Impossible to No Contact. FVCK.

[SmooveMooves]

Hi, I'm Smoove.

Just want to share an experience.

Recently, I just got out of a LTR. 6 months. That's long for me. We broke up by unconventional standards. No I didn't beta backslide. No she didn't cheat. No she didn't break it off with me and ignite a massive quest for me to reconquer he love.

I simply ended it cause' we were incompatible.
Point blank

She was cool when we were friends but as the relationship began and time progressed, I just started not liking her as a person anymore. I felt like she wasn't a herself and she didn't even know who her true self was. Her life revolved tabloids, the media, and her friends opinions.

Nevertheless, I ended it, but the way my social circle is, I am constantly forced to be around her 5 days a week. No contact is the way to move on after an emotional investment. (Not oneitis) But my constant exposure is making it extremely tough. And I am spinning multiple glorious plates.

But I don't fret, because at least I know why. When a healthy relationship ends, who typically has a tougher time moving on? if you're on this site, we all know its the male. This is because women can desexualize you making you unattractive, allowing them to move on. Just think about it, you ever have a ex whose no-good treated you like sh1t, but hot. What do you say In your head everytime you see them. "I'd still fvck her" This is because from a evolutionary standpoint Males have no reason to discard a past mate. Males still need to reproduce, and any potential mate is keeping them around of achieving their biological goals

So that's my issue. My ex was looking like a Victoria's Secret model today and I'm faced with endless thoughts of "Id still **** her". My oh my how sexilicious she looked today. tsk tsk tsk
Gotta power through

-Smoove

 

[Suspens]

But I don't fret, because at least I know why. When a healthy relationship ends, who typically has a tougher time moving on? if you're on this site, we all know its the male. This is because women can desexualize you making you unattractive, allowing them to move on. Just think about it, you ever have a ex whose no-good treated you like sh1t, but hot. What do you say In your head everytime you see them. "I'd still fvck her" This is because from a evolutionary standpoint
So that's my issue. My ex was looking like a Victoria's Secret model today and I'm faced with endless thoughts of "Id still **** her". My oh my how sexilicious she looked today. tsk tsk tsk
Gotta power through

-Smoove

We are jealous, and it won't go away anytime soon. Another endless thought is "Damn, who is fvcking her tonight"

 

[Bible_Belt]

So keep fvcking her if that's what you want. Sex and relationships are two completely different things; it doesn't have to be a package deal.

 

[Suspens]

So keep fvcking her if that's what you want. Sex and relationships are two completely different things; it doesn't have to be a package deal.

"You only want me for sex? No way..."

How to deal with that?

 

[SmooveMooves]

So keep fvcking her if that's what you want. Sex and relationships are two completely different things; it doesn't have to be a package deal.

Shes quality enough that you must be in a relationship to get your penis wet. and plus that's not my goal. Haha, I want to move on but these are thoughts and emotions I get and can't control.

 

[donking]

Bro, this last time I had to put some finality to the situation. The sex was good with the ex, however she wasn't. I felt she owed me some sheet and made that clear. I was too "nice" again with this one. She wired me some money thinking I wouldn't accept it. I took it - now no contact hahahaha. You have to force yourself man. I'm glad I didn't end up as the nice guy chump and glad to leave on my terms.

You will find another chick down the road. GO work out and improve ur finances.

Also, I was more of an ass w/ my ex-wife. She still wants me lol. I bet you went too nice and "cared" too much about this one.

 

[sylvester the cat]

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[Dgwizdal]

Sharing my own experience:

I got booted after 9 months because I was an a$$hole that wouldn't commit. In a fit of rage after a d!ck move I pulled - She told me that I don't like her for who she is, that I didn't want the same things as her, and that she can't waste time with someone who doesn't want to move forward. I always kept her at a distance and she as more a less a "plate girlfriend" as I was banging chicks on the side.

Admittingly - I didn't treat her the greatest but even up to that point her attraction was through the roof to my indifference. Anyway - I basically said "ok" and then cut contact. Never back slid and was basically a case of a$$hole game gone wrong for me. No monkey-branching to an alpha bc I was a nice-guy faggot here.

6 Months later (today) I am banging one of her friends for the last few months and the ex is still completely single. Doesn't even go out at all really to attempt to meet new guys. We have had limited contact unto which she is pretty catty to me when she's drunk but will be completely submissive the moment I check her, or will leave the place I am at completely when she knows im on the way. She's a b*tch to the new girl im banging. HOWEVER the last month - Any cattiness immediately goes out the window during our very low contact if I start showing her any interest or kino - she's all about it. She deleted me off snapchat and phone but recently re-added me and been inviting me over but I haven't replied.

She's girlfriend material so I might give this another shot but I'm going to let it marinate a little more. I honestly think her breaking up with me was to gain some power or validation and bring me in closer but since I called her bluff - she wont risk looking like a fool attempting to get back together. She's stubborn as a mule, feisty, and fragile.


Anyway - not to hijack your thread here but I don't see why you can't play this to your advantage. Whether you get broken up with because you're an impossible catch or You broke up with her - YOU have the higher value - and you should been out banging other chicks and making sure she finds out. Why wouldn't you turn this into a situation where you're still f*cking her or could if you wanted?

Sounds to me like you dumped her before you were ready and now she's flipped the script...

 

[SmooveMooves]

Sharing my own experience:

I got booted after 9 months because I was an a$$hole that wouldn't commit. In a fit of rage after a d!ck move I pulled - She told me that I don't like her for who she is, that I didn't want the same things as her, and that she can't waste time with someone who doesn't want to move forward. I always kept her at a distance and she as more a less a "plate girlfriend" as I was banging chicks on the side.

Admittingly - I didn't treat her the greatest but even up to that point her attraction was through the roof to my indifference. Anyway - I basically said "ok" and then cut contact. Never back slid and was basically a case of a$$hole game gone wrong for me. No monkey-branching to an alpha bc I was a nice-guy faggot here.

6 Months later (today) I am banging one of her friends for the last few months and the ex is still completely single. Doesn't even go out at all really to attempt to meet new guys. We have had limited contact unto which she is pretty catty to me when she's drunk but will be completely submissive the moment I check her, or will leave the place I am at completely when she knows im on the way. She's a b*tch to the new girl im banging. HOWEVER the last month - Any cattiness immediately goes out the window during our very low contact if I start showing her any interest or kino - she's all about it. She deleted me off snapchat and phone but recently re-added me and been inviting me over but I haven't replied.

She's girlfriend material so I might give this another shot but I'm going to let it marinate a little more. I honestly think her breaking up with me was to gain some power or validation and bring me in closer but since I called her bluff - she wont risk looking like a fool attempting to get back together. She's stubborn as a mule, feisty, and fragile.


Anyway - not to hijack your thread here but I don't see why you can't play this to your advantage. Whether you get broken up with because you're an impossible catch or You broke up with her - YOU have the higher value - and you should been out banging other chicks and making sure she finds out. Why wouldn't you turn this into a situation where you're still f*cking her or could if you wanted?

Sounds to me like you dumped her before you were ready and now she's flipped the script...

I understand your viewpoint but I think people are interpreting my post wrong.
Allow me to clarify.
I dumped her because I really didn't like her enough as a person to be in a commited relationship with her. She's smoking hot. So seeing her everyday isn't helping my cause' . Since were together for so long I developed an emotional attachment. to Break this you must have NC. which is impossible. in other words I'm ****ed for a while.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Shes quality enough that you must be in a relationship to get your penis wet

For you, maybe, but only because you believe that nonsense. The next guy who comes along might fvck her on the first date, provided that he does not sell himself short with such self-limiting beliefs.

 

[donking]

I love it when a girl tells me I'm the fastest she's ever moved with. Such a joke. Believe no woman unless you see blood on the sheets.