im so insecure i dont know what to do guys..

[DasaniWater]

My gf whos 17 years old, just started school. I graduated already last year. im so insecure lately i dont know whats going on, its like she turned the tables on me and im like soo obessed with her, so damn crazy about her, so insecure, so afraid of losing to her i even admit all this to her and i tell her myself (bad??). Well anyways she started school, first day of school she dresses all beautiful, gets her hair done, and then she tells me she talked to people blah blah blah but she only admitted to talking to one guy who was fat (coicidently, every guy she admits talking to is fat or gay, or stupid or a retard, but i feel as if she is just lying cus she doesnt wanna fight and she has kept things from me in the past she does it all the time because she doesnt want me to get mad at her so yeah im afraid of her keeping crap behind my back).. so yeah

second day she puts in green contacts, quote from her "Im putting them in so you can see me i want you to see me with them". okay so i walk to her school and then 5 seconds after school ends she takes the contacts out (WTF? I thought you wore them for me??) shes like "well you saw them" .. im so ****in insecure or AFC i even ****ing ***** about her outfit and how she wore those contacts to look sexy for other guys... i dont know whats happened to me. i want to marry this woman i think thats why...

she tells me she is crazy about me and swears she wants to marry me and all that stuff, but her actions i dont know her actions dont really prove it.

For example, i told her i wanted to see her this morning cus ihad no work today, and she kept making excuses not to see her, about 10, i took the hint, she told me to go see her at 11:45 (she has a short schedual) and even admits that no one will be around so i can see her (Is she ashamed of me, i know im not ugly, im know im good looking, but is she jsut ashamed or trying to hide the fact that im her boy friend from the people at school???)

2nd example, she doesnt really tell me much yet in her myspace comments she says how she made "SO MANY" friends at her school. wtf? I thought she made 0.. whatever no big deal right.

3rd example, she wants me to buy her a dress (Im already buying her a 1800 dollar laptop, a 250 dollar gift card to her favorite store, and this picture i took 8 hours to make for her), now she wants a dress for homecoming. but oh nevermind she says after mentioning it "i might not even go to home coming though i dont know if i dont want to, (WTF? WHY? BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT GUYS TO KNOW U HAVE A BF?")

4th example, this ***** from her old school . (oh yeah, she transfered to a new one and this is her senior year) , ***** from her old school gives her a guys name a foot ball pl ayer, i got so damn pissed, this ***** has a mole on her forhead and i wanted to cuss her out (BEING AFC??? WTF IS WRONG WITH ME)..



I feel like im going to lose my gf cus im so afc. i mean i fight with her about her outfits about her friends and i know girls dont lik ethat and i cant accept the fact of my gf talking to guys cus **** it makes me feel like shes a cheating slut...


what do i do... ****....... whats wrong with me.... is it good to show my feelings and argue about this to my gf or do i hide them?? god damnit i just wish she would be honest with me, but then again all girls are lying sluts right? im new to this so maybe i need to accept it...

 

[DasaniWater]

hm

if u can plz give me on advice about making my gf feel this way about me... i mean.... wtf? do i just mimic how she is with me and then she will start feeling how i feel?? or what? maybe im doing too much and her doing too little = no balance?? what do i need to do plz help

 

[DasaniWater]

fddsfs

P.S, my gf LOVES TO DANCE, in fact she takes dance classes for like 4 hours a day and ****, and shes been in so many performances and all that, but she doesnt want to go to homecoming? WTF DOES THIS MEAN?! am i just being AFC / PARANOID>??????????????

 

[DasaniWater]

a

do i talk this out with my gf like i haev been doing which = us figghting or just like not even ****in mention it and hide how i am feeling inside or what... what.. damn why is it so hard why cant it be simple.. love sucks

 

[KillaCam]

Ok, look, dude..I got through about half of that and I couldn't do it anymore.

You are horribly weak. You guys are just fvcking kids, and you're saying that you feel like you want to marry her? Jesus dude, slow down.

You are AFC, but you won't lose her. Because she's having fun using you as a doormat. Why the hell are you buying her an $1800 bloody laptop? And why the hell are you spending 8 hours making a gift for her?

Grow some god damn balls. I'm sorry, I can't put it any more simpler than that. You're not acting AFC, you are AFC. I'm being harsh, yes, but..how could have have lead yourself down this path?

You're her doormat. I'll say it again to make sure you understand. You are her doormat.

Love doesn't suck. Because you're not in love.

Be a man.

EDIT : Read the DJ Bible buddy.

 

[sexy_kuta]

yea guy.. u wanna improve

first step is to leave this girl

second step is to aviod all relationships and get ur self first going.. u gotta build confidence.. u gotta build a new u.. because ur fuked.. u chased this girl for over a 2 years.. and shes ****ing u with big time... i rememebr all ur past threads

leave this girl ASAP.. cut off all contacts.. ALL CONTACTS guy

and leave her alone

and read the dj bible.. build ur self image first before u get into the game

 

[Scorched]

walk away

You are destroying your self...
This reminds me of that saying... "If you want to be happy marry an ugly woman..."
This girl seems far from ugly to you... At least at this point in your life...

What you consider "love" is mainly sexual/situational attachment...
You are blinded by those two things...

I'm not throwing bull**** around either man. I've been in your shoes... I went through VERY similar ****... I seriously just wished I had walked away after we started having problems... Once we had lost that trust, nothing positive came out of it! I had graduated, she was still in high school. A month after her senior year started... I got out of college early and caught her high school's quarter back at her house, I snapped... I wanted to kill him, and I might have... He got in his car and I busted out his window and tried to pull him out, at that point the girl's mother pushed me and I realized I needed to just walk away... I had just bought her a computer a few months before and a 500$ dollar bracelet... yeah... I was an idiot... The whole time she was talking to someone else... I was too blind to notice like 20 red flags...

Now about 2 years later I'm such a better person... That girl I had dated in high school is trash to me and in comparison to the women I've dated recently...

No matter what I say, you are going to pursue this girl... And its going to **** up your mind... Sooner or later you'll be single and at that point you will slowly become a man...

 

[sexy_kuta]

ask ur dad to kick yo ass everytime u talk to that woman

that should do the trick

 

[blueguy]

Dude. I don't care what anybody says here. You should take back that laptop and get your money back. lol.

$250 gift card. She wants you to buy her a dress.

Where have you been? Hiding under a rock?

"Oops!... I Did It Again"
"My Humps"

She is using you. Duh.

 

[Sir Juanalot]

Just give her your credit card, thats all she seems interested in.

 

[arlanda]

Are you for real?!?! Do yourself a favor and leave that girl immediately.

 

[wayword]

3rd example, she wants me to buy her a dress (Im already buying her a 1800 dollar laptop, a 250 dollar gift card to her favorite store, and this picture i took 8 hours to make for her), now she wants a dress for homecoming.

Wow. Just WOW.

I think you have one of the worst cases of AFC oneitis I've read about in a good while...wth is wrong with you???

 

[skip2mylou781]

DasaniWater - here is the last thread you made before this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107739

now, can everyone stop helping this useless flaming AFC

u diss out the whole entire site, and then a few weeks later come back whining again for advice??/ ****in emasculated *****

 

[Bvbidd]

Troll..

 

[skip2mylou781]

no hes not a troll....i truly believe he is having this problem, but hes a ****in HYPOCRITE for completely bashing sosuave into the ground just on 8/20 and now on 9/1 hes begging for advice

retarded

 

[DasaniWater]

yes

i know what i said in my past post and im not trolling this is the truth and i know i fcked up but things were a lot different when i postd that, some how things haev changed really fast and i got this damn feeling all over me like damn shes in highschool now without me and i know what she can be capable of i know whats happened in the past (she dumpedm e last year cus she said she couldnt settle down so soon, and seh wantd freedom next year "this year" and to be able to date guys but no sex while still being with me")... she swears and shes cried (i made her cry like 5 times this past week cus how pissed off i get from being afc), and she swears she loves me she swears she wants to marry me blah blhah blah.. but her actions.. her actions..... i dont know, she talks to guys all over the school i know she does and i know shes hiding it from me should that make me mad or no... maybe im way too over reactive. anyways i DIDNT but her the laptop yet i PROMISED HER i would for our anniversary *oct 4".. but after reading one of your stories thats so close to mine i think its not a good idea im so damn afraid ive been depressed lately like my gf doesnt want to be seen with me at her school and that pisses me off.... she makes so many lame excuses. i was supposed to go meet her at the school for her lunch at 11:45, and shes expecting me too but im not going..

 

[Slevin]

Im already buying her a 1800 dollar laptop, a 250 dollar gift card to her favorite store

If you haven't bought her these yet, DON'T!!

Seriously man, kick this chick to the curb.


Also:

i made her cry like 5 times this past week cus how pissed off i get from being afc

You didn't make her cry, she is crying purposely to manipulate you. I would to if it got me an $1800 laptop.

 

[Randomer]

ok. EVERYTHING ELSE aside... bottom line is no way do you spend all that money on her, plz... dont do it... lol

 

[arlanda]

Give the money to Redcross instead - here's a link for ya http://www.redcross.org/donate/donate.html