In college, how do I meet girls?
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Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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stubbornlights
Don Juan
hey!
I'm in college too!
Sorry man, but approaching random strangers is one of the best ways. I'm far from being a DJ, I'm still a blatant rAFC, but I'll outline how I meet girls, where&when, and what I avoid.
--Locations--
You know that wasted time when you sit around and wait for your next class? Make sure it's productive. I like to wander to different parts of campus. Go into the buildings for different faculties. Just sit down somewhere near a girl and pretend you're waiting for a class or passing time too.
Do you have a student union building, or some other popular place where people congregate? Check it out. Any on campus coffee shops, places to sit, it's all good.
--HowTo--
Once you see a girl you'd like to approach, and you're pretty sure she's not incredibly busy or going to ignore you (head buried in texts and ipod, whatever), try to figure out an appropriate context. Does she have a newspaper near her, a coffee? Maybe she's listening to music. All potential convo starters. If you're shy and worried about rejection, just play it off as though you're bored and you're passing time. Ask her what she's listening to, what she's reading, what class she's waiting for; try to find something about her that's really easy to use as an opener to start a conversation.
--avoid--
The only words of caution I would give are those pertaining to classroom pick ups. ESPECIALLY if your classes are small. If you're a shy dude, rAFC like me, it's sortof intimidating to try and PU a girl in a small class, given the possibility that you muck it up and will be forced to spend the rest of term in close proximity with her. So I tend to avoid girls in my classes unless the class sizes are a bit larger, and more appropriate for pickuping.
And you express hesitation towards meeting random strangers! Well, the only way I can think of circumventing that obstacle is through friends or social circumstance. Go to functions with a group of friends, get them to introduce you to people. Go to residence parties on the weekend, people there love meeting new people. Join a sports team, or club, or association or something, where you're forced to interact with others.
There are lots of possibilities out there, ssj245. College is one of the best places to meet girls!
Keep us posted. Happy sarging.
I'm in college too!
Sorry man, but approaching random strangers is one of the best ways. I'm far from being a DJ, I'm still a blatant rAFC, but I'll outline how I meet girls, where&when, and what I avoid.
--Locations--
You know that wasted time when you sit around and wait for your next class? Make sure it's productive. I like to wander to different parts of campus. Go into the buildings for different faculties. Just sit down somewhere near a girl and pretend you're waiting for a class or passing time too.
Do you have a student union building, or some other popular place where people congregate? Check it out. Any on campus coffee shops, places to sit, it's all good.
--HowTo--
Once you see a girl you'd like to approach, and you're pretty sure she's not incredibly busy or going to ignore you (head buried in texts and ipod, whatever), try to figure out an appropriate context. Does she have a newspaper near her, a coffee? Maybe she's listening to music. All potential convo starters. If you're shy and worried about rejection, just play it off as though you're bored and you're passing time. Ask her what she's listening to, what she's reading, what class she's waiting for; try to find something about her that's really easy to use as an opener to start a conversation.
--avoid--
The only words of caution I would give are those pertaining to classroom pick ups. ESPECIALLY if your classes are small. If you're a shy dude, rAFC like me, it's sortof intimidating to try and PU a girl in a small class, given the possibility that you muck it up and will be forced to spend the rest of term in close proximity with her. So I tend to avoid girls in my classes unless the class sizes are a bit larger, and more appropriate for pickuping.
And you express hesitation towards meeting random strangers! Well, the only way I can think of circumventing that obstacle is through friends or social circumstance. Go to functions with a group of friends, get them to introduce you to people. Go to residence parties on the weekend, people there love meeting new people. Join a sports team, or club, or association or something, where you're forced to interact with others.
There are lots of possibilities out there, ssj245. College is one of the best places to meet girls!
Keep us posted. Happy sarging.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
I can't believe you asked this question.
College is poon-heaven. There is poon to the left, there is poon to the right. Unless you're a social retard you should be able to meet chicks in your dorm, parties, frats, whereever.
DJHoolahoop
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I think HI works. Unless you're in a course that requires a lot of people to register in just to get into a program, then chances are the females in your class are just as interested in the subject as you are. That's your way in and the rest is gravy.
But unless you want to fake your interest into areas girls go to. Try to find unisex events or places that girls find particularly interesting. Cafe's, bistro's, gym's, and just plain walking around is another form. It's not too hard to think about once you ask yourself.
But unless you want to fake your interest into areas girls go to. Try to find unisex events or places that girls find particularly interesting. Cafe's, bistro's, gym's, and just plain walking around is another form. It's not too hard to think about once you ask yourself.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Hm..
Lol well I might be a social retard compared to you but I gotta start somewhere.
And thank you for all the great suggestions, but I go to a commuter school, so there no dorm parties or frats that I can join.
Yeah I can walk around campus and sit next to a girl and try random conversation but Im not good at it. Most of the time I dont go through with it. Ill be quiet. But thats my fault.
The clubs at my school suck, they really dont meet often, but I havent given them a shot really, so Im going to join a few intrest oriented clubs. But agian there badly organized and none of the good looking girls particiapte anyway.
In class its diffiuclt, most of my classes are 30 people and smaller. I do have large classes two of them in fact, but everyone sits with a space in between themselves, and if I was to single a girl out and sit next to her when everyone has a space next to them, then she would know WHY I am sitting next to her and thats so I can pick her up and I am afraid of her knowing what my intentions are, infact im deathly of afraid thats shes going to find out what I am trying to do if I sit next to her. In the smaller classes its easier since people sit next to you and unfortunatly the good looking girls never sit next to me. So I try to make conov with the people around me.
I do have a gym on campus but, how are you supposed to meet girls in the gym? You really cant ask them to help you exercise, or show you how to use a machine. There is no excuse to open convo.
I really suck at coming up with openers with the right context, it takes me a long time to think of something to say like "Can you help me out?" or "Excuse me, what time is the registration office open" or "What time is the booksotre open till"
I actaulyl sit there for 5 minutes with a blank head and then something pops in. Lol there not that great even.
Im kind of stuck. A person with my limited socail skills and abilites in a difficult environment thats not condusive to socialization (commuter school) makes for a bad combination.
Lol well I might be a social retard compared to you but I gotta start somewhere.
And thank you for all the great suggestions, but I go to a commuter school, so there no dorm parties or frats that I can join.
Yeah I can walk around campus and sit next to a girl and try random conversation but Im not good at it. Most of the time I dont go through with it. Ill be quiet. But thats my fault.
The clubs at my school suck, they really dont meet often, but I havent given them a shot really, so Im going to join a few intrest oriented clubs. But agian there badly organized and none of the good looking girls particiapte anyway.
In class its diffiuclt, most of my classes are 30 people and smaller. I do have large classes two of them in fact, but everyone sits with a space in between themselves, and if I was to single a girl out and sit next to her when everyone has a space next to them, then she would know WHY I am sitting next to her and thats so I can pick her up and I am afraid of her knowing what my intentions are, infact im deathly of afraid thats shes going to find out what I am trying to do if I sit next to her. In the smaller classes its easier since people sit next to you and unfortunatly the good looking girls never sit next to me. So I try to make conov with the people around me.
I do have a gym on campus but, how are you supposed to meet girls in the gym? You really cant ask them to help you exercise, or show you how to use a machine. There is no excuse to open convo.
I really suck at coming up with openers with the right context, it takes me a long time to think of something to say like "Can you help me out?" or "Excuse me, what time is the registration office open" or "What time is the booksotre open till"
I actaulyl sit there for 5 minutes with a blank head and then something pops in. Lol there not that great even.
Im kind of stuck. A person with my limited socail skills and abilites in a difficult environment thats not condusive to socialization (commuter school) makes for a bad combination.
gimmeyofonenumba
Master Don Juan
Ya us commuters really miss out on the advantages of being at a university. I have taken at least 12 classes the period ive been here and it is horrible. No one really says a word to anybody. I think of the 12 classes i've had Im probably the most talkative in everyone of the classes, and out of thoose 12 I think ive met 2 girls that I was attracted to. Matter of fact, I think it'd actually seem AFC to approach a girl after/before class(when i say approach i mean like ask her # or ask her out) it'd seem VERY desperate and out of place.
tryin 2 play
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I have been trying to talk to girls in my classes after class.(commuter) It is kind of tough. Usually start with smething like "what do you think of that class?". May not be the best but whatever.
It does seem weird osmetimes but thats my options right now. Gimmeyofonenumba replied to one of my threads saying to take it slow, because therre isnt much social value in that situation. I think he is right.
It does seem weird osmetimes but thats my options right now. Gimmeyofonenumba replied to one of my threads saying to take it slow, because therre isnt much social value in that situation. I think he is right.
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Yeah class is probably the best place to meet new girls. Like you said it would have to be taken slow.
What do you mean by social value?
Plus I see guys who walk around campus with beautiful girls by their side and Im wondering how in the hell did they meet on campus. There really good looking girls that these guys usually chill with. Im not talking about the average guy, but the alpha kind rather.
Your right there is so much poon walking around in college and its so great, I mean it sucks so bad when you have so many beautiful girls walk right by you but there is nothing credible that you can say to talk to them, becuase there walking or on their cell phone or their faces are solid shut forward.
Using your social circle is a great way to meet people, but what if you dont like the social circle your in, then your screwed.
What I really hate is girls that I want hanging out with guys that I have trouble making friends with, they act really tough and fight all the time, im more laid back and chill and not so tough.
Yeah class is probably the best place to meet new girls. Like you said it would have to be taken slow.
What do you mean by social value?
Plus I see guys who walk around campus with beautiful girls by their side and Im wondering how in the hell did they meet on campus. There really good looking girls that these guys usually chill with. Im not talking about the average guy, but the alpha kind rather.
Your right there is so much poon walking around in college and its so great, I mean it sucks so bad when you have so many beautiful girls walk right by you but there is nothing credible that you can say to talk to them, becuase there walking or on their cell phone or their faces are solid shut forward.
Using your social circle is a great way to meet people, but what if you dont like the social circle your in, then your screwed.
What I really hate is girls that I want hanging out with guys that I have trouble making friends with, they act really tough and fight all the time, im more laid back and chill and not so tough.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
Re: Re: In college, how do I meet girls?
College is "poon-heaven" if you can approach girls. The problem isn't supply. There's plenty of that. If you can't approach girls, there's no difference between thousands of girls in your vicinity and no girls at all. You get the same results.
I'm in the same boat as this guy. I'm around girls everyday, but never meet any. I'm not ugly by any means, either.
Originally posted by Centaurion
I can't believe you asked this question.
College is poon-heaven. There is poon to the left, there is poon to the right. Unless you're a social retard you should be able to meet chicks in your dorm, parties, frats, whereever.
College is "poon-heaven" if you can approach girls. The problem isn't supply. There's plenty of that. If you can't approach girls, there's no difference between thousands of girls in your vicinity and no girls at all. You get the same results.
I'm in the same boat as this guy. I'm around girls everyday, but never meet any. I'm not ugly by any means, either.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
Re: Hm..
This is why I haven't joined any clubs at my school. The only club I would be interested in is the chemistry club, but that's not exactly a melting pot for single attractive females.
This is why I haven't joined any clubs at my school. The only club I would be interested in is the chemistry club, but that's not exactly a melting pot for single attractive females.
Re: Re: Hm..
Chicks are everywhere in college. It's such a beautiful thing. I just broke up with my gf and I had no idea what I was missing. Holy sh!t.
Remember, it's more about HOW you say it rather than WHAT you say.
A firm, assertive, authoritative HEY is 100x better than a weak hey. Remember, everyday it gets easier. Within like THREE days you'll be A LOT more comfortable talking to people than you were on Day 1.
Trust me, girls are a lot more willing to talk to you than you think they are. A good thing to do is just sit next to a cute girl and start talking IMMEDIATELY about whatever comes to mind. Seriously. You'd be amazed. The key is to do this immediately, so you don't get all tensed up with what to say, etc. Just let it flow.
Asking a girl what time the bookstore is open is FINE as an opener. Hell, I asked a random girl for a pen and she ended up giving me her number about 2 minutes later. Don't worry so much about the opener, it's just to get her attention.
Chicks are everywhere in college. It's such a beautiful thing. I just broke up with my gf and I had no idea what I was missing. Holy sh!t.
Remember, it's more about HOW you say it rather than WHAT you say.
A firm, assertive, authoritative HEY is 100x better than a weak hey. Remember, everyday it gets easier. Within like THREE days you'll be A LOT more comfortable talking to people than you were on Day 1.
Trust me, girls are a lot more willing to talk to you than you think they are. A good thing to do is just sit next to a cute girl and start talking IMMEDIATELY about whatever comes to mind. Seriously. You'd be amazed. The key is to do this immediately, so you don't get all tensed up with what to say, etc. Just let it flow.
Asking a girl what time the bookstore is open is FINE as an opener. Hell, I asked a random girl for a pen and she ended up giving me her number about 2 minutes later. Don't worry so much about the opener, it's just to get her attention.
Now I got a question. I come to class early and find a seat. PPl come in , nobody sits next to me, the clas is full and ppl will rather stand than sit next to me (I take showers, and dont look like a crazy man, can makeout with about 2 girls I never met before when I go out ,so I'm not ugly). Whats the problem?
animal crackers
Senior Don Juan
This is what I actually wrote my post
APPROACHING
Last year I went to a university, and girls were always around. Alcohol was around too, but that's always around. I got pretty good at bar/party pickup while I was there, and have messed around with many many girls, and gone all the way with 5. 2 were FBs, the rest were one night stands. It was a good time...
Flash forward/
I'm at a community college now, and drive 40min to school 3 days a week. I talk to girls in classes sometimes, and have gotten together with only one who actually told me to put my # in her phone and made me call her.
But nothing else. IDK man I've gone on a lot of 'dates' in the past 6 months but the ones I did stuff with never called back, one I had sex with and never heard from again. She didn't pick up her phone. I guess that's buyers remorse. I think I rushed things too much and girls weren't comfortable enough. Comfortable=Time and not being needy/wierd.
Also, wierd pattern that every girl I day2 lives at least 30min away. Seriously even my FB that I had last summer/fall.
God I was just thinking a lot about how much different it is and I still haven't figured it out. (Community College)
Who here has success pulling from cold aproach at school?
AC
APPROACHING
Last year I went to a university, and girls were always around. Alcohol was around too, but that's always around. I got pretty good at bar/party pickup while I was there, and have messed around with many many girls, and gone all the way with 5. 2 were FBs, the rest were one night stands. It was a good time...
Flash forward/
I'm at a community college now, and drive 40min to school 3 days a week. I talk to girls in classes sometimes, and have gotten together with only one who actually told me to put my # in her phone and made me call her.
But nothing else. IDK man I've gone on a lot of 'dates' in the past 6 months but the ones I did stuff with never called back, one I had sex with and never heard from again. She didn't pick up her phone. I guess that's buyers remorse. I think I rushed things too much and girls weren't comfortable enough. Comfortable=Time and not being needy/wierd.
Also, wierd pattern that every girl I day2 lives at least 30min away. Seriously even my FB that I had last summer/fall.
God I was just thinking a lot about how much different it is and I still haven't figured it out. (Community College)
Who here has success pulling from cold aproach at school?
AC
hmm
Look at the girl your talking about animal crackers, she never called back, she obviously gets sex, but not from you. Its like these women can get any man when they want, and the move from one man to the next and we are left wondering what happened. Its a messed up world.
Yeah commuter school blows, but I still see guys walking around with girls and its not like it doesnt happen but I wonder how, I see all these tough guys walking around with these gorgeous women.
I feel jealous.
Short of random approaches there's no way of meeting women, you could use your social circle if its good. My social circle isnt that great. I have trouble making friends with guys also.
I guess I got alot of talking to do. Sigh
Look at the girl your talking about animal crackers, she never called back, she obviously gets sex, but not from you. Its like these women can get any man when they want, and the move from one man to the next and we are left wondering what happened. Its a messed up world.
Yeah commuter school blows, but I still see guys walking around with girls and its not like it doesnt happen but I wonder how, I see all these tough guys walking around with these gorgeous women.
I feel jealous.
Short of random approaches there's no way of meeting women, you could use your social circle if its good. My social circle isnt that great. I have trouble making friends with guys also.
I guess I got alot of talking to do. Sigh
gimmeyofonenumba
Master Don Juan
SSJ- thoose dudes that you see walking around with other chicks, most likely met in HS or somewhere outside of school(ex co-worker or something) Im not saying successfull approaches dont happen, cause that'd be a lie. I find the problem with commuter school is the lack of socializing has everyone so shelled up. Which I guess clubs would be the only solution.
class
Class is probably the best place to meet girls, I think.
But class usually has alot of competion, with fit dudes. I mean Im not the best looking guy and Im not going to pretend to be one, Im not built or have bulging chests, so that means to get the hot girls I will have to have those physical things and the mental confidence. But that means in a class or in a club regardless I will have to go for the less pretty ones.
Class is probably the best place to meet girls, I think.
But class usually has alot of competion, with fit dudes. I mean Im not the best looking guy and Im not going to pretend to be one, Im not built or have bulging chests, so that means to get the hot girls I will have to have those physical things and the mental confidence. But that means in a class or in a club regardless I will have to go for the less pretty ones.
Here is your plan.
Go to a party. Get a buzz. Look for approachable girls on the dance floor (girls who are always looking around the room are the girls that want guys to approach them). Go for a grind session. If you are still dancing with the same girl after four songs, go for a kiss. Then take things from there if she's willing. I started late. You're a freshman (I'm assuming), so you get the chance to start early. Do your thing.
Go to a party. Get a buzz. Look for approachable girls on the dance floor (girls who are always looking around the room are the girls that want guys to approach them). Go for a grind session. If you are still dancing with the same girl after four songs, go for a kiss. Then take things from there if she's willing. I started late. You're a freshman (I'm assuming), so you get the chance to start early. Do your thing.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
:cuss:
*bangs head on table*
why why why?
I'll never understand these questions.........
Your in college to learn not get laid....right? So focus on school!!!!
Hot chick in your class is sitting next to you....just make a comment about what your doing......."geez this guy is an idiot"......."can you believe we're going over this again"......"psst,, hey did you get that last part?"......anything works when your in class........
Walking out of class
"hey how did you do on that test?"
"what do you think of this professor?"
"do you understand........?"
Is it really that hard........could you ask your professor questions? So what's stopping you from asking your classmates?
Really the easiest way to get laid in school.....is to know what the hell you're there for...........seriously
Be open in class....make yourself known by talking in class.....if you're afraid of talking in class that's ok...sit in the front row....eventually your input will be asked for........people will start to ask you for your opinion on things inside and out of class.........people will see you on the street and recognize you.......I promise......
You say you have mostly small classes....perfect....you can get better communication in smaller groups than you can in larger ones.
Don't get too freaked out that everyone is sitting with spaces between them in your large classes either....that always happens in large classes......its a personal space thing.......just sit were YOU want to sit....if it's next to some chick just say "Hi" as you sit down......you can even ask "can I sit here"......unless there is some kind of special seating method the teacher has or you smell real bad more than likely she'll say "sure" ........It is a free country right?
Ok now everyman is an island.....in their own head...your mission is to rescue them from that island...he he he
You are at a computer college? Nothin but social misfits and techy geeks.........hey nothing wrong with that........I'm sure 90% of the people there are just like you.
:cuss:
no no no........you are already defeating yourself buddy.....go read the bible on this one......way to big for me to kick your a** about here
They have *Arnold voice* Big Muscles girly man? So what! Are they dumping you into garbage cans? Giving you wedgies? Doesn't seem like it? Screw them.......
Ok this is getting too long...........it sounds like you need to give your confidence some boosting....again all of this is in the bible so I'll be quick......try picking up an active hobby....one that doesn't involve computers, tv's, or inactivity.....try a sport or lifting weights anything to get you out of the house.....but thats just me.....I'm a Crazy Monkey what do I know........
*bangs head on table*
why why why?
I'll never understand these questions.........
Your in college to learn not get laid....right? So focus on school!!!!
Hot chick in your class is sitting next to you....just make a comment about what your doing......."geez this guy is an idiot"......."can you believe we're going over this again"......"psst,, hey did you get that last part?"......anything works when your in class........
Walking out of class
"hey how did you do on that test?"
"what do you think of this professor?"
"do you understand........?"
Is it really that hard........could you ask your professor questions? So what's stopping you from asking your classmates?
Really the easiest way to get laid in school.....is to know what the hell you're there for...........seriously
Be open in class....make yourself known by talking in class.....if you're afraid of talking in class that's ok...sit in the front row....eventually your input will be asked for........people will start to ask you for your opinion on things inside and out of class.........people will see you on the street and recognize you.......I promise......
You say you have mostly small classes....perfect....you can get better communication in smaller groups than you can in larger ones.
Don't get too freaked out that everyone is sitting with spaces between them in your large classes either....that always happens in large classes......its a personal space thing.......just sit were YOU want to sit....if it's next to some chick just say "Hi" as you sit down......you can even ask "can I sit here"......unless there is some kind of special seating method the teacher has or you smell real bad more than likely she'll say "sure" ........It is a free country right?
Ok now everyman is an island.....in their own head...your mission is to rescue them from that island...he he he
You are at a computer college? Nothin but social misfits and techy geeks.........hey nothing wrong with that........I'm sure 90% of the people there are just like you.
:cuss:
no no no........you are already defeating yourself buddy.....go read the bible on this one......way to big for me to kick your a** about here
What the hell do you mean by tough? They have a tattoo....oh no! ha ha ha
They have *Arnold voice* Big Muscles girly man? So what! Are they dumping you into garbage cans? Giving you wedgies? Doesn't seem like it? Screw them.......
Ok this is getting too long...........it sounds like you need to give your confidence some boosting....again all of this is in the bible so I'll be quick......try picking up an active hobby....one that doesn't involve computers, tv's, or inactivity.....try a sport or lifting weights anything to get you out of the house.....but thats just me.....I'm a Crazy Monkey what do I know........
