I feel this guy's pain so much that I will share with him a story that I have never told anyone.
I remember about ten years ago when I was so lonely I could cry. I was not only the quiet type but was mildly introverted. If it weren't for the fact that I was considered to be attractive by quite a bit of females, I probably would have never gotten dates because I rarely approached women and got used to them coming on to me and used it as a crutch for most of my life.
As I got older, I discovered that females tend to approach or reveal their attraction to males a lot less often and my boyish good lucks was succumbing to age (started to look more like a man I guess). Women were not coming on to me as much any more and I was stuck in a position where I had to learn how to actually communicate well enough with strange women to get them interested enough in me to date me. I wondered how would I ever do this. I was shy and my approaches to women didn’t have any umph!
I decided to buy a book to learn how to communicate well with women. I took that book every where with me. I took it on the L train, the bus, to work. Everywhere!
What stands out in my mind to this day and is one of the most profound and vivid memories of my life ( I still remember what I wore that day and where I was headed). When I finished the book, right after I read the very last word, I began to imagine myself being a guy who could actually walk up to not just any freak but up to anyone and start a conversation. While I imagined this I asked myself, “can this actually ever be me? Could I ever be able to approach anyone and hold a conversation no matter who it was?”
This moment was so pivotal and important in my life that I will admit that I actually did cry while I stood waiting for that train that day. They were tears of joy because I felt that I was finally free of my shyness and introverted prison after reading this book. Soon, I was striking up conversation with women around every corner as well as anyone who I felt like I wanted to talk to.
A couple of months later, I decided to move to a different state and start a new life with the new me. Three months after reading that book (Yes, three), I was in clubs challenging my new friends to how many women I could “pull” that night and how many numbers I could walk away with. I would win every time. I was heavily motivated and enthusiastic.
At this moment, I still can’t believe that I was ever that shy introverted person. I am almost a completely different person. I talk to anyone whom I choose, I can be the loudest guy in a group sometimes, I am considered a good conversationalist, and I date often. Now when my friends and me go out, they expect me to sniff out the hottest woman in the joint and “pull” her. It doesn’t always happen but I am always willing to try.
In retrospect, the book I read was sort of AFC (don’t ask me the name of it because all you need is the DJ Bible. It’s the best set of guidelines I have ever read on the subject of attracting freaks). But it got me started and put me on the road to changing my life.
But nothing is more gratifying than the time when I was about leave one of my past jobs to begin my career and one of my bosses shook my hand and told me that I would be very successful because I have "great people skills."
My suggestion is to read the DJ bible thoroughly. Buy a new ink cartridge and PRINT, PRINT, and PRINT. Take the articles with you everywhere you go and READ, READ, READ. And, of course, None of this does any good if you don’t PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. Your life will change and you will soon discover that you can still feel lonely even if you have several women in your life.
