In college, still a virgin?!

Dadude548

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Ugh this ****ing sucks. I've been at this school 1 year and I haven't even kissed a girl here yet. Made a few friends, and got pretty close to this one girl and spent time with her but then she told me that she just wanted to be friends, then she did the fade on me so that was a lie lol

I keep hearing about how college is a great place to meet chicks but none of them want to go out. So many bunnies everywhere and it just makes me mad they don't want my carrot.

How do other dudes get laid? My buddies ain't much help and all they want to do is game online.
 

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It is pretty easy to pick up girls at college. ESPECIALLY during the fall semester. :D

I advise you to go read the DJ Bible to start things off.
 

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Yeah, I too find it somewhat challenging to get some in college and supposedly this is the best place to do it. For me, night game gets me more women who are in the mood but they are very picky; good for practice.

imo, I would work on day game because women around the college level age are very open to the dating stage, but I wouldn't bank on anything serious.
 

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I'm in college and it's flat out scary the ratio of taken women to single men

All the quality chicks are taken and if they're not, every dude in the class is single.

i'm sure some guys are actually taken but they try to game girls in class anyway

i would just like, just once, to have a class where i didn't have to constantly fend off other dudes and just focus on the girl at hand.

i swear sometimes college is not much different than a nightclub in regards to competition and whatnot

anyway, i've learned that you shouldn't just go after girls just for the bang and if that doesn't happen move on--establish a strong social circle. even if the girl you're after doesn't want to bang you, one of her friends might.

expanding your social circle is the only way to survive in college.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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College! Those were the days.

Soon you will be sarging in clubs and using day game to get women. College is SO easy. You are forced into going to classes where beautiful women are present. Social circles can be expanded exponentially. Parties are literally happening every night of the week. All you have to do is open your mouth. It doesn't get any easier than college man, trust me.

Most women aren't really in "relationships" in college either. They are simply sleeping with someone. Most chicks are running around banging every dude they can. Just put yourself out there. Talk to them. Build some rapport. Ask them to go to a party with you. Have some drinks at the party. Go dance. Escalate. Bang.
 

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Gray The Prince said:
It is pretty easy to pick up girls at college. ESPECIALLY during the fall semester. :D

I advise you to go read the DJ Bible to start things off.
I think you mean it's easy in the fall cause there are lots of new people right?

I looked over the bible and it doesn't say anything about college.
Fly By Night Yeah said:
What's the best thing to do for day game? That's like talking to random girls right? Does that work? How about chicks I see in class?
JimmyBizzle said:
1. Go to parties
2. Talk to drunk chicks
3. Sex
LOL, I guess I should make a thread on how to get invited to parties. I haven't been to any.
MisterD said:
I'm in college and it's flat out scary the ratio of taken women to single men

All the quality chicks are taken and if they're not, every dude in the class is single.

i'm sure some guys are actually taken but they try to game girls in class anyway

i would just like, just once, to have a class where i didn't have to constantly fend off other dudes and just focus on the girl at hand.

i swear sometimes college is not much different than a nightclub in regards to competition and whatnot

anyway, i've learned that you shouldn't just go after girls just for the bang and if that doesn't happen move on--establish a strong social circle. even if the girl you're after doesn't want to bang you, one of her friends might.

expanding your social circle is the only way to survive in college.
Yeah a lot of the girls have boyfriends and almost every guy I know is single. That doens't make any sense.

Are you suggesting to become friends with girls and hope that they have friends who'd want to bang? Do you tell the girl you become friends with that you want to bang her and that you hope she has friends?
SoSuave666 said:
College! Those were the days.

Soon you will be sarging in clubs and using day game to get women. College is SO easy. You are forced into going to classes where beautiful women are present. Social circles can be expanded exponentially. Parties are literally happening every night of the week. All you have to do is open your mouth. It doesn't get any easier than college man, trust me.

Most women aren't really in "relationships" in college either. They are simply sleeping with someone. Most chicks are running around banging every dude they can. Just put yourself out there. Talk to them. Build some rapport. Ask them to go to a party with you. Have some drinks at the party. Go dance. Escalate. Bang.
Yeah yeah, telling me that college is isn't doesn't help me. Beautiful girls are everywhere so it should be easy.

What can I do if I don't go to parties?
 

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I didn't lose my v-card until the last day of my freshman year of college. So don't despair!

Just join clubs and coed sports. That is how I met most of the girls that I have dated was rooted in club activities. They usually help meet girls or at least get you to start talking to them.

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Well you're probably not in great shape, so work on eating better, biking, pull-ups and push-ups, and your career. And do know that as a man it gets better and better until you are about 50.
 

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I believe that the people who have posted on this thread have been saying a half truth.

YES I agree that you get more exposure to women in college because they are everywhere.

However exposure to women does NOT mean you are going to meet women who are interested in you.

I went through exactly what the OP went through, I asked out tons of women in college but was always rejected.

PS those girls that say they are in a relationship in college....are not...its just a soft way of letting you know that they are not interested.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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Dadude548 said:
Are you suggesting to become friends with girls and hope that they have friends who'd want to bang? Do you tell the girl you become friends with that you want to bang her and that you hope she has friends?
You make your move on your target. If it doesn't work out for whatever reason, don't get bitter and dramatic and throw her number away. Keep her in your back pocket, keep it cool, invite her and her friends to bars etc around the area and start making connections with those girls.

Young Stallion said:
PS those girls that say they are in a relationship in college....are not...its just a soft way of letting you know that they are not interested.
Not true. Despite what's said on here, not all women are major sluts who only say they're in a relationship when they don't want you. Some girls are qualty, legit good people that are in committed relationships. Not much you can do about that.
 

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MisterD said:
You make your move on your target. If it doesn't work out for whatever reason, don't get bitter and dramatic and throw her number away. Keep her in your back pocket, keep it cool, invite her and her friends to bars etc around the area and start making connections with those girls.



Not true. Despite what's said on here, not all women are major sluts who only say they're in a relationship when they don't want you. Some girls are qualty, legit good people that are in committed relationships. Not much you can do about that.
Both instances are true.

Your right some College Girls are good decent people who are mantaining monogomous relationships with a boyfriend they care about.

However "I have a boyfriend" is a very common rejection line when a girl just is not interested.
 

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Young Stallion said:
I believe that the people who have posted on this thread have been saying a half truth.

YES I agree that you get more exposure to women in college because they are everywhere.

However exposure to women does NOT mean you are going to meet women who are interested in you.

I went through exactly what the OP went through, I asked out tons of women in college but was always rejected.

PS those girls that say they are in a relationship in college....are not...its just a soft way of letting you know that they are not interested.

I'd say that "asking them out" would be where you failed.

Girls 10 years out of college don't want the pressure of a "date". So I can guarantee you that college chicks don't.

The game is college is just making friends. You chat them up, make them laugh, invite them to events and parties, and then you hook up, rinse, and repeat. You don't want to be the dude asking chicks on dates. You want to be the cool, fun guy who's easy to hang out with.

It can't be about "Hey, let's go out some time" with college chicks. It's "Any good parties going on tonight?"
 

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A date is just that, some day on the calendar after today. But these days, girls must have high interest level to agree to a date. They usually have a fly-by-night, hang-out-hook-up mentality.

The greater the number of days in advance that you can plan a date with a girl, the higher her interest level must be for her to follow through.

It's good to ask 3 days in advance and confirm the day of.
 

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Iceberg said:
I'd say that "asking them out" would be where you failed.

Girls 10 years out of college don't want the pressure of a "date". So I can guarantee you that college chicks don't.

The game is college is just making friends. You chat them up, make them laugh, invite them to events and parties, and then you hook up, rinse, and repeat. You don't want to be the dude asking chicks on dates. You want to be the cool, fun guy who's easy to hang out with.

It can't be about "Hey, let's go out some time" with college chicks. It's "Any good parties going on tonight?"
Damn, looks like I got it all wrong :l

I've been on 4-5 dates with girls in college, but the only reason it didn't work was because I ****ed up somewhere along the date. I'll have to work on getting into parties. Then again, I know a spot that is like a nightclub at our Univ. :rock:
 

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So getting chicks in college is all about parties and bars?

I've never really done those things. That's the only way?
 

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Dadude548 said:
So getting chicks in college is all about parties and bars?

I've never really done those things. That's the only way?
try it you might like it. Just don't get caught by the "fuzz." I tried it but didn't really like it that much. So I went to the school club routes and did just fine.

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Dadude548 said:
So getting chicks in college is all about parties and bars?

I've never really done those things. That's the only way?
Do you live in residence? Talk to girls and guys in your classes, join social clubs, talk to girls in rez. It's much easier to meet people when you are in Res. Talk to everyone, nerds, jocks, stoners, partyers.

Are you fairly popular?
 

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Okay, here's the deal.


I realize the situation you are in, and it's not a good one. You have a very limited social circle, you don't really have connections with people that "party" more, etc.


Everyone here is telling you to go party more, talk to girls, etc.


It's a lot harder to do that when you are in your situation.


My advice is to join organizations. Join clubs. These things are designed to bring people together socially, and you'll have a much easier time meeting people that you should know, instead of just trying to approach people in class when they're either hungover/bored/in a bad mood.

Take it from me, I'm in a fraternity, I play on the club tennis team, I'm in several business and leadership organizations, some social and philanthropic ones, and they introduce you to all different types of people, and it's guaranteed you will meet people that like to have fun.


Your first step should be expanding your social circle. Even if you don't meet a girl you like in one of those organizations, chances are very high that a friend you make in one of those organizations will introduce you to their friends. It's all about networking and meeting mutual friends and mutual friends of mutual friends.


Good luck champ.
 

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I'm a virgin, 24, just got my associates degree and now working on my bachelors. Do I feel frustrated and ashamed. Fvck no. It's my choice. When I'm ready to smash I will. I'm not ready. There is so many things I have to do to before I began to focus on pvssy.

I'm dealing with:
-social anxiety (caring what others think)
-fear of rejection
-trying to get myself together and start my bachelors in nursing
-see my biological father for the first time
-build my confidence
-overcome my fears
-eating healthy
-rebuilding my wardrobe
-exercising
-managing my money
-studying
-trying to stay away from entertainment devices
-improving my social circle (it's weak right now)

Etc.

So much things on my mind that pvssy is the last thing on my mind. When you are dwelling on wanting to get laid you lead to desperation. When you switch your mindset to goals to improving yourself. Females will see this and want to be part of your life. Because they see a REAL MAN improving or trying to improve himself rather than a weakling trying to get laid.

I hope I didn't sound harsh but I feel where your coming from because I USE to feel that way. Life is to short. We have one life. Why waste your life having the mindset of only wanting to get laid?

Focus on yourself and the girls will come after from all different angles.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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