Im Sick Of This!! Help Me Get A Hot Girl

[gottagetthatgirl]

Alright, I live in the La area and there are so many hot girls that its insane. I always consider these type girls to be high maintence or think they are. But I got to thinking today, I am better than a ton of guys out there and I deserve a girl thats really beautiful.

So im on a mission to get beautiful girls! They are everywhere around the area. How do I get them? I dont have a car, can I turn this into something good though?

I can get any girl I want and will. Im sick of failing with girls. What can I do guys to break my cycle? Im doing something wrong, im just too nice and shy around girls I guess.

Can you guys point me in the direction of some good guides and books to read? Thanks

 

[WC2]

Books will not open a page to a hot woman.

You say you're better than most guys out there; go out there and prove it.

When you wake up tomorrow morning and read this post, grab a shower, throw something decent on and go out and find a woman.

Start your conversation with "Hey, my name's ____, I'd like to know yours."

If you're a higher quality man than all the others, you'll have sex by dinner time. Guaranteed.

 

[gottagetthatgirl]

Thanks but will this work? I figure I just need to know and not care about the outcome. I need to hit up Target or another store and just talk to girls. I should not give a flip what they think about me and not care what they are thinking of me.

I mean I can get any girl I want right? How would I act if I could get any girl I want? I would treat the girls like a fat girl that im not attracted to. I dont care if she likes me, I do what I want to do. Does this sound like a plan? Thanks

 

[Igetit!]

Thanks but will this work? I figure I just need to know and not care about the outcome. I need to hit up Target or another store and just talk to girls. I should not give a flip what they think about me and not care what they are thinking of me.

I mean I can get any girl I want right? How would I act if I could get any girl I want? I would treat the girls like a fat girl that im not attracted to. I dont care if she likes me, I do what I want to do. Does this sound like a plan? Thanks

Well,it might be helpful if you could give a detailed description of how you generally talk to girls you like. For example,in the past,when you've approached girl,how did you do it? And be specific,don't leave out anything.

Say:

What you said.
How you said it.
What the girl said in response.
did she seem interested or not.
What types of conversation topics you bring up.
What type of energy do you bring with you.

On the last one,what I mean is,when you approach a girl,do you apprach more like:

Hi,how you doin' today? What's your name?

OR:

Do you just already be in a talkative,upbeat mood,talking about whatever,and you just draw her in to whatever it was you were talking about.

I agree with WC2 in just going out and meeting women,but if you just continue doing whatever it was you've been doing,you'll just keep getting what you've been getting. If you're REALLY SICK of failing with women,and I mean seriously,then you'll have to be willing to try some things more than likely that you've never done before....which is good. If you do something you haven't done before,then you'll get a reaction from girls that you've never gotten before,which is what you should want. Unless you just want to continue with the status quo.

I do have a suggestion or two that I think might help you out,I just don't know if you're strong enough to handle it,because it'll feel like jumping out of a plane. Yes,it will be scary. You sound kind of like I used to be,the only difference is when I got "sick" of failing,I REALLY got sick of it,and I went out and just started doing random things,and I mean saying things that I would never thought I'd say to a woman. And you know what? The responses I got were like night and day compared to what I used to do. If you really are serious,dude,you're going to AMAZE YOURSELF. You're also going to feel stupid. When you realize how something so small and simple as a slight adjustment to your energy level and the words you say can make such a HUGE difference,you'll kick yourself. You'll be like,"Was that it? You mean I've been failing all this time,and all I had to do was X?".

And I'm not joking about this,I'm serious. You'll just have to be at a point where you're ready to take that leap of faith.

 

[Allurre]

First, make a list of why you may be failing with women. Not having a car may be a problem, but isn't the major one. If your're in L.A, it'll be difficult getting around from A to B without a vehicle.

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[gottagetthatgirl]

thanks alot guys! Ok lets get to what I say when I approach a random girl:

Last night in the grocery store I said:

Me: Have you ever tried these organic chips?
Her: No, sorry. I actually dont eat chips
Me: Never?
Her: No, I stay away from them

I didn't catch a high interest so I just said ok thanks and left. She wasn't making eye contact and was trying to pretty much leave while we were talking.

I usually start a conversation by asking something like "are there any other grocery stores around here?" or something like that. Pretty much I will say anything, and yes sometimes I do act nervous.

But im getting alot better at that, im really losing the nervous side of me around girls since ive been out here.

Igetit, I dont care how nervy it is to do. I will do it, I dont care,lol. Please tell me what you are taking about. I've come to the realization that these are just girls we are talking about. All my life I have "raised these girls to a high level" and thought wow I got to be perfect to be with her etc.

Shes just an insecure girl!! LOL, it really feels good to truely realize that. I dont have a car, I think thats my biggest mental hurdle right now. But i've seen guys without cars get tons of girls, so this should not be a problem.

Allure, im signing up for that newsletter now Guys, I can do this! But one thing, im not just looking for random hookups. Im actually looking for something a little more long term. THis can still be done right? I know alot of guys dont care for the long term here but I do, ive hooked up with my share of random girls at clubs and im not looking for that.

I feel confident though and im realizing that no guy has more to offer a grl than me. If she doesnt like it then she can f**k off as far as im concerned. Theres a ton of girls out there, im just going to play it as a numbers game and get a ton of numbers.

Anyways im open to any more advice, feel like im making some headway here Thanks alot!

 

[Kevin Feng]

Hey buddy,

There are a LOT of PUA's here, L.A is the PUA capital of the world, all the top name PUA's are here. Girls get hit on so much here it's ridiculous.

That being said, you don't really need to read any books, I'd suggest reading one or two like Revelation or Double your Dating by David D.

Aside from that there is absolutely no substitute for sweat. The first mistake I think you're making is that you're already outcome dependent. You said you're "sick of not getting hot girls", well hey, get in line buddy, like the rest of us. At this point, don't focus on the girl, focus on your skillset, focus on getting through the basics, THEN you can worry about the hot girl.

As far as places to hit, I'd almost tell you to stay away from the club scene, it's a little vicious for newbies, great place to practice, but I find day game to be more effective.

 

[gottagetthatgirl]

Thanks Kevin. But what should I do? My main problem is closing and getting the number. Im just going to be confident and say what I want to say, but how do I actually ask for the number without sounding desperate?

What is a PUA? Guess I need to know that since LA is the PUA hotspot,lol.

 

[Damascus]

What's a PUA? So getting beautiful girls is all about the confidence? I thoght it was about complimating them.

 

[gottagetthatgirl]

ok guys. I went out today to a few stores and tried my game. Heres what happened:

The first good looking girl I saw was looking at some seafood. So heres how it went:

Me: Is this salmon any good?
Her: I dont know, I dont eat it
Me: Oh, well you should. Its good for you
Her: Yea I know, it just taste too fishy for me
Me: Yea, I dont like seafood really, except popcorn shrimp with crust on it.
Her: Oh, I dont like shrimp

I did not really see much interest out of her as she went to talk to the fish cutter guy. So she talked to him about cutting some fish and I hanged around waiting for her for like 2 mins and decided to leave.

About 5 minutes later I ran into her when she was looking at some ham. So heres how that went:

Me: Did you get any salmon?
Her: Yea I did, I got the guy behind the counter to cut me some
Me: Cool, I didnt get any
Her: Oh really
Me: Yea I think im going to get ground beef instead
Her: Laughing

But I didnt catch a high interest so I just left plus she wasnt my type girl, she looked like a porn star and probably was considering this was on sunset. But I guess I should have followed through just to get a girl to contact to use as bait for other girls.

Ok next I went to another grocery store and actually got a girls number. Heres how it went:

Me: Whats the best wine?
Her: Um this brand is good
Me: I dont like dark wine, I want the clear stuff.
Her: Oh well then try this
Me: Ok, I hope its good
Her: It is, im stocking up because me and some friends are having a party tonight
Me: Oh thats cool
Me: Whats your name?
Her: Linda
Me: Im Corey
Her: Nice to meet you
Me: Whats your number, we can hang out and drink sometime
Her: Um ok.......yea we could do that
Me: alright, then whats your number
Her: she gives me her number and ask me to help her find a wine
Me: I dont know where it is
Her: so what do you do?
Me: Im here for comedy
Her: your a comedian?
Me: yea

then we made some small talk about that and I think I hung around too long because she started to lose some interest it seemed. At the end I felt she lost alot of interest.

Now heres the bad part too. Later today I saw this girl again at another store. She acted freaked out and kinda ignored me. I went past her and said "looks like your stalking me" and she just gave a weird look. So that didnt go well and honestly shes probably a lost cause but I dont care.

So I got her number and will contact her soon.

Next I talked to 2 more girls and basically I didnt catch a interest from each one so nothing came from it.

I was very "who cares" type attitude. It worked well at first with the girl who gave me her number but her interest started declining the longer I hung around.

So all in all it was a good learning day. But now I want to also know what should I do next? When should I contact this girl and what should I say?

I will try some more tommorrow, but now I need to know the next steps guys,lol. Thanks for the help all Looking for more help!

 

[LDBaha]

You won't really catch "high" interest when asking about salmon.
Just ask her about the salmon and then say something like "are you from around here?" and cling on to whatever clues she gives you and you're set

 

[Strongsauce]

What is all of this? Reading your dialogue is givin me a headache. No girl is going to be interested in salmon or organic chip talk. You need to make it interesting.

You need to turn to the fish guy and be like, "So what's the catch of the day?"

He says halibut or some **** and then you turn to that hottie real smooth and say, "I beg to differ..." *wink*

Will it work? Probably not. Does it have a better chance of working than talking about supermarket fish selection? I'd say so.

 

[gottagetthatgirl]

so what do I talk about guys? Im confused here, what do I need to talk about? Theres nothing to talk about in the super market.

 

[pua1989]

dude make fun of them or something...like if shes grabbing organic chips be like "fvckin hippies and their organic chips" be a fvckin a sshole "hey hows the salmon here?" WHO CARES

screw LA girls and screw girls from SOcAL im a socal resident for life but even i know the girls here are fvckin lame....what ive found: the girls from up in norcal and higher are sooooo much more down for the D and all around just chiller girls not as materialistic and just fun to chill with

 

[Igetit!]

so what do I talk about guys? Im confused here, what do I need to talk about? Theres nothing to talk about in the super market.

Dude,what do you mean what do you talk about? Well tell me this:When you approach these girls,why are you doing it? What are you after? What do you hope the end result of your approach to be? Is it to get a date? Well if so,then THAT'S what you talk about. LDbaha and Strongsauce hit the nail right on the head. They said EXACTLY what I was thinking. When I read your account of what you said to them,there was something I noticed. I noticed that after speaking to these girls,you said that "you didn't see much interest",and you said,"I didn't catch a high interest". Well,DUH....what did you expect? You approach girls talking about ham and fish,then you're shocked that they didn't seem ROMANTICALLY INTERESTED?

I mean yeah,as a opener,this is fine,but you can't spend the entire conversation talking about food. Eventually you need to transition from your opener to what it is you really want. Otherwise,she'll find it strange that this guy is having a prolonged conversation with her about ham and fish.

Look,if you want to get a raise on your job,but when you talk to your boss,instead of mentioning the raise,you talk about the basketball game that was on tv last night,and how so and so scored 35 points,yeah,you might have a good time discussing the highlights of the game,but you won't get the raise. What,is the boss supposed to be psychic and somehow know that when you brought up the game that you really meant you want a pay increase? Sorry man,it doesn't work that way. If you want a date with a girl,you need to bring it up. You can't talk about fish,ham,and/or whatever other meats you have in mind and expect her to know that you're interested in her.

Now of course,you can't just go around from girl to girl saying,"would you like to go out?" because more than likely,you'll come off as being needy. This is something you'll need to think about to know how to approach and show you're interested without doing it in a needy way.

To me,it seems like you're trying to play it safe. It's lke you're hanging around a girl talking about whatever hoping she'll figure out that you like her without having to risk rejection. YOU CAN'T DO THAT. and even if you did hang around her long enough to where she did figure out that you like her,she wouldn't be attracted to you because she'd also figure out that you're too afraid to approach her. She'd be turned off by your FEAR of rejection. You know the thing I mentioned in my previous post about suggesting to you? You are SOOOO not ready for it. You need a little more innergame knowledge to do what I had in mind.

However,look on the bright side. You did get a number. So I applaud you for at least having the courage to try...and continue trying.

Just keep on learning and working on your innergame stuff from the post and articles here on the forum.

 

[gottagetthatgirl]

Thanks guys

I dont want to come off as looking desperate though. So I can use what I did as openers but need to let her know I have interest in her?

But I still dont get it, am I suppose to talk about how im interested in her or just flirt then get her number? I guess im clueless guys

Ok so I can open but thats where I go down hill.

Igetit, but I dont understand. I start with the opener but then tranistion into what I want from her right? I want a date, but I thought would make me look needed if I started talking about the date and asked her out. Thanks for the detailed reply by the way!!