In Need Of Strong Opinions From Men

[AdventureMan1980]

Hello gentleman,

I'm asking this question to everyone on this board who have given me (by the posts) so much good advice in the past.

After following the advice here and getting exactly to where I wanted to be with women, and in life, I got married. Since then, I've let everything go to s**t.

Now I'm dealing with a woman that I have allowed myself to love, and who loves me, but is a chronic cheater (has cheated on every boyfriends she's ever had). - Didn't know that before we got married.

She says she hasn't "cheated" on me, but I have found text messages and just walked in last week to a man (albiet a fully clothed one) standing over my wife (who was sick in bed) while in the dark. I had unexpectedly come home for lunch from work - and the door was unlocked. She tells me nothing happened and he was just bringing her food..I'm not buying it.

Other **** she has done is kiss my brother (he backed off her immediately and told me), sent a text message to a male friend - "We'll we should sometime. We've only had sex once, we can't leave it at that right?" - she got booted out of the house for that one, - and another to her ex-fiance "I love you and ache to be with you." - also got booted out for that. She also on one occasion told my mother and my brother all kinds of made up **** about me like I was posting ads for gay men. - She admitted to me she made stuff up because she was mad at me that night.

I've taken her back each time because this girl has no one. She lost her mother exactly a year ago and that's when she went f**king bonkers.

I know it isn't my responsability to fix her and that my real responsability is to myself. - But because of doing what she asked (what I was always raised to think a married couple should do), I have left three high paying jobs and now we are pretty damned poor. I could move in with my parents for a couple of months, but I'm 28, and that's bullsh*t.

Hit me over the head. Knock some sense into me. Or tell me to get over it and stay married. Either way, this guy, who was great with women, now is sucking it up hardcore.

Any advice? :cuss:

 

[BobMo']

Long-time lurker here.
Run, don't walk. Period. Man up, do it, and don't look back (Yes, it WILL be painful.)
But, you must dump her before she gets pregnant. Consider yourself lucky that you found about about this s*** before you had a kid with her. She'll survive. You won't, otherwise.

 

[mrRuckus]

I'm asking this question to everyone on this board who have given me (by the posts) so much good advice in the past.

After following the advice here and getting exactly to where I wanted to be with women, and in life, I got married. Since then, I've let everything go to s**t.

WTF? This is nothing but lies.

 

[AdventureMan1980]

WTF? This is nothing but lies.

haha. Lies? Not at all.

But you can f**k off. :moon:

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Just buy her flowers, and try to convince her you are the best man for her, and that she should choose you over the rest, because you are the only one who cares about her.

Suggest an expensive dinner, that should make her appreciate the man you are.

 

[jdon23]

Just buy her flowers, and try to convince her you are the best man for her, and that she should choose you over the rest, because you are the only one who cares about her.

Suggest an expensive dinner, that should make her appreciate the man you are.

You forgot to tell him to bring the chocolates that she likes and how he should tell her how beautiful she looks at least 10 times every day.




but anyway, my advice is to just drop this hor. Don't play Captain Save a Ho.. its NEVER worth it

 

[Dragoo]

It sounds like your wife needs counseling.

 

[Warrior74]

You've enabled her for too long. She has no respect for you. I personally feel you can't win her respect back and even trying to do so will only dig you deeper. Personally I would prepare for divorce.

You left three jobs for her. See how she is the boss of you? In your gut you knew it was wrong. I did the same thing once. I turned down a great job across the country because my woman didn't want to leave her family and friends. Now she is living in a crappy neighborhood with some bum who treats her like crap and I'm trying to revive my career. You failed to lead on this, you were weak and you know it. You let a woman lead you away from your goals and dreams and you are suffering for it.

Your gut knows that she's cheating on you. You know it. Go ahead and get some proof on video, hire a PI to follow her so you can get some evidence on tape for the upcoming divorce. It will help with the settlements. She is spreading rumors about you as a preemtive strike against your character. I promise you will see those rumors pop up in your divorce proceedings.

Remember. Women like this (my ex was one) uses the pity card to keep you in place. My ex was always "sick" and used my caring nature against me.

I'm sure Kontroller will probably come in here and tell you she is BPD. She might be, I suspect my ex was.

Start using condoms if you are still having sex with her. I hope you guys don't have any children. Get ready for a **** storm for about a year or two but after that it should all shake out. By the time you are 30 you'll be wiser, richer and happier. Good luck.

 

[mrRuckus]

haha. Lies? Not at all.

But you can f**k off. :moon:

Oh, i see. Ok you weren't lying.

I guess you DID get everywhere you wanted to be with women:

you wanted to be a pushover sucker who stays with a woman who cheats on you... and you wanted to have the wool pulled over your eyes thinking she was some perfect woman until you married her.

There were signs before you married. You chose to ignore them or were incapable of seeing them. Why?

Because you weren't where you should have been with your own mental set nor with dealing with women.

So you are either lying about where you were with regards to these or just delusional.

Good luck with the messy divorce and losing all your sh1t.

 

[Dragoo]

You've enabled her for too long. She has no respect for you. I personally feel you can't win her respect back and even trying to do so will only dig you deeper. Personally I would prepare for divorce.

You left three jobs for her. See how she is the boss of you? In your gut you knew it was wrong. I did the same thing once. I turned down a great job across the country because my woman didn't want to leave her family and friends. Now she is living in a crappy neighborhood with some bum who treats her like crap and I'm trying to revive my career. You failed to lead on this, you were weak and you know it. You let a woman lead you away from your goals and dreams and you are suffering for it.

Your gut knows that she's cheating on you. You know it. Go ahead and get some proof on video, hire a PI to follow her so you can get some evidence on tape for the upcoming divorce. It will help with the settlements. She is spreading rumors about you as a preemtive strike against your character. I promise you will see those rumors pop up in your divorce proceedings.

Remember. Women like this (my ex was one) uses the pity card to keep you in place. My ex was always "sick" and used my caring nature against me.

I'm sure Kontroller will probably come in here and tell you she is BPD. She might be, I suspect my ex was.

Start using condoms if you are still having sex with her. I hope you guys don't have any children. Get ready for a **** storm for about a year or two but after that it should all shake out. By the time you are 30 you'll be wiser, richer and happier. Good luck.

What is BPD?

 

[Duffdog]

Hello gentleman,

I'm asking this question to everyone on this board who have given me (by the posts) so much good advice in the past.

After following the advice here and getting exactly to where I wanted to be with women, and in life, I got married. Since then, I've let everything go to s**t.

Now I'm dealing with a woman that I have allowed myself to love, and who loves me, but is a chronic cheater (has cheated on every boyfriends she's ever had). - Didn't know that before we got married.

She says she hasn't "cheated" on me, but I have found text messages and just walked in last week to a man (albiet a fully clothed one) standing over my wife (who was sick in bed) while in the dark. I had unexpectedly come home for lunch from work - and the door was unlocked. She tells me nothing happened and he was just bringing her food..I'm not buying it.

Other **** she has done is kiss my brother (he backed off her immediately and told me), sent a text message to a male friend - "We'll we should sometime. We've only had sex once, we can't leave it at that right?" - she got booted out of the house for that one, - and another to her ex-fiance "I love you and ache to be with you." - also got booted out for that. She also on one occasion told my mother and my brother all kinds of made up **** about me like I was posting ads for gay men. - She admitted to me she made stuff up because she was mad at me that night.

I've taken her back each time because this girl has no one. She lost her mother exactly a year ago and that's when she went f**king bonkers.

I know it isn't my responsability to fix her and that my real responsability is to myself. - But because of doing what she asked (what I was always raised to think a married couple should do), I have left three high paying jobs and now we are pretty damned poor. I could move in with my parents for a couple of months, but I'm 28, and that's bullsh*t.

Hit me over the head. Knock some sense into me. Or tell me to get over it and stay married. Either way, this guy, who was great with women, now is sucking it up hardcore.

Any advice? :cuss:

My advise is don't just leave her...fvck her as hard as you can. Open several credit accounts in both your names, buy all sorts of fun stuff like boats, cars, condo's, tvs etc and sell the physical items to your friends for a loss. Then eliminate all your assets by placing them in your family members name and saddle her broke ass with hundreds of thousands of dollars of non-releasable debt while you go file for divorce. Oh, and btw, warrior is on the right track with the video evidence of infidelity for the divorce court.

Thats what I would do.

 

[Da Realist]

Get out. Now!

 

[ExcelNPrevail]

My suggestion is you leave her. She obviously has baggage from past relationships. Wake up. She has a "cheat resume", and also has made false accusations about your sexuality with your family. I mean this doesn't take an expert.

You could stay with her if you want and try to "change" her. But just realize some people can never be changed with outer influences only they can decide themselves. And even then its a struggle for them.

Because some people are just F**ked Up.

 

[PhantomNYC]

give her la boot

a women like that will only bring u hardships and stress, get that divorce and get back in the game

 

[sharkbeat]

You gotta be the most worthless wimp of all times, and a man with no testosterone. You are worse than all AFCs in the world combined.

Get the **** out of that ***** hole and kick this ***** in the face and man up!

 

[brownbear.]

see warrior74's sig. . . .

you know the answer already, so act on it, NOW!

 

[Ubergreg]

Hmmm, a LIFE (count every second) of hell vs a grand total of a week of stress.

GET.
OUT.
NOW.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Brother Karma is going to punch you in the balls-

- with a right hook of reality and then finish you off with a healthy dose of self worth and confidence.

You're her b!tch. You're her enabling, sniveling, whiny, brokeback, girlfriend. She has pushed every button you have and you've given her permission to treat you like a dog. A dog with fleas.

You have to shake yourself free of this broad. "But Karma, I love her. I really love her with all of my heart!"

Fvck you.

Fvck you and then fvck your sympathetic passivity. You owe her nothing.

She has betrayed your manhood.
She's betrayed your trust.
She's ripped your sac away and eaten it while you watched. She even offered you a taste and you ate it.

She's given you every reason to leave her but you won't. You won't because you feel you owe her something. What? Who knows? Better question is; Who fvcking cares?

Either you're full of sh!t and seeking some sort of gregarious attention or you're genuinely lost and have no where to turn.

This is where I shine. You need more than a helping hand brother, you need a slap in the face.

Wake the fvck up. You know she's toxic. Your family knows she's toxic. She's a cancer in your masculinity. What do we do with cancer? We cut off the limb or we neautralize the cells so we can live.

Cut this cvnt off of you. The best revenge for a woman who's cheating on you is to let those guys pass her around.

Think of it this way. Everytime she cheats you're eating that guys nutcheese. He's happily blowing his load up her crack or her dirtchute or she's chuggin it down like Borden's.

Either way you're getting the leftovers from his creampie.

Each time you see your beloved wife, condition your response immediately to watching her toss some random dude's hairy salad. Her teeth are full of sprigs of pube and tossed in a lovely vinegraite of taint sweat and saliva.

Get mad you son-of-a-b!tch, get mad!

There's your kick in c0ck. Do with it what you will.

Best of luck to you brother.

 

[K2000kidd]

Think of it this way. Everytime she cheats you're eating that guys nutcheese. He's happily blowing his load up her crack or her dirtchute or she's chuggin it down like Borden's.

Either way you're getting the leftovers from his creampie.

Each time you see your beloved wife, condition your response immediately to watching her toss some random dude's hairy salad. Her teeth are full of sprigs of pube and tossed in a lovely vinegraite of taint sweat and saliva.

Get mad you son-of-a-b!tch, get mad!

There's your kick in c0ck. Do with it what you will.

Best of luck to you brother.

WOWWWWWWWWW
way to lay it down sir !!

 

[The Bat]

Leave it to Karma to make this thread X-rated (and slightly gay). :crackup:

In all seriousness, he gave solid advice, AdventureMan.

You need to leave her YESTERDAY!

Either you are a troll Or one of the biggest AFCs this board has come across.