Walk this Way
Don Juan
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- Mar 2, 2004
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I have little time, but need a lot of help. Not professional help; I feel like I missed out on the fundamental laws of friendship back in kingergarten. I was doing alright before, but now things have gotten very strange these past few months, especially after my old groups of friends left.
Some background: I am a male, 16, an Indian, a junior in high school. I am intelligent - certainly in the upper portion of the top 5% of the our class academically. I am culturally intune, a musician (electric bass guitar and flute), a writer, a tennis player, and am involved in a number of clubs and activities in our school. I run regularly for exercise, workout a little. I'm 5 foot 7, 132 pounds, fairly buff. While I may sound like the stereotypical Indian, my attitude and views are uniquely mine and I certainly don't mean to have any of that self-centered, secluded air that some Indians are deemed to have - I'm more fun-loving, funny, and have a cool streetwise spirit.
This is not a post about girls. I am in no position to pursue girls right now. I have guy friends at school, but we almost never hang out outside of school. This is partly my fault...I have not initiated anything more than checking out movies. My best friend is my ex-girlfriend, shes goes to a different school, and we're such great friends that we've already decided to go to school in the same city, room together, and start our own business together. I'm open with her, we can talk for hours, she loves my personality and especially my sense of humor and creativity. She has a boyfriend, but this post is not about her either, so it makes no difference. Her friendship is just proof that I have it in me to be the kind of person that people would enjoy being with.
In any case, I would like more friends, both female and male. I want to at least get invited to some parties, get invited to sit at lunch tables, hang out in whatever free time I have, and in short become a more social and open person that people appreciate. My best friend got upset when I mentioned this to her, saying that I simply lacked confidence and that I cared too much about what everyone thinks of me, and that I'm just afraid of rejection and failure. Of course, not being in my school, she cannot know for sure. I know she is right, but if I'm going to fail, I at least want to know I was heading in the right decision, so I arrived at this site. People here know the real world and how it works, and I know that learning from the successful is the road to success. I know this will not be an overnight process, but I want to learn the attitudes, techniques and information on how to become socially smart. I want to learn these lifelong skills of communication. And I'm willing to take the risks and face the challenge.
Please relate to me any advice you feel appropriate. Thank you. I've gone through the bible, but if there is anything in particular you feel I should focus on, I would appreciate it.
Some background: I am a male, 16, an Indian, a junior in high school. I am intelligent - certainly in the upper portion of the top 5% of the our class academically. I am culturally intune, a musician (electric bass guitar and flute), a writer, a tennis player, and am involved in a number of clubs and activities in our school. I run regularly for exercise, workout a little. I'm 5 foot 7, 132 pounds, fairly buff. While I may sound like the stereotypical Indian, my attitude and views are uniquely mine and I certainly don't mean to have any of that self-centered, secluded air that some Indians are deemed to have - I'm more fun-loving, funny, and have a cool streetwise spirit.
This is not a post about girls. I am in no position to pursue girls right now. I have guy friends at school, but we almost never hang out outside of school. This is partly my fault...I have not initiated anything more than checking out movies. My best friend is my ex-girlfriend, shes goes to a different school, and we're such great friends that we've already decided to go to school in the same city, room together, and start our own business together. I'm open with her, we can talk for hours, she loves my personality and especially my sense of humor and creativity. She has a boyfriend, but this post is not about her either, so it makes no difference. Her friendship is just proof that I have it in me to be the kind of person that people would enjoy being with.
In any case, I would like more friends, both female and male. I want to at least get invited to some parties, get invited to sit at lunch tables, hang out in whatever free time I have, and in short become a more social and open person that people appreciate. My best friend got upset when I mentioned this to her, saying that I simply lacked confidence and that I cared too much about what everyone thinks of me, and that I'm just afraid of rejection and failure. Of course, not being in my school, she cannot know for sure. I know she is right, but if I'm going to fail, I at least want to know I was heading in the right decision, so I arrived at this site. People here know the real world and how it works, and I know that learning from the successful is the road to success. I know this will not be an overnight process, but I want to learn the attitudes, techniques and information on how to become socially smart. I want to learn these lifelong skills of communication. And I'm willing to take the risks and face the challenge.
Please relate to me any advice you feel appropriate. Thank you. I've gone through the bible, but if there is anything in particular you feel I should focus on, I would appreciate it.
