im pissed off and need some advice....

[OddManOut85]

ok.so a little while ago,my freind,my other freind and his gf,and this girl i like was over.now,i was kinda drunk.and i was jokingly kinda tickling/touching the girl i like.what you would call kino.so anyways,my freind,the one without a gf,basically gets up and interferes.ie "****block".now heres what pissed me off,now,i know he used to like this girl,but she sees him as a freind,i already asked her out,and she said yeah.now idk if shes messing with me,but im sensing she likes me.what pissed me off was i jokingly tickling her,and this guy gets up and wants to start something.telling me to stop and stuff.im ready to knock him out.i really was.i mean this was in my own home and everything.now,im sensing that he feels if he cant be with this girl,no one else can.thats what pisses me off.i mean,if she just wants to be freinds,fine.i dont care.but if its cause this guy is interfering,that pisses me off.know what i mean?

 

[DJDamage]

know what i mean?

Any guy that tries to c0ckblock me is not my friend. You got to really think if this chick is worth it, or your friendship with that guy is worth more.

 

[OddManOut85]

no no.it was the guy who didnt have a gf who liked the same girl as me.now idk for sure,but im getting the feeling this girl likes me,i asked her out a whole back,she said yeah,but we havent gone out yet.now this guy who "c0ckblocked" told me he did like her,but she seems to see him only as a freind.so when i was tickling her,she didnt say stop,she was going along with it,this guy gets up and interferes and is like "oh stop it she doesnt like it" and all this,i was seriously ready to punch him,but i didnt want to blow it up and out of proportion so i didnt.so everyone ended up leaving.she did say she would call me tomorow though.so that kind of made my day.maybe i was acting a bit out of line,i have been drinking,but i feel what he did was uncalled for.i get he is defensive,but she is her own person,she can make her own decisions,go out with whomever she wants,if she really wanted me to stop,she would have said so.she did get up the first time.then later on i did it.and i didnt get any complaints from her.im just pissed off right now.i mean,did i do anything wrong here?

 

[musclyjerk]

Who established 'like' for her first or declared it?

If it was your friend, you're in the wrong.
If it was you, he's in the wrong.

You can't ever play with a chick your friend even once liked or told you he liked (unless he gives you the greenlight.. you still shouldn't though, there's plenty of other chicks in this world) 'cos that's the stuff that busts friendships up.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[OddManOut85]

well him bascially.but along time ago.but she just sees him as a freind.now,i asked her out a while back,and she said yes.so i was playing around with her,and he got up and got in my face.thats what i didnt like.i told him to back off,and he wouldnt.greenlight? i mean,why should i have to wait or ask for someones ok to go out with someone? im getting the feeling that just cause she didnt want to go out with him,he now feels no one else can go out with her.well thats not his place ok.she can go out with whomever she likes.i mean,if she just wants to be freinds,then theres nothing i can do about that.but i would be awfully pissed if its cause of him feeling his need to "protect" her.she said she would call me,maybe she will maybe she wont,but if she does,ill feel a bit better about this situation.your right.that is the stuff that busts freindships up.but i mean,is it right for him to play some sort of control freak?

 

[musclyjerk]

well him bascially.but along time ago.but she just sees him as a freind.now

Then it doesn't matter - you're in the wrong. It would infuriate your friend to know she prefers you over him. Think about it.

i asked her out a while back,and she said yes

Bad move, you shouldn't of. You'l know next time. Don't do it again!

so i was playing around with her

In front of your friend who liked her. Think think think..

and he got up and got in my face

Damn straight he did.

thats what i didnt like.i told him to back off,and he wouldnt

Damn straight he never.

greenlight? i mean,why should i have to wait or ask for someones ok to go out with someone?

Because he's your friend. Consider his feelings.

im getting the feeling that just cause she didnt want to go out with him,he now feels no one else can go out with her.well thats not his place ok.she can go out with whomever she likes.

No no no. He feels like YOU can't go out with her because you KNOW he likes her yet you're putting your own needs way above your friends feelings.

She can go out with whomever she likes.. just not YOU.

i mean,if she just wants to be freinds,then theres nothing i can do about that.but i would be awfully pissed if its cause of him feeling his need to "protect" her.she said she would call me,maybe she will maybe she wont,but if she does,ill feel a bit better about this situation.your right.that is the stuff that busts freindships up.but i mean,is it right for him to play some sort of control freak?

He isn't being a control freak. You're acting out of line by not considering your friends feelings, which come way above some chick. There's plenty out there, why are you trying to get involved with one you know your friend likes?

Quit it before you lose a friend and never do this again.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[OddManOut85]

well,she seems like she wants to go out.ok.and im not not gonna do that just cause hes a lil jealous ok.ok i can consider his feelings,but im not gonna wait for him to say its ok allright.to me that aint right.i talked to him about this before,and he basically has accepted that she and him are just freinds.so i dont see why i should have to put up with any crap.well she still seems interested.she has been asking when are we gonna go out,but something seems to always get in the way,work,other plans,etc.but the way he got up,and interferred,i didnt like it.there was no need for it.i am considerate of his feelings ok,but i mean,if she and i wanna go out,i mean,i guess hes just gonna have to grow up a bit.i mean thats life ok.well like i said,he seems to have accepted there just freinds.

 

[musclyjerk]

If you really want to go there, all I can suggest is telling him you really like her and would like to see if there's anything worth persueing with her.

Tell him 'I understand if you don't want me to do anything with her' - he will probably say it's ok.. but he will never be ok with it...that's why I'm really against this sort of thing. He will resent her for liking you over him and he will resent you for persueing her when you know he likes her..... even if he says it's ok.

Ah.. honestly..... just don't go there. It's not worth it.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[OddManOut85]

she knows i like her,i get the feeling she likes me too.but yet sometimes it seems like shes kidding around.if she just wants to be freinds,well i just wish she would be honest.well,i mean,im not gonna ask for someones permission to go out with someone.ok.i mean,hes just gonna have to grow up.