Improving social skills

[DopeFiend]

Alright my social skills are severely lacking. I'm going to go out and just practice.

One thing though, I am weary about talking to guys for fear of being labelled the gay guy by all. I'd like to talk to girls as well, but sometimes I may have to talk to guys.

If a guy started asking you personal questions would you think he's gay? Do guys do this?

When talking to a girl should I just sort of interview her?

Why is it that nobody goes around talking to everyone?

 

[AFC-Murdaz]

dude hwo do you do it? do you just go out and meet everybody? cause i almost have no friend and want to make some and i dont know where to start
library isnt a start because the one across the block is a children's library

now i am stuck

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

school and parties are the best place to meet people imo....

Just talk to people in class/lectures, smalltalk and expand... Get to know people, get invited to parties, meet more people....

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

This topic and the responses prove the biggest points on this website. When an honest question is answered, NOBODY seems to answer it.

If you are in college or school, that's great that you can talk to people, but if your closer to 30 then 20, you aren't in class and in many instances, the people you work with, well, lets just say, not everybody works with hot women and young guys who you could hang out with. That is called life and that is also called reality.

How do you improve your social situation? Just go out and do it.

Even if you think it's awkward at least try something. But if your one of those extremely introverted individuals, it would be far easier for you if you did go out with a close buddy who wasn't an introvert.

 

[b's nuts]

I only have a small peice of advice for this, because im not naturally introverted, i make friends easily - in fact a lot of the friends I have now, i don't even know how we all started hanging out in the frist place, just good company I guess. So here is my suggestion, and im sure many will disagree but you have to realize everyone has their own thing. start smoking pot. once you start puffing, you are going to be introduced into a whole new social circle. If you know some people toke, and you have a stash, then you could just ask them to go smoke. Every one will chill and talk and you will all be relaxed and you will make new friends this way. When I started smoking (high school), all of the sudden I was hanging out with the most popular kids (that I didn't even know smoked before) and after that I was in ever since. I don't know, every one has their own route, but for me that just helped me relax, stop picking fighs with everyone, and meet some really cool people. (by the way, im not a hippy, hippies stink like dog sh*t).

 

[DopeFiend]

Funny that you should mention that b'nuts. I am 19 and during my younger years that is all I did. Well I took it a little too far and started moving bricks.

So here I am living at home with moms and pops and realizing that whole time block was just a mask for my retarded social skills.

So again, what can I talk about? I don't know about personal questions. Should I just go around and be like oh what school do you go to? what do you do on your free time? And if I asked this to other guys isn't that gay as in wanting to know them more personally? It's not like they're my friends so I'd think I should maintain a distance. I am far off from reality all. I need some sort of game plan all and then I'll improvise when needed.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Just remember this, it's a lot easier making friends at 19 then it will be at 40 and so on.


Most of the time you have more opportunity to do things now, thats just the way it is. As you get older you have more responsibilities, even if you remain single.


Either your not that far removed from high school and/or you are in college, it's not unusual to ask people what they do, where they go to school, what major they are, what are there plans, where they hang out at, etc.

Just forget your lack of social skills and forget what people will think of you, just try and go out and meet new people.

 

[RandomGuy]

Try the Gym.

you can help spot those guys and girls. make small convos like how long u been working out. do you use any protien powder.

blah blah. keep it in context

class, ask about test scores, assignments, school in general.

play sports. join a tenis class or a basketball class.

 

[jbbrain]

Originally posted by b's nuts
(by the way, im not a hippy, hippies stink like dog sh*t).

****, this is why I love this site