In A Mess, Never Experienced Anything Like It

[Disco]

I have been with my girl 1.5 years. We talk about marriage, working together etc. During this time we have had some arguments. She has a really quick temper and doesn't seem to ever fully trust me. Anyway, now we live together and we've had some problems. Last week she lost it and managed to turn into something i have never seen. She said things like "i'm glad you were abused as a child" and "i wish someone would come in here and blow your brains out". Obviously I have never heard anything like this. The next day she gets here dad and I am asked to leave the apartment. She also changed her phone number. I don't get this, how can a person just eliminate you from their life like this?

I was told to be back on Thursday to get my dog and my things. That morning, she left for Japan for 10 days, her dad called me and said "she said you can stay at the apartment but you and the dog have to be gone by the 13th"...the day she comes back. I don't get that move either. What is happening to my life?

 

[Ambition Now]

What you have to do is focus on your own life and be as selfish as you can be in this situation... Run away as fast as you can!!!

Her IL has droped massively and she is probably f*cking someone else right now who she might be having huge IL.

I hate it too, sometimes when they have no interest in you anymore they tend to be the most disrespectfull bitc*es in the wolrd, they become those angry monsters that want to destroy your life no matter what.

They dont care if you were a good man and you both used to have plans for your happy future together, its all about the present moment, and in the present moment you have to go "no contact mode" and disappear!

Point of no return in here.

 

[Ambition Now]

You stood there and took this? I would of smacked that biitch on the spot. What kind of man with any semblance of a backbone would tolerate this level of disrespect?

I'll tell you what is happening to your life; you are a fvcking wuss and allow everyone to take turns pissing down your back and tell you it's raining.

Nobody on this planet; man, woman, nerd, bodybuilder ever again talks to you like that without violent punishment.

I wish my reply was like that! Lol

 

[Just a Shot Away]

Nobody on this planet; man, woman, nerd, bodybuilder ever again talks to you like that without violent punishment.

What kind of advice is this? Yeah, REAL men hit women when they start mouthing off. This would've been the best choice in this situation. Feed off of your emotions, hit the woman, wait for her to go get her Dad, enjoy jail for 6 months to a year with a domestic violence conviction on your record. VERY nice.

Honestly, I'd just be thankful that she revealed herself to be a nutjob early on before they actually DID get married. But it could also be that she cheated or IS cheating, and maybe even snagged an STD. In which case she would be doing the right thing by breaking it off as quickly as possible, since there would be no good reason she could give you without revealing this.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I just had a friend go through a very similar experience, but it took him three years to break off with the girl (after she'd been abusing him again and again).

Consider this a gift, that this woman is no longer going to be draining your psyche, and focus all of your energy on how to improve yourself, cultivating a deep inner love.

 

[grayclif]

You stood there and took this? I would of smacked that biitch on the spot. What kind of man with any semblance of a backbone would tolerate this level of disrespect?

I'll tell you what is happening to your life; you are a fvcking wuss and allow everyone to take turns pissing down your back and tell you it's raining.

Nobody on this planet; man, woman, nerd, bodybuilder ever again talks to you like that without violent punishment.

Word!

 

[Prodigy746]

What kind of advice is this? Yeah, REAL men hit women when they start mouthing off. This would've been the best choice in this situation. Feed off of your emotions, hit the woman, wait for her to go get her Dad, enjoy jail for 6 months to a year with a domestic violence conviction on your record. VERY nice.

Honestly, I'd just be thankful that she revealed herself to be a nutjob early on before they actually DID get married. But it could also be that she cheated or IS cheating, and maybe even snagged an STD. In which case she would be doing the right thing by breaking it off as quickly as possible, since there would be no good reason she could give you without revealing this.

that is totally true... i have said the same things many times before ...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Did Ashton Kutcher come out and punk you?

No, your just been dealing with a pyscho. This may of left you hurt but, be glad that she left you.

 

[slaog]

You never said WHY she lost it? Whats the full story? It's likely she has met somebody else and was looking for an excuse to get rid of you. She showed a complete lack of class so congrats for dodging that bullet.


I'd advise not to hit her. Be above the name calling because its just words coming from an angry headcase.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

I can't believe all the bs I'm seeing in this thread. I am with the other sane poster, DonS: that would be the hardest b!tchslap and I would never apologize in a bedroom, counselors office, or court of law.

One man at a time...

 

[f283000]

You made 2 mistakes

1. You moved in with your girlfriend: A man should only live with 2 women in his life. The first one is your mother as you are growing up and the 2nd one is your wife if you ever get married. Moving in with your girlfriend is a mistake countless guys have made and learned from over time.
2. You let her put you down: The moment she said those vile things to you was the time you had to put her in her place. The moment you let a woman walk all over you is when she loses all her respect for you as a man.

1. Women like men that stand up for themselves: obvious one
2. Women like men that they are afraid of: If she isn't afraid you are going to neg her for her bs/princess attitude/ or put her in her place when she misbehaves you won't last long with her.

 

[prairiedog24]

For those of you advocating physical response... WTF. I totally get that you should train yourself never to accept this kind of behavior. But being a barbarian is just as bad as being a wuss.

In another year I'm going to be making a living throwing idiots who take this advice in jail for a few years to contemplate how much it helped the situation.
Damn it people, once you cross that line to where violence is acceptable because you're mad, you have to go further and further to make a point, and pretty soon someone is seriously hurt or killed.

Grow up. You're not cool.

 

[Alle_Gory]

For those of you advocating physical response... WTF. I totally get that you should train yourself never to accept this kind of behavior. But being a barbarian is just as bad as being a wuss.

Really. What a bunch of tools. Unless the b*tch hits you first, hard, there's no excuse for hitting a woman. They're just words. If she's misbehaving, then apply non-violent punishment. Unfortunately you couldn't kick her out and ignore her for a few weeks, that's why you shouldn't have been living together.

 

[eaglez1177]

I have been with my girl 1.5 years. We talk about marriage, working together etc. During this time we have had some arguments. She has a really quick temper and doesn't seem to ever fully trust me. Anyway, now we live together and we've had some problems. Last week she lost it and managed to turn into something i have never seen. She said things like "i'm glad you were abused as a child" and "i wish someone would come in here and blow your brains out". Obviously I have never heard anything like this. The next day she gets here dad and I am asked to leave the apartment. She also changed her phone number. I don't get this, how can a person just eliminate you from their life like this?

I was told to be back on Thursday to get my dog and my things. That morning, she left for Japan for 10 days, her dad called me and said "she said you can stay at the apartment but you and the dog have to be gone by the 13th"...the day she comes back. I don't get that move either. What is happening to my life?

Wow man. You should not have hit her back at all, but still, did you really take that sh*t she said to you? Thats SAD it you did. Have a pair of fvcking balls, b*tch that fvcking cvnt right out of the house.

I would fvcking sabotage that apartment while shes gone if I was you. Teach that cvnt a fvckin lesson.

 

[K.Pez]

From what you've told us, it sounds as if she is inadvertently saving you from making a big mistake.

Send her a thank you card

 

[DonGorgon]

Its been over.. she is in love with another man and resents the fact that she still need you for something (place to live, help with bills , AFC attention etc)
Extreme irrational anger is a direct side effect of a female who has emotionaly moved on long ago and feel trapped physically.. by you..

WHAT DKO YOU DO?

Leave now!! No explanations nothing just vanish..

 

[acehole]

Well sounds like a fvcked up AW of some sort kind of like my 3 yr ltr im in sort of well according to her were broken up now and we live together. She alreayd knows i messed around with someone else etc. But this weekened she made out with a friend of mine so obv I got mad. She kept on lyaing the blame on me and mad at me for her making out with my friend or ex friend. anyways this weekened she said some fvcked up sh1t to me and was like yea Im leaving blah blah...if you dont stop im going to lie and say you slapped me so my friend will kick your azz. This is coming out of the mouth of a girl Ive done so much for and still do meanwhile shes a b1tch and doing stupid sh1t and making up lies. As soon as she said that I was like ok bring him down here and well see what happens when theres one of him and 10 of my friends. She backed down etc. But still saying fvcked up sh1t.
The only time the b1tch responds is when Im a d1ck its sickening. SHe tells her parents im bad blah blah becaues i yell at her for doing drugs every weekened (which she forgets to mention to them) and the same goes for her friends whom Ive never had a problem with she says all this fvcked up sh1t aobut me when ive literally done nothing. SO fvck her and you should do the same and let your b1tch go. shell probably come back if you do but it will be temporary.

 

[blinkwatt101]

Your leaving a huge part of this out I can tell already.

There is no saving it. Grab your stuff,part your ways. Keep your cool and move on.

 

[slaog]

Imagine if one of these symp's Mother was violently gang raped and then beaten to death, and I looked them in the eye and said "I'm glad your Mother was gang raped and killed." The symps would apologize away my words, curl fetal and spend their lives "seeking their inner buddha."

Anybody who says things like that are obviously not right in the head. If somebody said something stupid like that to me I wouldn't be bothered. Why stoop to their level?


Laugh the bit*h off. Show her she means nothing to you by not giving her anymore attention. Thats how DJs deal with nobodies.