The Experience
Don Juan
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Who isn’t getting tired of the regurgitation that’s been going on, but people will never learn till it’s too late. Or at least they’ll head in the wrong direction before realizing that they have problems.
This post is an attempt to give the same information just in a different way.
Why are you whining?
With 6.7 BILLION people on Earth chances are everything you’ve ever thought about, dreamt about, have done, wanted to do, never got to do, wished you could do has already been done before. You may think your problems are horrible, excruciating, and just plain unforgiving, but you couldn’t be further from the truth. These ‘problems’ that you have are bad, sure, but just being on this website and trying to better yourself can only mean that your problems may come to an end. Realize that if you didn’t find this information you would be going down the same path, learning at a much slower rate, with an even slower success rate and you would be angry at yourself if you failed, instead of knowing that each failure is really a success in disguise. If you ever feel down remember where you were before you had such knowledge at hand and let that fuel you. So have patience, fixing yourself is never an easy thing to do. Think about your problem and know that there IS somebody out there who wishes that they had that chance to be in your shoes. They probably think your ‘problem’ is pathetic or just wimpy and that they could do better if they had the chance. So use your chance, have patience and keep motivating yourself when fixing your CHARACTER FLAWS.
*I would always tell myself to never stay stagnant. This is the thought I had going in my head whenever I was not out living life.
*If you do not make your own opportunities, then you MUST take EVERY opportunity you are given, until you start to do so.
On the pedestalization of women:
Treat them like you treat your hobbies.
Ex:
Basketball and I have been together for many, many years. I first saw basketball at the park and she looked amazing, displaying so much energy and liveliness. After some time of admiring her, she moved to my drive way, which was a great deal. It took me, for what seemed like forever, to go up and introduce myself, but it turned out to be a less frightening experience than what I had expected. In the beginning she was intimidating, since I felt like I would never be able to match her in all her qualities sort of that ‘lesser than her feeling’. And, I just wasn’t sure how things were supposed to work out. Was I supposed to dribble and shoot, shoot and dribble, or just keep shooting? There were so many things that would go through my mind, being extremely nervous and unsure of myself. As I kept going out to my drive way to meet basketball, we would be glad to see each other, but I’d still be a bit nervous each time. Although, with every encounter I would get more comfortable being with her and I would start habituating. Now the questions shifted from the basics of dribbling and shooting to whether or not to dribble and lay it up or dribble and jump shot? With the new choices that I was able to see, I had also created more problems which enabled the lingering butterflies to stay in my stomach. I would be worried about making the correct choice and not learning and moving forward if I made a mistake. I would think that I needed some new shoes or shorts that would impress basketball and my problems would be fixed, but in reality, it was all the same to her. I eventually got up the courage to ask basketball out. We went to my local gym for our first night out. When we arrived it was a bit crowded inside and some other people actually had their own basketball, which added to my uneasiness as I would compare myself to them. But going forward, it was only until I did things that I wanted to do instead of just thinking whether to dribble or to shoot. I would let it come natural to me which it started to after going through all the mistakes I had made in the beginning. Now it was natural. Now it was fun.
This post is an attempt to give the same information just in a different way.
Why are you whining?
With 6.7 BILLION people on Earth chances are everything you’ve ever thought about, dreamt about, have done, wanted to do, never got to do, wished you could do has already been done before. You may think your problems are horrible, excruciating, and just plain unforgiving, but you couldn’t be further from the truth. These ‘problems’ that you have are bad, sure, but just being on this website and trying to better yourself can only mean that your problems may come to an end. Realize that if you didn’t find this information you would be going down the same path, learning at a much slower rate, with an even slower success rate and you would be angry at yourself if you failed, instead of knowing that each failure is really a success in disguise. If you ever feel down remember where you were before you had such knowledge at hand and let that fuel you. So have patience, fixing yourself is never an easy thing to do. Think about your problem and know that there IS somebody out there who wishes that they had that chance to be in your shoes. They probably think your ‘problem’ is pathetic or just wimpy and that they could do better if they had the chance. So use your chance, have patience and keep motivating yourself when fixing your CHARACTER FLAWS.
*I would always tell myself to never stay stagnant. This is the thought I had going in my head whenever I was not out living life.
*If you do not make your own opportunities, then you MUST take EVERY opportunity you are given, until you start to do so.
On the pedestalization of women:
Treat them like you treat your hobbies.
Ex:
Basketball and I have been together for many, many years. I first saw basketball at the park and she looked amazing, displaying so much energy and liveliness. After some time of admiring her, she moved to my drive way, which was a great deal. It took me, for what seemed like forever, to go up and introduce myself, but it turned out to be a less frightening experience than what I had expected. In the beginning she was intimidating, since I felt like I would never be able to match her in all her qualities sort of that ‘lesser than her feeling’. And, I just wasn’t sure how things were supposed to work out. Was I supposed to dribble and shoot, shoot and dribble, or just keep shooting? There were so many things that would go through my mind, being extremely nervous and unsure of myself. As I kept going out to my drive way to meet basketball, we would be glad to see each other, but I’d still be a bit nervous each time. Although, with every encounter I would get more comfortable being with her and I would start habituating. Now the questions shifted from the basics of dribbling and shooting to whether or not to dribble and lay it up or dribble and jump shot? With the new choices that I was able to see, I had also created more problems which enabled the lingering butterflies to stay in my stomach. I would be worried about making the correct choice and not learning and moving forward if I made a mistake. I would think that I needed some new shoes or shorts that would impress basketball and my problems would be fixed, but in reality, it was all the same to her. I eventually got up the courage to ask basketball out. We went to my local gym for our first night out. When we arrived it was a bit crowded inside and some other people actually had their own basketball, which added to my uneasiness as I would compare myself to them. But going forward, it was only until I did things that I wanted to do instead of just thinking whether to dribble or to shoot. I would let it come natural to me which it started to after going through all the mistakes I had made in the beginning. Now it was natural. Now it was fun.
