lot. Sorry don't mean to be a total buzz kill just be careful though.

Good Luck and let us know how this whole setup goes....

 

[backbreaker]

i don't see the bigeal. this isn't.. i mean... this is how i generally expect a good date to end. t his is high interest. i know i know something most guys here aren't used to lo. maybe the nude is too far but, usually when i drop a gilt off and it went well she will call or email or something and be really into meto get back with me or call me. hell my ife called me 10 minutes after i dropped her off and wanted to see if i wanted to get together the next day.


a true clinger is a girl that pops up over your house unannounced who sends you love pomems and **** like that. this girl isnt' a clinger she's just into you.


actually, this is the type of girl that the guy messes up on the most because he assumes that because she is super high interested it's gong to be a slam dunk. but you have to still play the game the right way. stay busy, s don't come om too hard too fast, be a mystery, spin plates, make her show you why she is worth eating besides the fact she likes you. that's not good enough.

 

[shizz702]

I usually always generate high interest after first dates. In fact I typically kiss close and get a "had a great time" text an hour so post date.

In fact, the only time I can recall as of recent that I didn't do a second date with any of them would be because of me not wanting to.

I am just not used to this with the "what do you think about us" and the fowardness and abundance of compliments and all so early on. And the crack of dawn morning texts lol and blowing my phone up and all. She is just very forward and open with her interest, typically they are reserved and hide it (at least a little bit) early on lol.

She is 22. Very petite body, not curvy like I like them, but a pretty face though. She claims she won some pageant back in her home town when she was younger.

Will be updating fellas!

 

[floydb25]

There's 3 possibilities:

1.) She's infatuated. Infatuation causes people to go crazy, and become obsessive. Watch for signs that she is actually crazy and clingy; otherwise, no big deal.

2.) She's a commitment phobe. They lavish you with love and attention; talk about all these long-term plans - then disappear from the map - only to keep coming back and leaving time and again. The stronger they come on - the quicker they leave. Pay attention to her past, and any issues she has.

3.) She's a player. They like to come on strong and make you feel super special; like the best thing that ever happened to them. They are very aggressive, forward, and don't give you time to breathe or think. It's all peaches and roses, or so you think. Don't get caught up in this, start spilling your heart, and keep your eyes and ears open at all times. They want you to do the opposite, and become infatuated with THEM. Don't fall for this. Remember: if something seems too good to be true - it usually is.

One thing, though. How you are acting up to this point is working, and making her crazy about you. Don't go against the grain, and start reciprocating her enthusiasm, or she'll probably lose interest. Don't start acting all relationshipy towards her. Keep the challenge going as you have been, and let her chase. She only wants you to be her husband or whatever, because you're NOT acting like one. This makes her want you more. Keep it up.

 

[Masculinity]

I usually always generate high interest after first dates. In fact I typically kiss close and get a "had a great time" text an hour so post date.

In fact, the only time I can recall as of recent that I didn't do a second date with any of them would be because of me not wanting to.

If this is true, then well done. There is always room for learning. How do you do it?

 

[shizz702]

There's 3 possibilities:

1.) She's infatuated. Infatuation causes people to go crazy, and become obsessive. Watch for signs that she is actually crazy and clingy; otherwise, no big deal.

2.) She's a commitment phobe. They lavish you with love and attention; talk about all these long-term plans - then disappear from the map - only to keep coming back and leaving time and again. The stronger they come on - the quicker they leave. Pay attention to her past, and any issues she has.

3.) She's a player. They like to come on strong and make you feel super special; like the best thing that ever happened to them. They are very aggressive, forward, and don't give you time to breathe or think. It's all peaches and roses, or so you think. Don't get caught up in this, start spilling your heart, and keep your eyes and ears open at all times. They want you to do the opposite, and become infatuated with THEM. Don't fall for this. Remember: if something seems too good to be true - it usually is.

One thing, though. How you are acting up to this point is working, and making her crazy about you. Don't go against the grain, and start reciprocating her enthusiasm, or she'll probably lose interest. Don't start acting all relationshipy towards her. Keep the challenge going as you have been, and let her chase. She only wants you to be her husband or whatever, because you're NOT acting like one. This makes her want you more. Keep it up.

floyd I got to give you credit you post some solid stuff. I'm on the fence at this point as it is impossible for me to really know what she's thinking but she definitely falls into one of those categories.

Now on to being a challenge: Get this, I went to my buddy's place and was chilling with him and having a few brews. Didn't bother to check my phone and when I did noticed I had a text from her like an hr ago saying "baby."

So I just sent her a text loling about how I just put away a xxxl at fatburger, I guess that is quite a feat cause you get your picture on the wall for doing it.

Then she responded saying can I call you. I said no I'm with a friend. So she said awe I miss talking to you.

Then like an hr later she texted asking what I'm doing. Then she texted saying am I the only girl she is seeing. WOW!

So I said look I'm having some brews with a friend, we got a good thing going don't **** it up!

Then she responding saying sorry babe.

Left it at that and didn't respond. I can't deal with this constant texting ****. I got friends I see on regular basis and don't want to deal with texting when I'm with other chicks.

I don't know this may be more headaches than pleasure. Gonna have to keep her in line and maintain a healthy distance.

 

[shizz702]

If this is true, then well done. There is always room for learning. How do you do it?

I have no reason to lie or brag, just speaking from experience.

Fortunately I have height, looks (or so I've been told), and a muscular build so these things obviously help.

But aside from that, I've learned to drop all anxiety and utilize a positive attitude in the sense that I'm simply going to have a good time with them, rather than try to prove myself.

I maintain that fountain of youth and go on action dates, doing things like theme parks, bowling, miniature golf, and the latest thing I've been doing they have been eating up (this is usually by a third date though, def not a first) is taking them shooting in an indoor range.

Doing that kind of stuff makes you stand out from the crowd, everyone does drinks and dinner (I still do too, but always opt for action dates over them) but if you can bring the little girl out from her and get her to let loose, laugh, and have fun, you got her.

Think about it, and this has actually happened with me several times. You go on that roller coaster together, you scream and laugh and have fun, you hop out next thing you know you are hugging her and you are both relieved it's over and getting all touchey, then you're holding hands, and well you see where it goes from there.

Same thing with like bowling, right out the gate with it you high five her between rolls, then you give her a hug when she gets a strike. Then after the game you say let's grab a drink at the bar near by, she agrees, you offer her your hand and go, and then from there if she went for the hand hold you know you got her and escalate a make out session at the bar.

One SURE method I've found in kiss closing on first dates is the hand hold. If you don't find a moment during the date, this is a guaranteed winner: when it is time to end the night, say ok I will walk you to your car then, and stick your hand out going for the hand hold. If she accepts without any obvious objections this breaks the touch barrier and confirms the attraction.

Once you get her to her car, it is critical to hold that hug, she will pull back cause she ain't going to initiate, so when she does, hold the hug and look her in the eyes, she'll know what's up :rock:

The main thing I've learned from this site and pook is that fountain of youth, and learning to let go of anxiety or expectations. We are DJs and we are offering these women a solid alpha male that will make an awesome addition to their lives.

I've had several chicks comment on my masuclinity and how they love how I don't take ****, but at the same time have tons of fun with them. When you go see a woman for the first time think to yourself I'm simply gonna have fun and enjoy myself and show her a good time. It ain't just about what you say or do, it's about how you make them feel.

As DJs we are above the fray, the typical beta afcs that don't know how to embrace being both a jerk and a nice guy, carrying that alpha demeanor, remember you are the prize, and have her qualify herself to you, knowing you are a respectable, fun guy that knows what a woman wants, and if she ain't feeling you, oh well her loss.

 

[rhcp83]

Make no mistake man, this is all about your looks, thus her wanting to meet you instantly, sending you nude pics, then in person saying "you're my type exactly...muscular, tattoos etc."

This girl is clinging to you because she thinks you're really hot and is probably trying to trap you with sex. 7s can land really hot guys but have to stand apart from the crowd to get what they want from him (LTR) and she's doing everything she thinks will work on you (give you sex early on) to try to trap you.

Sounds like not only a stage 5 clinger, but a psycho. I'd watch out very carefully.

Usually women that are more normal or used to dating really good looking guys don't act this way. If anything they're the ones dumping the guy or playing games.

 

[MagickMan]

I'd say this is an interesting situation to be in, she sounds genuinely interested in you.
Don't worry, the chances of you waking up with your balls super-glued to your thighs are very slim.