In A Traditional Marriage, A Woman Don’t Need No Money

[Brother_Rapp]

In A Traditional Marriage, A Woman Don’t Need No Money

A woman don’t need any money. You didn’t know that did you. If a woman has a man, she don’t need a dime. All she needs is enough money to do what he tells her to do and perhaps some gas and cigarette money. That’s it. Certainly not no two or three hundred in your purse. For what? She then starts to get away from her traditional role as the primary caregiver of the home. The guy controls all the finances. The gal does the home.

People only do so much as they have to do and no more. If she has a flat on the highway, should she try to change that tire? If she does his job of changing a tire, why should he? If he was on his job in the first place, she would have had some good tires already on the car. If he had to stop making money on his job to come rescue her on the highway, he’ll put some good tires on that car.

It’s not her job to worry about the rent being paid or if there’s food in the icebox or if the phone might get cut off. That’s his job. All those brain cells that she would burn up thinking about that takes away from her ability to think how she can better their relationship (have his clothes ready for him so he can go out and do battle on his war against poverty, getting his food ready, the kids out the way so he can rest and what perfume that she’s going to have on when the two of you snuggle up in the bed that night). That’s her job. If he can’t handle his job, then she should get a divorce and go find somebody else. Choose better next time. She don’t B*tch in the guys ear. If it ain’t worth getting a divorce over then she should shut the F*ck up.
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[DrMetallica]

I think she should get money if she wants a new purse or something but for the most part, wtf? If u got a girl that is a housewife, she has got rent paid, utilities paid, a tv, a bed, a computer etc.

And I think it's ridiculous that some feminists are demanding a salary for being a housewife.

 

[Climax]

hmmm...

In my opinion, a woman must also work in a relationship and also make money... I will never marry a girl that doesnt have some form of income... She cannot rely on ME to give her all the money etc... She dont have a job/income, then out the door she goes, simple.


Laterz...

 

[MetalFortress]

^My view is the opposite of this one. My income will be more than enough.

 

[Climax]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
^My view is the opposite of this one. My income will be more than enough.

So your wife will sit on her a$s all day and just take your money? I guess if you have children then what u are saying is ok, but when i marry the woman to begin withm she will have to be indipendent when it comes to money, so that I'll also KNOW that she sint just marrying me for my money. If at a later stage we have kids, then THATS when it will be fine by me for my wife to stay home and become a house wife, but until then, i will expect her to also have a job and contribute to the income, regardless of what MY income is.


Laterz...

 

[Brother_Rapp]

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With the onset of the decline in high paying jobs relevent to standards of living over the last quarter century, it has become neccessary in a number of families that both husband and wife work(or girl friend and boy friend shacking up) in the job market. (People have to do what they have to do.) In such cases, the primary caregiver should relenquest her check to the primary bread winner and yeild to his decisions on how the money is spent. They may consult with each other, but there can only be one that has the final say.

I would think that the main reason, if not one of the most important reason, for getting married is to have children.In an ideal situation, a couple would get the things that they want and / or feel that they have to have before having children. Having children takes the primary caregiver out of the job market for an extended amount of time. If the accumilation of the things that a couple want and / or feel that they should have is interupted by a pregnancy or an unintended consequence of an action taken by either party (stock deal gone bad), an amount of blame is placed by each party upon the other, if both parties make the decisions.

If the primary caregiver faults the primary (and I might add traditional) bread winner, she is bringing into question his ability to lead and demonstrating a lack of faith in her decision in regards to choosing him as a mate.

If the primary bread winner faults the primary caregiver for her part in the making of that decision, he is bringing into question his decision to allow her to participate in the decision making process at all. Sort of like it's a "your fault too" thing.

Now you have an argument between the two. Everybody is looking crosseyed at each other and there ain't no good sex for a while between them. So what happens then? Often infidelity follows, then divorce and a bunch of bad feelins.

Separation of responsibilty in a relationship is key to it's long term stability. Primary caregiver takes care of the home. Primary bread winner decides the finances.

If she ain't doing her job, he gets a divortce and moves on. If he ain't doing his job, she gets a divorce and moves on.

Why does she need some money to decide what to do with it? That's not her job. If the rent is paid, the phone is on, there's food in the icebox, entertainment is taken care of,along with some other things, then what's the propblem? She has no bytch.

If any kids that they have are kept clean and taken care of, the house is clean and ready to relieve any of his frustration with love and is supportive of his decisions, then what's the problem? He has no bytch.

A lot less problems.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

I have a neighbor a few houses down that I highly respect. He works hard while the wife stays at home to take care of the little children. In an age where real men are a rarity and you can find them in john wayne movies and Bible stories, my neighbor is one of the few left!

He works hard so his wife doesnt have to, and she can stay home and does what is the most important job of any married couple, taking care of the kids so they grow up to be good people.

I don't ever plan on getting married but If I did I would first have to have a really great earning job so I can do what my neighbor does. I would never let some child care center take care of my kids those places mess them up. There is no substitution for a loving mother. Of course it helps that I live in a town where you can pay rent and support a family with just 1 person working. Anyone that is thinking of ever having a family needs to move somewhere cheap where this is still possible. There are many places where it isnt (california with sky high rent prices, new york etc)

femininism has made women think that getting a job is more important than staying home raising the kids. This of course has led to tons of problems with young people these days. They have nobody to raise them right so instead they do what tv and their culture and friends do.

 

[SamePendo]

My wife will work as a hobby. Not as a nescecity to live. As MentalFortress said, my income will be more than enough. If my income isn't enough, I'm not ready to get married.

 

[Vincent]

It's hard to take someone seriously when they sayd "Don't need no money" in the title.

Which is a double negative so you're saying a woman needs money.

Hmmm ô¿o

 

[Wyldfire]

In Traditional English, A Sentence Don’t Need No Double Negative...

Anyone who thinks that an adult should not have or doesn't need money of their own is a control freak.

 

[Brother_Rapp]

Vincent

"It's hard to take someone seriously when they sayd "Don't need no money" in the title."


I thought about it after I wrote it. It's the dialect. Think about that song "Ain't No Mountain High Enough". You get the point.


You can be pickey, if you like. None the less, the question is a serious one. You can make a comment on the question or not. It's up to you.

If you feel that it is somehow beneath you to comment on questions that you deem or posed in ways that are out of the mainstream in it's use of the English language, that's okay too.



Wyldfire


"Anyone who thinks that an adult should not have or doesn't need money of their own is a control freak."

If you are a woman and the guy controls the money for the benefit of the marriage in the paying of expenditures, what's the problem? If he has it and she has him, then she has it as well.

Hey.. I also believe that the traditional housewife should run the house. The furniture in a house is where it is so long as the wife wants it there. If she wants a T.V. moved, then it should be moved. I also think that she should run the social life as well. If she wants to go out, they go out. If she wants to go to Hawaii, the guy should try to set some plans for making it happen. However, a smart woman will not ask for more then her guy can do. She will want him to live and support the family for as long as possible. She will not want to run the guy into the ground. If he comes home tired, she'll have a back rub and a nice bath waiting for him. That's a smart tradional wife. What does she really have to worry about anyway. He'll probably die before her anyway. Look at the statistics. There's a reason why men die before women.

 

[Brother_Rapp]

Don't you think that a wife should be as nice as possible to a guy that is willing to beat both his mind and body up in an effort to take care of the family and who will probably die before her because of it?

I guess that there are some women born to bytch. You just can't make them happy no matter what. Ungrateful is what some people call them. I call them divorced.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Brother_Rapp
Vincent
You can be pickey, if you like.

The way someone says something displays a lot about the question they are asking.

 

[Kerensky]

Originally posted by Vincent
The way someone says something displays a lot about the question they are asking.

Dude, it's a forum. Also, if you wanna be picky about grammar, you messed up too my friend:

You used "someone" as the subject, but refer to the question asker as "they." The question asker should be "he or she" to be congruent with "someone."

I kinda agree. I think she needs some money, but not like...humongous amounts. Plus, my marriage will be like we have to agree on buying things over $1000 USD or something like that. My income will also be enough to sustain us both. Like someone said, if it isn't, then I'm not ready for marriage.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Kerensky
Dude, it's a forum. Also, if you wanna be picky about grammar, you messed up too my friend:

You used "someone" as the subject, but refer to the question asker as "they." The question asker should be "he or she" to be congruent with "someone."

Uh no, they can be used in replace of he or she to help with the flow of the paper. But I'm not trying to be a grammar nazi here.

 

[Kerensky]

Originally posted by Vincent
Uh no, they can be used in replace of he or she to help with the flow of the paper. But I'm not trying to be a grammar nazi here.

Chillax my man. I was just kidding. btw, nice job sarging with Dmitri and the other guy. The advertising guy.

 

[Brother_Rapp]

Vincent

"Uh no, they can be used in replace of he or she to help with the flow of the paper. But I'm not trying to be a grammar nazi here."

If this topic and the way it is presented bothers you, why not start a topic on grammer?That way you can make use of the skills you have instead of faking it on this topic.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Brother_Rapp



If you are a woman and the guy controls the money for the benefit of the marriage in the paying of expenditures, what's the problem? If he has it and she has him, then she has it as well.

Hey.. I also believe that the traditional housewife should run the house. The furniture in a house is where it is so long as the wife wants it there. If she wants a T.V. moved, then it should be moved. I also think that she should run the social life as well. If she wants to go out, they go out. If she wants to go to Hawaii, the guy should try to set some plans for making it happen. However, a smart woman will not ask for more then her guy can do. She will want him to live and support the family for as long as possible. She will not want to run the guy into the ground. If he comes home tired, she'll have a back rub and a nice bath waiting for him. That's a smart tradional wife. What does she really have to worry about anyway. He'll probably die before her anyway. Look at the statistics. There's a reason why men die before women.

In my experience, the type of man who has this kind of view are control freaks. I say this because I was married to one. Notice how I said "was"? It was a HORRIBLE experience and to be perfectly honest with you, if I had to choose between having to live like that again and death I would choose death. There are aspects of being "traditional" that I agree with, but having one person not have any money is absolutely ridiculous. A woman should not have to ask for money when she needs tampons, wants to buy gifts, or be stuck stranded on the side of the road with a broken down car without money for a tow truck or cab...etc.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Brother_Rapp
Don't you think that a wife should be as nice as possible to a guy that is willing to beat both his mind and body up in an effort to take care of the family and who will probably die before her because of it?

I guess that there are some women born to bytch. You just can't make them happy no matter what. Ungrateful is what some people call them. I call them divorced.

It is neglectful and abusive to insist on the woman you supposedly love not have any money to buy the things she needs or to handle an emergency situation if it comes up. For a woman to look good (like the man she is with expects of her) it takes money. Makeup, haircare products, visits to the salon, nice clothes...it all takes money. What if she gets stranded in a bad area and has no money? How does she make any calls, get a cab or bus fare to get home? And what if she has children with her? If she broke down while doing errands with the kids in the car without money, what if the kids get hungry or thirsty? Then they suffer over some stupid idea that the woman doesn't need to have money.

 

[PRMoon]

If I marry up with my prospect, she'll be a lawyer. I think it'd be cool to get free legal advice, and she'll make a bundle too.

Can't argue with that arrangement.