Brazilian_Blues_Boy
Master Don Juan
1 - The End
Well, let us begin, or should I say, let us end these series.
It's been great sharing my thoughts with you, and getting all that positive feedback.
Now you stayed with me through the hard time and it's time for the reward.
2 - A Discovery
Dear brothers, I have a confession to make.
In this last week, I was born again. Another BBB appeared.
After thinking about all the things that led me to these series, I felt worried. Really worried. Why?
Because I didn't know what to do next... I saw my friends in need of help, my social life on hold, no goals and no news.
I felt worried. For as funny as it sounds, I felt like I went back to the beginnning of everything... I had nothing and knew nothing...
Seriously, I know you all have felt, or will feel this way eventually... you'll know so much, and you'll change so much, that you just can't grasp at how's the future going to be like.
It's like if you went back, and knew nothing anymore, knew anyone anymore.
Because... your concepts are different... you old reality was based on your old concepts... how can you know how is your new reality going to be?
And the people you know... how can you know, that you'll relate to them in the same way you used to? Your values have changed... maybe theirs have changed too... how's it gonna be?
3 - A Blessing
A couple of days ago, while I was taking a shower, it finally crossed my mind... I was very worried, looking for help, advice and some enlightment to take me out of this maze... I stopped to think about what, in all the things my dear natural DJ friend told could actually be useful now?
I wasn't finding anything... until two things crossed my mind...
4 - The two things
a-) The "Try" speech
I covered this already in my post "I'm winning", but now it has taken a completely new dimension.
My friend told me once, that whenever you wanted something very hard... you should be determined to the extremes... for an example, he used a girl...
(he told this to a friend of mine, who had one-itis)
" ... if you like that girl man, go there and try! Have you tried? Are you whining because you called her 5 times, asked her out, talked to all of her friends, waited some time, then tried again, it didn't work, then you waited more time and it still didn't work out?
Or haven't you REALLY TRIED yet?
You have to try man... if you want her badly, persist! Try to kiss her 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 times !!
And in the meanwhile, don't abandon the other girls... try with 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 other girls too !!
You're giving up too easily... whenever I wanted a girl so bad, I tried 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 times... and you know what?
Sometimes they were all nos... but the eleventh was a YES.
So, are you really determined? Are you willing to do whatever it takes, and to have patience and to continue living and meeting new women, or are you gonna just sit there, and cry like a sissy girl?
There's no such thing as trying too much, when you know HOW to try... Real persistence will give you success man... if you really like her, then persist !! Wait !! What is better, getting her 2 months for now, or ruining everything and never getting her??
Try MAN !! Feel the real determination inside you... if that's what you want so much... then persist as much as you want her... "
b-) A Song
My friend would love a brazilian song... especially the first verses of it... which I will share with you:
" You have no idea of how much I've travelled
To end up getting here
I ran for miles and miles before getting some sleep
I couldn't even take a nap "
Well, reading it here, doesn't seem so bright... I never found myself too much meaning in it until this light turned on inside of my head...
Our goals are the end of the road. We enter this road not knowing how to drive, not having anyone else to support us...
Some wander alone, and without destination, for a long time, before they learn the shortcuts on their own, or they eventually give up, settle up for a regular life, and abandon the road.
But we have found the Blueprints... we have found a guide, written by experienced drivers, who gives all the hints of how the roads goes, its nuances, its shortcuts.
But, noone can guide you till the end of your road. Because the road ends at a different point for every individual.
You can follow someone around, but eventually you'll have to face the most particular, and most challenging part alone.
So, there are shortcuts on the road, there are easier ways to reach your primary goals... but the bigger goal, the final one... is at the end of the road... and to go there, you have to go alone, run for miles and miles, get tired, get pis$ed and almost loose all hopes, until you finally get there.
The road is long, and unfortunately, you're not the only one controlling your advances... specially because your advances will very often envolve other people...
And it is good, because you'll have friends and allies by your side... but when you reach the final stretch, you're alone.
And that's a blessing... because each mile you thread, you gain knowledge... you gain experience...
If you're really determined, and if you really persist, you'll get to the end of the road...
And the end of the road is something I want to approach more in a next chapter.
5 - So?
Try and persist, for real !
Do not say: Yes, I'm really going to try, and then when the moments comes let every opportunity pass you by... enough with that...
Take the shortcuts, when you feel you're not ready, but know that the real challenge awaits you... and there are no shortcuts to that.
6 - Bruce Almighty
Nice movie right? I watched it twice, and found a gem, that is said by "God" :
- Handwork is a blessing, it purifies a man. Some of the most happy people I know come home smelling to heaven's..
Well, this is not verbatim, excuse my memory
The point of it is: whenever you're feeling down, go do some hand work. ( this does not include masturbation )
Clean your room, take care of your garden, do the dishes, go play some soccer, or take a walk through the park, or even take a swim!
Activities like these get you closer to nature, to your environment, and give you a great feeling that can't be described, only felt.
Who never felt great after two hours of hard work, and then your room is finally clean and organized. Sweet huh?
Sometimes we get so caught up with studying, going after girls, working, that we forget to take five minutes to interact with Mother Nature.
Seriously, I know this sound silly, but, the feeling is greater than most of all we're accostumied to.
7 - The Road. Part II
So... the end of the road... is very hard... lots of sweat, blood, tears, worries and time spent.
But... it holds the reward we want so much. Even if we change our minds in the middle of the way, the reward will always be sweet... and if it isn't, the lessons learned along the road are worth the effort.
The experience you'll have, will give you ultimate confidence and knowledge for going for new goals... we just need to run, on and on... with persistance, trying a lot, failing, stopping, going again, until we finally reach the end of the road, be its end where you want it to be.
Determination. You can't put that into an injection and inject it on yourself... or into the others... you have to enable it by yourself.
8 - Yes, now I see it !
Yes, now you see it! You came back to the beggining. The starting point... the judge is about to fire the gun... and you have all this self-knowledge to help you reach the end of the road... sometimes you can skip parts that you know well, while other parts you may want to run twice, so that you finally understand them.
And you won't be alone !! You'll have us, maybe your friends too!
Whenever you need hints, you'll eventually find it... even if it is on your own!
9 - Turn off the PC and embrace life!
No, not yet!
Be careful, not to get too fast to soon, because you may get tired earlier than you thought you would... and it will delay you a lot...
keep your own pace, until you can make it faster... and when you feel that it's necessary, slow down a bit!
10 - Okay, now you can go!!
Yeah... for now, I don't have much more to say... the road metaphor was the best I could think of... maybe because I live near a big road, and I take it everyday to go to school... it has become a part of me... so, now, it's the moment of truth.
I can't do much more for you now... as I can't motivate myself any further either... always have in the back of your mind, those who would be proud of you, and those who will be waiting for you there in the end.
Whenever you feel down... go take a swim, or a walk, or even clean up your room... you'll automatically recover your forces and your drive.
11 - One last secret.
There's one thing, that is very childish, yet is very delightfull, and very revigorating for your spirit.
It's simple, free, but only happens ocasionally, so you better enjoy it when it appears to you.
It is...
Getting soaked with the rain!!
I know you expected something better, but honestly, after you allow yourself to feel completely the experience of a good rain wash, you'll see life with other eyes.
Once again, I fail to describe the feeling with words... forgive my ignorance... but like hand work, this one you have to feel.
I didn't give much attention to this, but some months ago, I stayed out when it was raining, and man, it felt awesome. I felt like being born again... for free... sometimes, all we need is just a simple "session" of cold water over our heads... to feel fresh and ready to hit the road again!
Well, let us begin, or should I say, let us end these series.
It's been great sharing my thoughts with you, and getting all that positive feedback.
Now you stayed with me through the hard time and it's time for the reward.
2 - A Discovery
Dear brothers, I have a confession to make.
In this last week, I was born again. Another BBB appeared.
After thinking about all the things that led me to these series, I felt worried. Really worried. Why?
Because I didn't know what to do next... I saw my friends in need of help, my social life on hold, no goals and no news.
I felt worried. For as funny as it sounds, I felt like I went back to the beginnning of everything... I had nothing and knew nothing...
Seriously, I know you all have felt, or will feel this way eventually... you'll know so much, and you'll change so much, that you just can't grasp at how's the future going to be like.
It's like if you went back, and knew nothing anymore, knew anyone anymore.
Because... your concepts are different... you old reality was based on your old concepts... how can you know how is your new reality going to be?
And the people you know... how can you know, that you'll relate to them in the same way you used to? Your values have changed... maybe theirs have changed too... how's it gonna be?
3 - A Blessing
A couple of days ago, while I was taking a shower, it finally crossed my mind... I was very worried, looking for help, advice and some enlightment to take me out of this maze... I stopped to think about what, in all the things my dear natural DJ friend told could actually be useful now?
I wasn't finding anything... until two things crossed my mind...
4 - The two things
a-) The "Try" speech
I covered this already in my post "I'm winning", but now it has taken a completely new dimension.
My friend told me once, that whenever you wanted something very hard... you should be determined to the extremes... for an example, he used a girl...
(he told this to a friend of mine, who had one-itis)
" ... if you like that girl man, go there and try! Have you tried? Are you whining because you called her 5 times, asked her out, talked to all of her friends, waited some time, then tried again, it didn't work, then you waited more time and it still didn't work out?
Or haven't you REALLY TRIED yet?
You have to try man... if you want her badly, persist! Try to kiss her 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 times !!
And in the meanwhile, don't abandon the other girls... try with 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 other girls too !!
You're giving up too easily... whenever I wanted a girl so bad, I tried 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 times... and you know what?
Sometimes they were all nos... but the eleventh was a YES.
So, are you really determined? Are you willing to do whatever it takes, and to have patience and to continue living and meeting new women, or are you gonna just sit there, and cry like a sissy girl?
There's no such thing as trying too much, when you know HOW to try... Real persistence will give you success man... if you really like her, then persist !! Wait !! What is better, getting her 2 months for now, or ruining everything and never getting her??
Try MAN !! Feel the real determination inside you... if that's what you want so much... then persist as much as you want her... "
b-) A Song
My friend would love a brazilian song... especially the first verses of it... which I will share with you:
" You have no idea of how much I've travelled
To end up getting here
I ran for miles and miles before getting some sleep
I couldn't even take a nap "
Well, reading it here, doesn't seem so bright... I never found myself too much meaning in it until this light turned on inside of my head...
Our goals are the end of the road. We enter this road not knowing how to drive, not having anyone else to support us...
Some wander alone, and without destination, for a long time, before they learn the shortcuts on their own, or they eventually give up, settle up for a regular life, and abandon the road.
But we have found the Blueprints... we have found a guide, written by experienced drivers, who gives all the hints of how the roads goes, its nuances, its shortcuts.
But, noone can guide you till the end of your road. Because the road ends at a different point for every individual.
You can follow someone around, but eventually you'll have to face the most particular, and most challenging part alone.
So, there are shortcuts on the road, there are easier ways to reach your primary goals... but the bigger goal, the final one... is at the end of the road... and to go there, you have to go alone, run for miles and miles, get tired, get pis$ed and almost loose all hopes, until you finally get there.
The road is long, and unfortunately, you're not the only one controlling your advances... specially because your advances will very often envolve other people...
And it is good, because you'll have friends and allies by your side... but when you reach the final stretch, you're alone.
And that's a blessing... because each mile you thread, you gain knowledge... you gain experience...
If you're really determined, and if you really persist, you'll get to the end of the road...
And the end of the road is something I want to approach more in a next chapter.
5 - So?
Try and persist, for real !
Do not say: Yes, I'm really going to try, and then when the moments comes let every opportunity pass you by... enough with that...
Take the shortcuts, when you feel you're not ready, but know that the real challenge awaits you... and there are no shortcuts to that.
6 - Bruce Almighty
Nice movie right? I watched it twice, and found a gem, that is said by "God" :
- Handwork is a blessing, it purifies a man. Some of the most happy people I know come home smelling to heaven's..
Well, this is not verbatim, excuse my memory
The point of it is: whenever you're feeling down, go do some hand work. ( this does not include masturbation
)Clean your room, take care of your garden, do the dishes, go play some soccer, or take a walk through the park, or even take a swim!
Activities like these get you closer to nature, to your environment, and give you a great feeling that can't be described, only felt.
Who never felt great after two hours of hard work, and then your room is finally clean and organized. Sweet huh?
Sometimes we get so caught up with studying, going after girls, working, that we forget to take five minutes to interact with Mother Nature.
Seriously, I know this sound silly, but, the feeling is greater than most of all we're accostumied to.
7 - The Road. Part II
So... the end of the road... is very hard... lots of sweat, blood, tears, worries and time spent.
But... it holds the reward we want so much. Even if we change our minds in the middle of the way, the reward will always be sweet... and if it isn't, the lessons learned along the road are worth the effort.
The experience you'll have, will give you ultimate confidence and knowledge for going for new goals... we just need to run, on and on... with persistance, trying a lot, failing, stopping, going again, until we finally reach the end of the road, be its end where you want it to be.
Determination. You can't put that into an injection and inject it on yourself... or into the others... you have to enable it by yourself.
8 - Yes, now I see it !
Yes, now you see it! You came back to the beggining. The starting point... the judge is about to fire the gun... and you have all this self-knowledge to help you reach the end of the road... sometimes you can skip parts that you know well, while other parts you may want to run twice, so that you finally understand them.
And you won't be alone !! You'll have us, maybe your friends too!
Whenever you need hints, you'll eventually find it... even if it is on your own!
9 - Turn off the PC and embrace life!
No, not yet!
Be careful, not to get too fast to soon, because you may get tired earlier than you thought you would... and it will delay you a lot...
keep your own pace, until you can make it faster... and when you feel that it's necessary, slow down a bit!
10 - Okay, now you can go!!
Yeah... for now, I don't have much more to say... the road metaphor was the best I could think of... maybe because I live near a big road, and I take it everyday to go to school... it has become a part of me... so, now, it's the moment of truth.
I can't do much more for you now... as I can't motivate myself any further either... always have in the back of your mind, those who would be proud of you, and those who will be waiting for you there in the end.
Whenever you feel down... go take a swim, or a walk, or even clean up your room... you'll automatically recover your forces and your drive.
11 - One last secret.
There's one thing, that is very childish, yet is very delightfull, and very revigorating for your spirit.
It's simple, free, but only happens ocasionally, so you better enjoy it when it appears to you.
It is...
Getting soaked with the rain!!
I know you expected something better, but honestly, after you allow yourself to feel completely the experience of a good rain wash, you'll see life with other eyes.
Once again, I fail to describe the feeling with words... forgive my ignorance... but like hand work, this one you have to feel.
I didn't give much attention to this, but some months ago, I stayed out when it was raining, and man, it felt awesome. I felt like being born again... for free... sometimes, all we need is just a simple "session" of cold water over our heads... to feel fresh and ready to hit the road again!
