I'm trying to hard to not care, I really am.

[Viper]

I'm trying hard to really not give a damn what anyone in HS thinks, but it's not really going so well. I still care what other people think of me, I still care about getting rejected, I still care about woman. I try telling myself to not care about these things, but that hasn't worked either. I want to stop caring, because once I stop caring, I can have fun in my life without being worried about impressing someone else/what someone else thinks. For instance, when someone teases me about my bad voice and laughs at me and calls me a retard infront of his jackass friends, I want to just be able to walk away and ignore them, not to feel a need to get revenge. I still care about what girls think about me, what random *******s think about me, I even care about what people I've never even talked to before think about me. My goal, is to stop caring, but most of the things I've tried already haven't worked and I'm hoping you guys can give me some enlightenment.

And please, if you don't like the topic, DON'T ****ING POST, I don't need your bull****.

 

[Inquire]

if someone calls u out. dont walk away. confront their ass. if they want to start ****, give them ****. sometimes that's how u get respect, by standing up for yourself, even if u get ur ass kicked.

heres a tip. get ur eyes to look thugged out. like u done stuff and ****. like "im gonna **** you up if u mess wit me" get ur eyes to look serious. some chicks like tat.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by Inquire
if someone calls u out. dont walk away. confront their ass. if they want to start ****, give them ****. sometimes that's how u get respect, by standing up for yourself, even if u get ur ass kicked.

heres a tip. get ur eyes to look thugged out. like u done stuff and ****. like "im gonna **** you up if u mess wit me" get ur eyes to look serious. some chicks like tat.

It's not that serious dude. Plus, people would probably think I had anger problems if I did this over something so little and eventually I probably get a "Rep" as a "Scary" guy, rather than a tough guy. This isn't the main point of the post either, the main point is I want to stop caring.

 

[Anomalous]

Alright f*cker no need to get pissed off when we didn't do anything!!
Just go rent Fight Club and watch it everyday after school for 1 week.

You'll see a new bad ass viper.

 

[Inquire]

ohhhh, by the way i dont mean like knock his ass out if he says somethang. just say like "you wanna start ****?" or "u wanna ****en start somethang?" no one will think u have anger probs jsut you stand up for yourself, even if its tat little.

and for not caring...hmmm, i meditate, but i think a good way is tat get fit and do it fight club style like whyshy.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by Noob
i used to be exactly like you all depressed and ****... i used to be rejected by everyone... i go so depressed and used to think that i have no real friends... seriously.... but then i found this site and i improved my self bit by bit.... and now i am a very sociol person... im definetely not where i want to be (with a girlfriend and 100% confident) but im defnitly getting there... bit by bet taking baby steps...

anyways back to the subject... ive rapidly became popular over the past couple of terms... and about 95% of the people at college i get on with... BUT there are some haters out there that are just jealous... that your more popular then them... like today there was this one guy who came to me and my friends thinking he was all big and stuff trying to diss me... but i just ignored him and chatted to my mates.. pretending to not hear him, and when i did i would just laugh at his jokes and say "yeh man im such a loser" in a sarcastic voice... anyways i seriusly couldnt give 2 ****s about what epople think about me any more... personally i think ive acheived this by...

improving my self phisically trying to correct any faults with my appearance... ive lost weight and gained lots of muscle... changed my hair style... i use lotion for my dry skin... and i where the best aftershaves aswell... i where the latest fashion...

and after ALL of this i started to actually beleive i was better then the haterz... because i look better then them... and because of sosuave i am more succesful with the ladies then they are... so gradually i gained more and more confidence... and after all of this here i am today... not a full DJ yet but getting there...

This is good for dealing with punks like those, but still how do I stop caring so much about what girls, preps and gossips think about me?

 

[Anomalous]

Originally posted by Viper
This is good for dealing with punks like those, but still how do I stop caring so much about what girls, preps and gossips think about me?

B*tch i told you already, rent the fvcking movie!!:box:

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by whyshy
B*tch i told you already, rent the fvcking movie!!:box:

Just tell me what it is about this movie that apparently would help me more than any 'advice' as you make it seem.

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by Viper
Just tell me what it is about this movie that apparently would help me more than any 'advice' as you make it seem.

Watching that movie gives you the I don't give a f*ck kind of attitude and it just makes you want to anything you normally wouldn't want to do. See for yourself and let us know how it goes.

 

[AustinG]

i dont advise talking **** back becuase if he is actully hard then he will hit you and unless you know how to fight you will make yourself look stupid

 

[08aisaac]

Concerning Fighting

Oh Man, have I got some stories about fighting.

You have to fight them, you just have to.

I mean one time I said something about thisone kid, and he totally beat the **** out of me. I mean he comes running, and I am scared as ****, and he then tackles me, and almost breaks my glasses, and then he kicks me as hard as he can in the side, and I don't even notice because I am so incapacitated.

And at that moment in time, I was soooo unpopular. But I started to get pissed. I mean I really got mad, and I used my anger towards change, and by the time I found this site, I was already the man I am, minus the chicks. lol.

Basically you have to have some sort of motivation for change, besides girls. I think you have that, and now you just got to get in a few fights. After a few more fights, I had this style down, of total ofensive. I mean I would totally get pissed, and just start swinging, and the kid knew I am pissed, and he was somewhat scared, but I just went phsyco on his ass, and everyone commented on my phsyco style, and I just told them I was pissed.

Eventually I had it down to where I could beat the **** out of anyone. But yeah, you have to get in some fights, and you have to really fight dirty, just no nut kicks. ok.

What I do these days, because I love Bruce Lee movies, is watch them on pause, then use the step button, which makes it move one inch at a time, and really break it down. Of course, this will make you want to fight, and even though no one wants to fight me at my new school, I really want to meet a punk ass and fight.

So watch Bruce Lee, he's the master. And get in a fight. When you are about to fight, trash talk his mother if you have to, just get him pissed, and you pissed, and it should be a battle of wits, and of course you are smarter then him, and you ahve the knowledge of Bruce Lee, on your side.

Go Viper Go Viper!!!

 

[OUTCRY]

Ummm, i wouldnt advise fighting unless you feel like watching your back wherever and whenever during the school year......you get in a fight in my school and theres always revenge......... What I would do if I were you, is start makin a joke out of him. Like when you stroll into class(or when he does) just say "O look, puccy boys here" with a smile. Just keep eggin him on. Talk about his clothing, girls, freinds anything. Just be prepeared to take some hits as well.....but be ready for them!!!!

 

[Kaynen]

dude it looks like youve got yourself a bad rep at school, so its going to be very difficult to change peoples negative views of you.

all i can think of is, that you have to do something completely crazy. i mean start a fight with someone or something. do anything for people to start noticing that you are somebody.

Dont waste your school life just making it through. Im lucky my older cousin told me this before i went to school. So im telling you.

 

[i am me]

Aight Vipe...I'm gonna tell you straight out that if someone was doing sh*t to me, I'd care. Of course you're gonna care. They're messing with you and you can't just completely ignore it. What you have to do is stop WORRYING. I'm not one for violence, especially if you're messing with some kids from the hood because that could be dangerous. You have to stand up for yourself somehow...and I'm not exactly sure HOW yet but I'll tell you if something really bright comes along.

As for worrying about girls, don't. It's a waste of time, really. Just talk to them and be yourself (but at the same time, work on improving yourself). About your voice, search the site because I think there were a few threads about improving your speaking voice...

Also, it's definitely NOT good to not have friends at school. Friends (usually guys) are a must because at the very least, if you're not doing so good with the ladies and bullies, they're gonna have your back. They'll make high school a much more enjoyable experience because you can just do whatever with them and have fun without worrying.

So answer this for me because I'm curious: Without friends, what do you do at lunch/snacktime? Who do you talk to? I couldn't imagine high school without my boys....

 

[Kidd]

Originally posted by Viper
It's not that serious dude. Plus, people would probably think I had anger problems if I did this over something so little and eventually I probably get a "Rep" as a "Scary" guy, rather than a tough guy. This isn't the main point of the post either, the main point is I want to stop caring.

So you want to stop caring and you care about what rep you're getting? Wtf?

Stand the hell up for yourself.

 

[Inquire]

jsut rent the ****en movie and u will find out everythang!

fight some people, u lose some, u win some, stop being afraid!

where the hell do u live, ill come and help ur ass out.

 

[08aisaac]

Yeah be the guy people like. Stop focusing on girls, and get friends, and don't make so many useless approaches. I mean don't approach a girl for the sake of approaching her, you have to have a reason, like you actually want to get to know her, and not just some horny bastard. I don't see speed seducyion, or instant attraction working for you atm, and it will just bring you down, if they reject you.

When improving your self, start with the mindset. It's all about that. I find that I am in the DJ mindset when I am doing something I enjoy doing, and I am happy. Just try to find happieness outside of girls.

 

[Viper]

This is some good advice.
Although, I already tried fighting a few of these guys and I got my ass chin-checked infront of the whole school last year. So I know that **** isn't going to do anything.

 

[Holland]

You're caring about caring man. I only have one advice: get out of this whole area for a while, man. Focus on something else you're having fun at doing. You're spending waaaay to much effort on thinking how you want to improve.

With all these viper threads, dude, I'm really starting to think if you're even worth our time.


There is nothing new
Put in front of you
Nothing you don’t understand
Don’t try to rationalize
No one hears your lies
Only you can comprehend

You don’t want to see
You don’t want to hear
You don’t want to feel at all
Tell me that you’ve tried
Mind is open wide
But you’re not listening at all

Please don’t question me I don’t have the time
If there’s a problem that it’s easier to set aside

 

[Royal Elite]

The toughest guy you knows was once a little boy who cried and played with toys, but through some form of motivation he changed.

You need to surround yourself with a different envioronment to start thinking different. Like homey said earlier rent movies like fight club, brave heart, the lord of the rings with the big battle, king aurther, gangster rap music, too short music, snoop dog music, pimps up hoes down, the mac, american pimp and watch and listen to theses movies and music everyday until you start to change. You are nothing more then the environment you are around all day long. the mental stimulus you put into your brain on a regular basis.
Do this and you will quickly start to change.
Get the book pimp but iceberg slim also.