Inexperienced girl thinks she's asexual

[PapiChulo]

@Chulo - Its said a good portion of success is finding the targets who're interested in you yeah? When you encounter a "tormentor" you eject at the first sign. I find that whole getting sucked into wanting to be the one to open her up...literally...is just a form of desperation masked as...."this girl's a challenge".

Could not have said it better myself. Just like many other guys I am attracted to these b!tches that treat me like crap and have to constantly keep myself in check or otherwise afc tendencies start to prevail. They arent stupid either, they like to keep you orbiting, so a few IOIs get thrown here and there, just enough to keep you hooked and you start thinking, maybe it is not all that bad, maybe what I am doing is working. Its a false progress with this "challenge", in reality you arent moving anywhere.

Thats why confidence is the ability to walk away from it because you know you can do better, with other women.

And the target selection, thats gold. All my f**ck ups are from that mistake.


Enormous uncontrollable desire to have something is a NEED. You can say things like "I am attracted to her", "I want her", yada yada in reality you are just saying you need her.

 

[Maxtro]

Best advise yet. You're not going to convince her by talking to her, trying to reason with her. You need kino and lots of it over a long period of time, you need to get sexual thoughts in her mind (conversations about sex), let her know she is sexy and how sexy she looks in those shorts/pants/dress whatever she is wearing.

That's what I think I need to work on. I'm just so afraid of saying something and having it come out wrong or seeming AFC.

When I was with her last week there were two distinct opportunities for me to say something smooth, which of course I didn't take.

1. For most of the day, she had her hair in some sort of bun. Then she let down her hair and it looked so good. What could I have said?

2. We were walking around pennies looking for some shirts for me. I tell her that she should also get some new clothes now that she has a job. And I say that she should get some girly shirts since she mainly wears t-shirts. Then she says that girly shirts don't really fit her. I ask why then she says, "It's cause my chest is too big." I joke that she could use duct tape and she responds that it might hurt. Is there anything smooth I could have said about her having big boobs?

I wonder if she's insecure about having big boobs? I'm a total breast man and I think they're amazing. I really wish she would stop wearing hoodies and wear tight shirts to show off.

I am doing kino more and more each time I see her and I'm trying to warm her up to it.

Actually talking about sex is another difficulty. I'm very inexperienced and she's a virgin. How do I bring it up?

 

[ARrocket]

Idk, wolf whistle and then tug on it a little?

Your scared to mess up because you really want this girl.

You really want this girl because you have no other girls.

You have no other girls because you don't go out and meet girls.

You don't go out and meet girls because you have nobody to go out and meet girls with.

See, it all keeps coming back to the same problem!

Are you in any student clubs or anything? Dude, you have GOT to meet some dudes and just go out to bars or something with them. Have them invite a few friends (including girls). The girls will have friends. Social circle game? You can then start talking to random girls. Boom. You're meeting more women. You can add in the girls you meet in class too. You should have 3-4 girls you can game in no time. Then, if you "mess up," it won't even matter.