In your opinion what is a MAN?

[romanticman]

A man is of the male gender.
A man is strong in himself..
He has courage..
Faces challenges to become better..
A mans worth is knowing that he was put here to be a lover of women...a father to children..and an inspiration to all those who cross his path.
A man finishes what he starts..
A man does not give to impress the world but to be the best he can for himself...
A man knows that death is real..he does not fear it and so he pours his heart and soul into achieving his dreams.

 

[YAboi]

A man is of the male gender.
A man is strong in himself..
He has courage..
Faces challenges to become better..
A mans worth is knowing that he was put here to be a lover of women...a father to children..and an inspiration to all those who cross his path.
A man finishes what he starts..
A man does not give to impress the world but to be the best he can for himself...
A man knows that death is real..he does not fear it and so he pours his heart and soul into achieving his dreams.

wow! this was deep , +1 rep

 

[lugsy211]

O if only we could come to one finite definition of man!

Its always going to be subjective, but for me its always about family, value and courage to do what is right- even if that means fighting against the crowd.

There are so many males who are scared, they have this fear completely evident in the way they live their lives. In fact when I meet a real man; I find inspiration.

Man does not have to fear a divine creator. If you follow all the rational truths available there is no such thing as a God, and if you believe in what it is to be a human, to love, you'll be a great man.

A man should only be judged by how much love he has for his family.

 

[Warrior74]

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A man should only be judged by how much love he has for his family.

totally subjective. Some families are a horror.

 

[Gizmotron]

a miserable little pile of secrets

Damn! Came here to post this.

 

[lugsy211]

totally subjective. Some families are a horror

True.

Still as a man you will make a family of your own. Until then, if your family really is a 'mare, show love for your best friends and most importantly yourself.

 

[Soprano]

confident

 

[starplayer]

Well the main thing that makes a man is TESTOSTERONE. Everything else will follow naturally. I think this is the essence of man. After searching for an answer to this question I think this is the closest we can ever get.

There are many useful posts on this forum. These are some of the best although I'm sure I've missed others but they should be easy to search for.

The Secret of the Jerk

The Masculine Manifesto

THE key is masculinity

The Missing Ingredient

Be a Man!

There's some good stuff on this forum, much better than any dating book you can buy.

Hope this helps because I know these posts helped me.

 

[MeteorMash]

I don't think Modeling yourself after a movie Character is what makes a "man"

I think a man should strive to be all he can be, and all that he wants to be, not all that James Bond can be.

I think a man is strong, has courage and dignity. He is Honest, shows respect for others as well as demands the same respect back. He is there for those he loves, is selfless, and kind.
He is God fearing(not to say that atheist aren't great examples of men, but this is the man i strive to be)
I think a man should have to courage to stand up for his beliefs, even against the crowd. He should be confident in himself.

 

[YAboi]

Good response

It sometimes seems to me though that your childhood has a drastic effect on the way you are shaped and if you end up introverted, some of these things you talk about are not easily projected to others even if you believe them yourself internally.

That coupled with the fact that in Western society, the lights camera action flash bang lifestyle are worshipped tends to cause you to be labelled as mundane if these traits you talk about are not parroted through your body language and verbal communication at all times when in the presence of others.

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*limiting belief alert!* :cheer:

p.s (I know its not aligned im workin on it lol)

I will be honest with you ,when I say introverted what i mean is prefering your own company along with the company of ppl close to you and finding the general populace tremendously draining.

But in terms of the whole manliness thing, one major concern of mine is the staggering tenacity needed to succeed point blank period in every area of life especially in this generation. There is an interesting discussion goin on in the mature man forum that relates to the female and generational side of things (its called ''young women drive me nuts'') but in terms of making it into the job market or establishing your own business, competition is so fierce it hurts.

Gaining the respect of others is another head scratcher to me at times as it is a bit complex and requires a lot of pandering to the sheep mentality of others whilst keeping your individuality. The pandering part I find difficult as it seems like a lot of giving is involved and my energy is easily expended.

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and here's another one

 

[YAboi]

bump because more inputs are needed

 

[5string]

I think we all know what traits are manly, ie confidence, intelligence, dignity, etc.

Point I would make is that for the most part, a man makes himself who he is. I would like to think I am very masculine. I attribute this to a very good upbringing and family life to give me my start. My parents were just great.

Some of the things I am proud of are my time in the Army and getting through college with no help from others. I did so by setting a goal, being determined and following through till the end. I have worked hard have had a successful career to this day. I have continued my education as well.

I did make a mistake by marrying a single mom though. But I am very proud of the fact I helped raise her two kids and put them through college. I was a really good step dad. Another thing, a man tries really hard to learn from his mistakes. Trust me, I have made many and learned from most.

Define what a man is for yourself. That will become your individuality. Mold yourself intellectually, physically and spiritually as best you can to that image. I think if one can do that, they will find happiness.

 

[Warrior74]

I have a framed copy of this in my office

If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

- Rudyard Kipling

 

[Rubirosa]

Bond. James Bond......I'm serious....Gets the job done, refined, intellegent, brave, doesn't complain, self reliant

 

[Don Alfredo]

Man cannot be god fearing since man made up god.

very true. too many people live their lives in preparation for death, when, ironically, life stops.

 

[YAboi]

Good thread

 

[DonJuanit0]

A man is a guy who is not afraid his testosterone!

With that said,

He always backs up his opinion, family, wants and beliefs!
He is not afraid to be sexual towards a woman!
He has goals and not dreams!
He will try everything to reach his goals (within moral ways)!
He is the guy that when a problem occur he will try to solve it rather than find the one to blame!
He demands respect as well as showing respect to others!
He keeps his word!
He is not done when he loses, but when he quits!

 

[Derp]

Then how did you get here? Who created you?

If you see a watch lying on the ground, would you say: 'No one made the watch?'

Someone didn't pay much attention during biology.

 

[Halcyonique]

A man is an adult male; he has male genitalia.
If you have male genitalia, you ARE a "real man".

I can't stand this kind of bull$hit that makes guys feel like there's something that they aren't getting about their own gender. You ALREADY ARE an actual man - yep!

If you copy what OTHER people think men should be - which is usually the typical traits associated with masculinity which are just as flimsy, feeble and transparent as femininity when held to be one's entire character framework in life - you will certainly NOT be being true to yourself.

It doesn't matter what other people think you should be on account of your genitalia. If you aren't who YOU WANT TO BE, then wtf point is there?

 

[jacob]

I think Mel Gibson portrays the epitomy of an honorable upright God fearing man with the characters he plays in Brave Heart and The Patriot.

Just reading this comment won't do it justice though, you can watch Patriot for free on crackle

http://www.crackle.com/c/The_Patriot/The_Patriot/2483864?c=US

or check out the tribute to BraveHearts William Wallace on youtube

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ifr4aGA2o_A

And I feel you'll be a more complete Don Juan if you have a belief and knowledge in God, since attraction deals with the other persons spirit, more so than just flesh.