I'm playing hardball, but she won't make contact.

[meathead]

After two good dates and one evening together, this new girl has gone somewhat flaky. Her texting habits appear to have changed, and I would have expected her to invite me to meet up at some point, as she has done twice in the past. I fear her interest may be waning.

In response, I have pulled back and gone on the "no contact" plan. This happened two days ago when I let her second text of the day go unanswered (I replied to text #1). Given our past history, two days is not insignificant. I would have expected her to contact me somehow, but she has yet to do so.

I am exercising willpower and keeping the contact ball in my court, but I'm wondering if I'm being too harsh or concluding incorrectly about where her interest is. I would love to call her to set up date #3, because then I would find out; however, part of me wants to wait out this "no contact" game a bit longer and force her to get in touch with me, if she ever will.

In sum, the question is: at what point, if ever, do I initiate contact and end this game of no contact hardball that I've been playing? What do you guys think? I've been out of the game for a few years, and my DJ skills have gotten rusty.

 

[TopGun2000]

"I would have expected her to invite me to meet up at some point, as she has done twice in the past. I fear her interest may be waning. "

wow, you can't let women lead all the time. probably you didn't do enough to show your interest in her?

 

[Ease]

Too much thought put into this. Too much watching her every move for interest.

Yes it is ok to ask her out.

 

[joverby]

Too much thought put into this. Too much watching her every move for interest.

Yes it is ok to ask her out.

^Listen to this guy^

Outcome dependancy is a bad thing, bro. Once you are able to truly be free of it, you'll be a lot more happy.

Get some more hobbies and expand your social circle, it helps with it. You are too busy talking to other people / doing other things to worry about this type of thing.

Also, I wouldn't really be trying to play games with a chick. Doesn't ever seem to end well. Just do what you gotta do and don't be outcome dependant. But if being too available is a problem then you might have to fake it until you make it.

 

[meathead]

Thanks, guys. I am indeed too outcome dependent, and it's taking all I have to avoid falling into that bad mindset in which everything is overanalyzed and you focus more on the girl than on yourself.

I will break the deadlock tomorrow. If she's not receptive, no soup for her.. next! (Easy to say, hard to do.)