In2thegame back into the game but sluggish?

[In2theGame]

Since the ex of 5 years left me, Ive gotten back into incredible shape, possibly the best ive ever looked and everywhere i go i catch the eyes looking my way but man, sometimes girls make it hard to start a convo or maybe its just me taking it the wrong way since i havent been on the shelf in a while. A lot of occasions but ill take today as an example... once i was done with the gym i headed off to this pizza place that i usually go to a few times that sell some healthy food so i walk in, and as im approaching the counter the girl there, She calls me by my name (dunno how she knows my name) and tells me my order before i even speak with a gazing smile, so im like hmm.. Anyway, these 4 girls sitting down and i can feel like they are looking at me (Honestly when i walk into some place and i feel the girls looking at me it kind of feels uncomfortable in a way) anyway.... i sit down to wait for my food to get done and i look over and one of the cuties looks over at me and i kind of wanted to smile at her and she immediately turns away like with an attitude... im thinking wtf did i do? i then catch her checking me out through the mirror lol so im lookin over to see if i catch her eye but in a way she knows im looking her way a bit but shes trying to avoid EC so im like whatever. The other 2 girls that were sitting in front of me seem like they are trying to avoid EC with me as well, strange as they were eye ballin me for a while when i walked in. anyway.. as they get up to leave they walk by me but kinda of like a snub vibe i got... I looked up to try n make EC and i dont know how to explain it but you can tell when a girl is avoiding EC.

Anyway i get my food and im out Get home and shower and relaxed for a bit. Later on went over to the super market to get some lean food for the week, again i see the women staring at the corner of their eye but when i look over at them the turn right away and kind of close themselves out towards me. I get my stuff and im on line ready to pay up..im standing there and i can tell from the corner of my eye the cashier (HB8) looking at me, i look at her to smile and just say hey, she looks away with a bit of an attitude.. im like hm. again im looking to the side and i see her glance at me quick but i just ignored it. as im paying shes avoiding EC with me and bags my stuff and turns her head away. Im like alright... got my stuff and headed out. Later tonight, i went to get a lean wrap with egg whites (good stuff) two hotties working there (one of the reasons i like to go there lol) anyway same thing really... i see the glances at me and when i want to open up its like a shield vibe, so im like hmm maybe i need to say something.. (one of the girls walks by and i make EC and smile and say hey, she smiled quickly and then looked away, im like okay she probably not interested. Im watching the NY yankee game on the TV they have there and i look away quick and shes looking at me but then turns away. One of my female friends who sh*t tests me all the time tells me she admits that she thinks im really hot (she never wanted to admit it lol) but my look seems like im full of myself and that i look like im a player, Im not full of myself, I consider myself to be one of the friendliest guys around and i get along with alot of people. Not too long ago i was into my best friends girlfriends friend, HB9, and she gave me that snub vibe too, avoiding me at all costs even though i was checking her out hard core lol anyway about a month after, my best friend and i are in his car and he tells me "My girl told me something but you cant tell her i told you, im like alright,... HB9 told my girl that she thinks your really hot" i was like WHAT!? maybe she was shy? dunno how such a hot girl would be shy like that. anyway long story short we were all at a BBQ after a while and i end up making out and other things with HB9 lol. good times but anyway ive always been called good looking and stuff and always made the girls laugh but since being close to being a married man,... i guess my swagger has diminished a bit and trying to get it back. Im starting to believe that it can be difficult being good looking, it may sound stupid but i always get the assumptions that im full of myself, im a player, i already have a GF, Im banging so many girls, im a jerk, i only want them for one thing... wtf i dunno. One time a hot Italian girl turned me straight down only to tell me later that she thinks im really cute and that she thought i was playing with her, just insanity. Anyway, anyone else go through this and how to come out of it positive?

BTW im not going to Bullsh*t you guys, im still recovering from my 5 year relationship but getting there i guess but since my ex left, ive lost about 90 pounds into extreme lean muscle to where i was a long time ago and feeling and looking incredibly better. I still care for who was to become my wife and with recent events here in NYC earthquake and hurricane, i sent her just a friendly email saying "Hope everything is alright with you, with whats been been going on lately" she never replied. anyway.. what you guys think overall?

 

[gaspipe]

Yes I understand what your going through. Ive always been told that Im very good looking and even gorgeous but I sometimes feel that women are intimidated by me and avoid me altogether.

Being very good looking causes some women, usually the shy and less confident ones, to act weird when your around. Its as if your presence is so overwhelming that they subconsciously freeze up and act disinterested by avoiding eye contact, ignoring you or even acting *****y, causing you to think that they dont like you when in fact they think your hot.

The best way to deal with this phenomenon is to open up and convey the idea that your just a regular guy to lessen the intimidation factor.

 

[In2theGame]

Yes I understand what your going through. Ive always been told that Im very good looking and even gorgeous but I sometimes feel that women are intimidated by me and avoid me altogether.

Being very good looking causes some women, usually the shy and less confident ones, to act weird when your around. Its as if your presence is so overwhelming that they subconsciously freeze up and act disinterested by avoiding eye contact, ignoring you or even acting *****y, causing you to think that they dont like you when in fact they think your hot.

The best way to deal with this phenomenon is to open up and convey the idea that your just a regular guy to lessen the intimidation factor.

Thanks for the outlook on it gaspipe, Your probably right. especially about the less confident ones. Man another thing, i dunno but the gay dudes are straight out with their intentions. I dont like that sh*t but i dont say anything thats going to start a fight but on some occasions gay guys have looked straight at me and said "mmmm" im like damn bro thats just extreme gayness with their V neck t shirts that come down to their stomach but whatever, thats a whole nother story. anyway, im going to start conversation more and see where that leads, Im naturally a quiet guy until you get to know me, not shy just quiet. I guess sometimes i think if i say something they may act so distant that i look like an ass but we'll see. Got a whole load of girls that i see checking me out that i think are really cute, im into that Hayden Panettiere, Whitney Port look.

 

[gaspipe]

Thanks for the outlook on it gaspipe, Your probably right. especially about the less confident ones. Man another thing, i dunno but the gay dudes are straight out with their intentions. I dont like that sh*t but i dont say anything thats going to start a fight but on some occasions gay guys have looked straight at me and said "mmmm" im like damn bro thats just extreme gayness with their V neck t shirts that come down to their stomach but whatever, thats a whole nother story. anyway, im going to start conversation more and see where that leads, Im naturally a quiet guy until you get to know me, not shy just quiet. I guess sometimes i think if i say something they may act so distant that i look like an ass but we'll see. Got a whole load of girls that i see checking me out that i think are really cute, im into that Hayden Panettiere, Whitney Port look.

I know about the gay thing. Just the other day some old fart was trying to pick me up at a coffee shop. But you know what? When such things happen, Im pretty polite about it unless of course the person gets aggressive and obnoxious. I just say thanks but no thanks and go on my way. Plus you live in NYC so Im sure your are used to getting hit on by guys especially if you are good looking.

Im also the quiet type. I suppose my introvertness is mistaken sometimes for being stuck up and snobbish. In fact some women who have gotten to know me later had commented that they didnt like me in the beginiing because they thought I was stuck up.