Immaculate, let me offer my two cents on a couple of issues here.
First, let me preface my statements by saying I am a long time member here, and have continued to read many of the posts here, although i havent posted under my old name in quite some time.
OK, as for your drunk driving. Heres what will happen, but first let me ask is this your second or third one? The reason i ask is one and a half years ago, i was leaving a restaraunt after having 2 beers and one rum and coke with dinner. I did not in any way feel buzzed. As soon as i pull out I see a cop behind me, lights on. I pull over. He says he pulled me over because the light is off on my liscense plate. Come to find out that that is now the way that many policeman are now using to pull you over for no reason. Especially those coming out of bars and in small towns like i was in.
Anyway, he asked me if I had anything to drink. I told him i had. He then gave me all the tests-which i passed, and proceeded to the breathalyzer, where I blew a .081. Thats right, .001 over lol. I was arrested (I had maybe one speeding ticket my entire life before this) spent the night in jail, and released on bond.
Here is what you and your lawyer will go though, assuming this is your first offense. First, you will have a pretrial after a month or so. Then, assuming all is going ok, you will go in to plead-where you will plead not guilty. Then, maybe 4 months after the night this happened, and again assuming this is a first offense, you will go in and accept a deal from the D A to a driving while impaired, not to a drunk driving. You will pay a fine of around $1400 plus court costs, your lawyer fees, a resinstatement fee to get your liscense back of around $200, and a drivers responsibility fee of
$500 for 2 years each assuming you are like my state, plus of course your insurance will go up. You will also have to go to an alcohol treatment center so they can determine if you are an alcoholic lol.
In ddition, your liscense will be suspended for 3 months or so, under which you can drive, but only to work or school. Your liscense will then be fully reinstated. There is NO WAY they will suspend your liscense for a year unless you have more than one offense. NO WAY.
DUI's are now the police departments #1 way to make money, which is why they now are so addament about pulling you over. It is a crock, a bunch of BS, but what are ya gonna do? Ya gotta drive right?
As for your girl problems, i have come to the conclusion, and please dont take this the wrong way, but when it comes to women, you are insane
. You are just as crazy as the women you talk about. Im not joking. The way you flipflop back and forth, the way you talk one way but do another, the way you stayed with this crazy girl even though you swore she meant nothing to you-its nuts. Lets face it, if the crazy girl had wanted a relationship, you would have in a heartbeat. Why? because you are desperate for a relationship at this time. Im not trying to bash you, but to help you. You can get out of this way of thinking, but it will take time. And now, when you are depressed with no girlfriend, a drunk driving, and everything else, you go running to the ex to soothe your depression, because you are afriad to face whats out there alone, not knowing if you will ever be happy.
Now, this ex of your may very well be a sweetheart, im sure she is, but its obvious that you are only taking this woman back because of your desperate situation, not because you truly love her, and that IS NOT FAIR not only to you, but also to HER. And having this girl come live with you right out of the blue like this? What are your thinking man? Stop, take a deep breath, and re-evaluate. Life is not that bad. Yes, the DUI can be aggravating. I know that I dont even think about driving now if Ive had a drink, and I just had to pay another $500 driver responsibility fee, but its not the end of the world.
Believe it or not, last year i was almost in the exact same situation as you. Had just received my DUI, and my gf and I broke up. And like you, after my DUI I went to her out of dispair saying i want to make this work, even though deep down i knew it wasnt right. I eventually made the right choice and stayed away from her, got my driving situation taken care of, and now am in love with a WONDERFULL woman who I love more than anything in this world.
I guess what Im saying is, life will get better, this isnt the end, and you can get yourself out of this rut. But to do this, you really need to evaluate what in your life you want, and figure out how to get it.
