Inevitable Run-In with Ex next week
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Just talk to her like you would any other schmuck that walks through the door... added points if you can sell her a new phone.
Renegade357
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Funny, I just had an encounter with one of my exes the other day. We dated for about 3 months a few years ago and she pulled the whole "cold and distant" routine on me. I dropped her immediately and went NC after she flaked on a date.
Anyway the whole encounter went pretty well. It was at a party and I just treated her the same as every other girl there. She was def acting weird around me and very quiet. The annoying part is she knew I was going to be at the party which was at my SISTERS house and she came anyway. I have no idea why nor do I care.
If anything I gained respect points with her but for the most part there is no win to be had in this situation. One shot per woman per lifetime.
Anyway the whole encounter went pretty well. It was at a party and I just treated her the same as every other girl there. She was def acting weird around me and very quiet. The annoying part is she knew I was going to be at the party which was at my SISTERS house and she came anyway. I have no idea why nor do I care.
If anything I gained respect points with her but for the most part there is no win to be had in this situation. One shot per woman per lifetime.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
First of all you need to learn to be excited about opportunities with other women. There are lots of them out there. It makes it way easier to control your emotions when you know you have a phone number in your pocket.
Just smile when you see her. Keep it light and no heavy subjects. Period. Do that and you'll come out ahead.
Just smile when you see her. Keep it light and no heavy subjects. Period. Do that and you'll come out ahead.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
When it comes to women you don't analyze them and try to figure out why they do the things they do or what they are thinking. Often with experience you can figure it out but in the end it's pointless. You can ask every DJ in here what your ex g/f is thinking and you might get 55 different answers.
The only thing you can do is bottom line their actions and react accordingly. That means you have to be tough. It means you have to be willing to tell girls you really like to get lost when they cross the line. When you do things the right way you are dropping 10 out of 10 women, not the other way around. You do this until you find the right one. Most guys can't do that.
Your ex is now your ex for a good reason. Learn from mistakes you made with her but from this point on you give her NOTHING. You treat her like you treat every other girl out there that you don't care about. You act polite but do nothing above the call of duty. We don't care what she thinks and if we do we keep it to ourselves.
The only thing you can do is bottom line their actions and react accordingly. That means you have to be tough. It means you have to be willing to tell girls you really like to get lost when they cross the line. When you do things the right way you are dropping 10 out of 10 women, not the other way around. You do this until you find the right one. Most guys can't do that.
Your ex is now your ex for a good reason. Learn from mistakes you made with her but from this point on you give her NOTHING. You treat her like you treat every other girl out there that you don't care about. You act polite but do nothing above the call of duty. We don't care what she thinks and if we do we keep it to ourselves.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Exactly, there is no doubt she knows she hurt this guy's feelings yet she continues to toy with him. She cares nothing about him, she only cares about herself. This girl like all the other "bad girls" have the emotional maturity level of a child. They all have their day though.
Renegade357
Master Don Juan
Or you could just move on and forget her. Which you will be forced to do eventually. I guess you want to feel the pain first though.DJinBlue said:
It doesn't matter how mad you are. Face the fact that you're kind of screwed here because you care more than she does. And the one who cares the least controls the situation.