I'm Really Interested In This Girl (High School)

[Don The Magic Juan]

I'm a 15 year old Freshmen in High School. I been a reader for awhile now and I am searching for some advice on this. Well I have a girlfriend right now and am really nice to her. We get in arguments a lot but at the end of the day I know how much she means to me, even though it is silly to say this at my age I do love her. She's the first girl I ever did stuff with. Thing is I got caught cheating on her once and I have come to really like this girl that I cheated on her with. She does have a boyfriend and although she doesn't think to highly of him (he's a loser) but doesn't seem to want to break up with him. I am really interested in pursuing a relationship with this girl that I cheated on my girlfriend with. I met this other girl at a dance on April 13th. We talked to each other on the phone for a few hours every night for a week and we finally hung out together a week after the dance. We hung out at her friends house (her friend is another gorgeous girl that has one every beauty pageant she's ever been in). After about two hours I was on the bed with the girl on top of me making out. I gave her a few kisses on the lips and she kept going for tongue and I gently pushed her away. Soon I had her begging for me to kiss her. She kissed up and down my neck and then went to lips and whispered "Please" to me. She had one hand down my pants while we were making out as well. When I left she was hugging on me and seemed like she was going to miss me a little. So then we both got caught cheating the next day. My girlfriend found out about it. So two days after got caught the girl was having a bad day and decided to tell me off and we didn't talk for awhile after that. Apparently she told her friend that she didn't like me because she didn't think I liked her. Then just a few weeks ago we started talking again, only this time she realized that I like her so it's going to be really hard to try to get her to chase me. We send text messages to each other all day, we talk on the phone for a few hours every night and meet each other in school a few times a week. She tells me stuff on the phone that she doesn't tell anybody else because she says I am easy to talk to. We also met up with each other at 12 AM last weekend on Saturday night and we hung out for a hour and half. Only this time I was the one going for the kisses and hugs. I would really like to pursue a relationship with this girl but I am wondering if she'd break up with her boyfriend for me and how I could get her to do it.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

I was just on the phone with her. And I was like saying "I'm definitely nice, I'm on the phone with you making your day" and she was like "Actually talking to [Another Kid] made my day" and she talked about how she's so happy she found out he likes her. How do I play this.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

Well before everyone else says it, you are litterally a complete and utter mess. You are pretty much breaking every PUA rule that was ever invented. You need to brush up with some PUA advice. Try Mystery, David DeAngelo, Tyler Durden or somethin dude, that story was pathetic, you have to learn new skills if you ever want to be successful.

What are the PUA rules. I do read David DeAngelo and I was in control with this other girl and had her chasing me. It's just now she found out I like her and now I'm chasing her. I need to figure out how to get her to chase me again.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

When you descirbe to me your on the phone with her for a long time and text messaging her the whole time in school, that's not being in control, that's being needy. Your being a nice guy, and not giving yourself any uniquness or value, if your telling me you read PUA advice, then your not understanding it obviously.

Yeah but the thing is when I was in control she stopped chasing me because she thought I lacked interest in her. Plus she seems like a depressed girl and seems to think a lot of things are really nice.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

You don't need to chase her dude. This why your here right? Because you want options with women. You don't need to go chasing after her man. Find someone else.

It's hard to find options when your only 15. Not old enough to go into clubs.

 

[Plec07]

When you descirbe to me your on the phone with her for a long time and text messaging her the whole time in school, that's not being in control, that's being needy. Your being a nice guy, and not giving yourself any uniquness or value, if your telling me you read PUA advice, then your not understanding it obviously.

Although I do agree with you, High School is different. You will find youself talking to chicks online, through texts and on the phone a lot more than you would when your older. This is simply because of all the free time compared to when your an adult. And as long as you can keep the conversations interesting, in my personal opinion it's alright.

Now to the OP I reckon you need to rethink everything. First of all, you say you love your currently girlfriend. And yet you want to cheat on her with this other girl? In my books thats infatuation, not love. I think you need to make a decision here, whether to keep things going with this girl, or to break it off. There is no use trying to get a girl to break up with her boyfriend for you while you, yourself have a girlfriend. It's simply illogical and WILL get you a bad reputation. If you want a load of girls after you then stay single. If you decide to stay with your current girlfriend then keep this other girl on the side for when you do break up with your girlfriend, and hopefully she's single. In other words just avoid the friend zone.

Now if you decide to dump your currently girlfriend for this other girl then your going to need a boyfriend destroyer. I personally just ignore the fact they have a boyfriend. I game them in exactly the same way as I would any other girl. If they mention they're boyfriend I change the subject and if I make a move on her and she says "I have a boyfriend" I ignore it if she hasn't moved backwards. If she wants it she will usually just put her finger to your lips or something, in which case after she's said it I move my hand to the back of their neck and start massaging it as I continue to move in. You can search for other boyfriend destroyers as I've never bothered looking for some. My way always works for me.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

Although I do agree with you, High School is different. You will find youself talking to chicks online, through texts and on the phone a lot more than you would when your older. This is simply because of all the free time compared to when your an adult. And as long as you can keep the conversations interesting, in my personal opinion it's alright.

Now to the OP I reckon you need to rethink everything. First of all, you say you love your currently girlfriend. And yet you want to cheat on her with this other girl? In my books thats infatuation, not love. I think you need to make a decision here, whether to keep things going with this girl, or to break it off. There is no use trying to get a girl to break up with her boyfriend for you while you, yourself have a girlfriend. It's simply illogical and WILL get you a bad reputation. If you want a load of girls after you then stay single. If you decide to stay with your current girlfriend then keep this other girl on the side for when you do break up with your girlfriend, and hopefully she's single. In other words just avoid the friend zone.

Now if you decide to dump your currently girlfriend for this other girl then your going to need a boyfriend destroyer. I personally just ignore the fact they have a boyfriend. I game them in exactly the same way as I would any other girl. If they mention they're boyfriend I change the subject and if I make a move on her and she says "I have a boyfriend" I ignore it if she hasn't moved backwards. If she wants it she will usually just put her finger to your lips or something, in which case after she's said it I move my hand to the back of their neck and start massaging it as I continue to move in. You can search for other boyfriend destroyers as I've never bothered looking for some. My way always works for me.

She broke up with her boyfriend yesterday and I was the first person she called. But it seems like she likes someone else now who likes her as well.

 

[Plec07]

Did she tell you who that person was? Or was that what she said possibly refering to you?

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

Did she tell you who that person was? Or was that what she said possibly refering to you?

Yeah she told me who the person was. And I saw her with him today in the hallway.

 

[Plec07]

In that case I would just leave it be, stay with your girlfriend. I doubt it would be worth risking things with her when it looks like this other girl hasn't got interest in you.

 

[Plec07]

The point of having a girlfriend in highschool can simply be because you like the elements of a relationship. That and it gives you practise for maintaining a relationship.

But sarging outside of school is important. Every girl I'm currently seeing is either in a different year group to me or doesn't go to my school, it makes life so much easier without them trecking around after you during school hours or getting jelous when they see you with other girls.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

There is no point in having a girlfriend in HS. Why would you want to do it? Maybe you'll be in love temporarily, but what happens when you two graduate? You'll be off to college and the whole bit. It is a waste of time. Use high school as practice for the real women when you get older, your not going to stay together most likely. It's going to be far more attractive to women if you socially proof yourself in the halls, and then they'll come to you. Rather than sticking with this one girl. I'm not saying to break-up with your girlfriend, because that is not up to me. I'm just giving my perspective on this.

Another thing is, why do you feel you only can try things on girls only in your HS? Meet new girls in different places, it's better to meet them there other than your same old halls. try it.

How do you approach girls on the beach? I live right next to a beach that has a lot of hot girls in the summer.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

In that case I would just leave it be, stay with your girlfriend. I doubt it would be worth risking things with her when it looks like this other girl hasn't got interest in you.

I'm really interested in this girl. I really want her and I think I can do it, I just need a new gameplan.

 

[Plec07]

That's my whole point. Finding girls other than in your HS in so much better, they are not going to know what to expect of you. So you can show them what your really made of sort of thing. It's much better.

Yeah, I agree with you on the whole girlfriend thing. I just know that some people like to be in that relationship status so there is a point for them. I'm more like you though and prefer having lots of other girls chasing after me. I just keep them seperate from my main school life to avoid situations.

And to the OP, if you really want this girl and you think you can get her. Then by all means go for it. Just remember, if you try to game her while having a girlfriend then it will hinder your game. And if you succeed and end up cheating on this girl again you WILL get a bad reputation around the girls from your school.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

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[Don The Magic Juan]

Yeah, I agree with you on the whole girlfriend thing. I just know that some people like to be in that relationship status so there is a point for them. I'm more like you though and prefer having lots of other girls chasing after me. I just keep them seperate from my main school life to avoid situations.

And to the OP, if you really want this girl and you think you can get her. Then by all means go for it. Just remember, if you try to game her while having a girlfriend then it will hinder your game. And if you succeed and end up cheating on this girl again you WILL get a bad reputation around the girls from your school.

Do you know how I can get her to chase me again without making her think I lack interest in her (which is why she stopped liking me last time).

 

[Plec07]

If she stopped chasing you because you lacked interest then doesn't sound like she's too interested. Most interested girls would start chasing you more in the hope to gain her interest. She's done the reverse and now look who's chasing who . Funny how things can work out isn't it?

But if your really that determined to get her you could try ignoring her completely. Can't say I'm positive it would work cos to me it looks like this girl has mastered the art of always having a fall back.

You could try starting to act around her like a boyfriend would, putting your arm around her ect. Toggling her "boyfriend feelings" till she starts to see you in that way.

To be perfectly honest mate I can't give you a definate answer of what to do with this situation. I've never experienced it before, nor have I previously helped someone with it.

 

[Dannyrt34]

First, get rid of your current girlfriend if you're just gonna fvck around.

You're a mess especially if you say you love your current girlfriend, apparently your clueless.

So I'll be damned if I give advice to you because your a total dumbass. I'll only tell you not to do what you're currently doing if you truely love the girl.

I wish I could be there to slap the shvt out of you. In the meantime, go fvck yourself.

 

[Don The Magic Juan]

First, get rid of your current girlfriend if you're just gonna fvck around.

You're a mess especially if you say you love your current girlfriend, apparently your clueless.

So I'll be damned if I give advice to you because your a total dumbass. I'll only tell you not to do what you're currently doing if you truely love the girl.

I wish I could be there to slap the shvt out of you. In the meantime, go fvck yourself.

Your mature.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

 

[spesmilitis]

when i saw the title, I had a real bad feeling about this thread until I read you were in highschool too. Phew!