( Inside a woman's mind)3 typical dating prospects.

[Gamisch]

Came across this funny post on Reddit. Nothing new here, just another insight in a 30+ y o womans dating life.

Funny thing, she likes the 3rd guy, but taking initiative and making moves is a language she doesn't speak. Even though 3rd guy sounds like her ideal match, the power of attraction for these other guys makes the situation blurry at best ( ofcourse she doesnt talk about that ).

What do you guys think?

 

[member160292]

I'm guy #3 and probably lost a couple good ones being so. The question is, does she take the initiative to reach out if she is so into him?

I also think that she was used to the desperate original guy and wants some sort of balance. You can offer a balance, but not after only 2 dates

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Either 2) or 3)...probably get strung along longer by 3 if he's a Chad. Girls after 25 start to figure out players and just ghost them after the first date.

 

[Gamisch]

I'm guy #3 and probably lost a couple good ones being so. The question is, does she take the initiative to reach out if she is so into him?

I also think that she was used to the desperate original guy and wants some sort of balance. You can offer a balance, but not after only 2 dates

I think most guys can relate with #3. Calling yourself Hollywood esque cute is a little bit much, and being #2 is a you got it or you don't type of characteristic. Mind you, she still likes #2!

3 is a man choosing for himself. Testing the water, not making to much compromises yet. Maybe even a case of genuinely liking the girl and taking it slow .

If the woman is related (sister mother daughter ect) we would most likely advice her to go for #3. But then sosuave wouldn't exist.

 

[SW15]

I would only see 1 or 2 as the ones who would produce the most vaginal tingles. 3 is a solid boyfriend option but he is seriously lacking in seduction skill. He's a subset of a normal white collar guy. He's a white collar guy who works way too many hours.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I would only see 1 or 2 as the ones who would produce the most vaginal tingles. 3 is a solid boyfriend option but he is seriously lacking in seduction skill. He's a subset of a normal white collar guy. He's a white collar guy who works way too many hours.

What if the guy is a Chad doctor or lawyer lol.

 

[Velasco]

I'm a combination of the 3. Without the bad parts.

Don't care who she picks tbh

 

[Mike32ct]

What if the guy is a Chad doctor or lawyer lol.

Haha. I would just suggest that #3 is not necessarily that good looking.

“Brilliant, studious and common interests” => She’s dancing around the looks issue. He’s HTN at best.

 

[Gamisch]

What if the guy is a Chad doctor or lawyer lol.

He is not. #1 and 2 might be Chad- esque . Doctor, lawyer, pilot are " cool" jobs, but other than that she doesn't care what job you got apparently.

Ironically enough #3 SEEMS like the most reliable prospect; he works a lot ( future orientated), calls everyday and " respects" her intimacy by taking it slow. Yet she complains mostly about him while the other 2 guys get away with a lot more.

She wants a BF , a Fackboy and a provider at once.

 

[SW15]

She wants a BF , a Fackboy and a provider at once.

Not happening. But that's why it is called dating over thirty. Women don't lower their standards in their 30s to reflect declining market value.

 

[Mike32ct]

I like Mr. #3, but he’s bordering on getting friendzoned if he doesn’t make a move soon.

1. He’s perhaps quite shy/nervous

and/or

2. He’s purposely stalling on getting physical because he’s worried about ED due to some combination of the following:

a) he’s very stressed with work or exhausted;

b) dry spell maxxed; and/or

c) consumed too much phorn on the side.

 

[Gamisch]

Not happening. But that's why it is called dating over thirty. Women don't lower their standards in their 30s to reflect declining market value.

Now I think about it, I should've talk about HER (possible) SMV in my OP . seems like she is mwah, a 5, 7 at best. Like she knows damn well that #3 is her best option, and the other two are out of her league. Especially #2 seems to openly look down on her already haha.

I like Mr. #3, but he’s bordering on getting friendzoned if he doesn’t make a move soon.

1. He’s perhaps quite shy/nervous

and/or

2. He’s purposely stalling on getting physical because he’s worried about ED due to some combination of the following:

a) he’s very stressed with work or exhausted;

b) dry spell maxxed; and/or

c) consumed too much phorn on the side.

He WILL get cheated on. Bet the farm on that. Unfortunately she is over 30 ,but still thinks like a 21 year old girl. Option a and b could be fixed, and could be explainable. You'd expect a grown woman to understand this.

 

[SW15]

Now I think about it, I should've talk about HER (possible) SMV in my OP . seems like she is mwah, a 5, 7 at best. Like she knows damn well that #3 is her best option, and the other two are out of her league. Especially #2 seems to openly look down ok her already haha.

You know women hate settling. The feminists have been telling women "Never Settle!" for decades. #3 is her best option, but he's boring Beta Bob. While some white collar betas don't work too many hours, this particular beta does work a lot of hours.

I like Mr. #3, but he’s bordering on getting friendzoned if he doesn’t make a move soon.

1. He’s perhaps quite shy/nervous

and/or

2. He’s purposely stalling on getting physical because he’s worried about ED due to some combination of the following:

a) he’s very stressed with work or exhausted;

b) dry spell maxxed; and/or

c) consumed too much phorn on the side.

It's way more likely to be cause 2. A guy in his 30s has been dating for 15-20 years. That is enough time to diminish nervousness.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

#3 could also be spinning plates, and going for the long game think about it. He could be love bombing, yet settings things up to only see her once a week…

it has been done to great effect in the past…

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm guy #3 and probably lost a couple good ones being so. The question is, does she take the initiative to reach out if she is so into him?

I also think that she was used to the desperate original guy and wants some sort of balance. You can offer a balance, but not after only 2 dates

And I'm the dude she starts seeing when she goes cold on you

 

[member160292]

And I'm the dude she starts seeing when she goes cold on you

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

People pursue people who aren't pursing them.

#3 seems to understand this.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I must be in the rarity because I know plenty of Chad Surgeons and Lawyers that are always walking and teasing girls in those scenarios. I specified those careers because a basic analyst or blue collar job doesn't really wet da panties.

 

[RangerMIke]

I'm somewhere between 1 and 3. I like to make money: I like to play... IMO the 'workaholic' has no time management skills. It's about working smart... delegating.

Chicks hate workaholics because they don't know how to manage their time or how to say no. They are worst than aggravating they have no fvcking life.

 

[member160292]

I'm somewhere between 1 and 3. I like to make money: I like to play... IMO the 'workaholic' has no time management skills. It's about working smart... delegating.

Chicks hate workaholics because they don't know how to manage their time or how to say no. They are worst than aggravating they have no fvcking life.

Workaholic in this case is what a woman describes someone who she is very much interested in and does not show the intended interest that she was expecting. Remember, this reddit post is from a female perspective.

#3 dude can easily show affection, but it does not follow his plan in life. He's chooses to live life the way he wants, with or without this chick that decided to make a post. There's a reason why he is last in the order she listed and not the first AKA her final thought