i'm out

[h2o]

i'm going to stop posting on here. i'm going to leave the board altogether. compared to others i may not have spent that much time or posted as much here, but still i feel like if i ban myself i'll get a ton more experience. i don't feel like being here is helping much / nor am i contributing either. i started an approach journal/thread so i'd feel an obligation to finish, but i don't think there's much of a point of keeping a journal anymore, now that it's become habit (i'll just keep count). i don't do enough approaches at a time, and write in way to much detail, so my posts are really long and no one feels like reading them to give me any feedback. it's mostly about getting experience because all the advice in the world won't help until i get out there and do something. anyway, out of the 7/14 numbers i got up until now, 2 seem like potential prospects, with 1 more definite than the other. i'm going to continue doing approaches every chance i get, and i guess at this rate every 14 approaches will land me 1 or 2 potential winners.

i mean, i went from being the shyest kid ever who was called ugly and names, who was nervous in front of and even scared of women, to approaching them pretty comfortably in certain places. i owe a lot to you guys, and it's been life changing to read the stuff here and put some of it to work, really, but i think i can take it from here.

good luck to everyone else with getting there.

 

[AIR-PILOT]

Im going to have to agree with H20 on this.
Most of the people that post on this board don't know **** about DJ. All they do is put people down, make up situations that are not even happening and the list goes on and on. A lot of guys at the same time give a lot of good advice but the percentage is very small. I read the articles and bible more than the posts on here. I would keep visiting the site and check the DJ Tips section in the forum. Good Luck Bro.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

well just do like i do im not drawing that fine line and saying im never going to post but i just dont feel like visiting the forum much anymore so for what feels like a month iv only posted maybe 2-3 times

 

[xblitz44x]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Cya.

You'll be back.

Agreed.

 

[nonstop]

damn. I always read your approach journal when I visit here. it's posts like that, that are the only reason I'm here.

I agree with cayman

 

[Kid Quick]

Originally posted by h2o
compared to others i may not have spent that much time or posted as much here, but still i feel like if i ban myself i'll get a ton more experience.

You've made a lot of progress. Best of luck to you. I hope if you do come back it's not out of need, but instead to share with others who are in the same place you used to be.

 

[DJStudent]

I think it's a good thing you wanna experience it for yourself, but from my experience I had to come back here to regain myself. Don't say your goodbye's or say that you're banning yourself from this place.

Thing is that everyone, even people who are the best at what they do, need to be reminded of how to be the best. To do that you have to constantly update your material as well as training.

It's true that a lot of you guys seems to post on every little post with nothing but put downs. Once in a while you post something worth reading but let's keep the "YOU'RE AN AFC, YOU LOSER" to a minimum.

Everyone is their own person in here, so show some respect to your fellow brethren. We're all in here to advance ourselves, not to be put down by the same people who post on every little post and then thinks he knows what he's talking about cause he has the title of Master DJ.

 

[h2o]

uh...i thought i deleted this post right after posting it...and why is it in discussion...i thought i posted it in anything else.

once i realized how worthless the numbers i collected had been, i don't think i can improve without continuing to read the stuff on here. i guess some people get rejections, and guys like me get worthless numbers, but it's still the same...though one gives you false hope, as if you're actually improving, but not really.

so yeah, i'm back...so much for trying to leave...i don't think leaving altogether will help my self-improvement very much. i'll continue reading, but try to limit the time i spend (sometimes the threads here are just amusing, and i find myself reading too much for entertainment).

it's just that a lot of new users come on here and they have like less than 50 posts and they're complaining about not liking how their 3some went and stuff like that. i just think that i started comparing myself / post-count to others, since i have over 100 now, i felt sort of awkward that i am no where near that level yet. and i didn't want to drive that number higher without getting tons of experience first. i'm just overly analytical of stuff sometimes.

i think i did my own share of flaming and posting about **** i have no clue about, early on, and i'll refrain from that. anyway, here's a good thread on numbers/approaches that helped me out a bit again: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=74930

 

[FratAndDiddy]

look bro, dont make your situation complicated. you aint going to conquer the subject of women overnight. in fact no one conquers it.
however, if you do not arm yourself with positive thinking and confidence, your world of women isnt going to develop.

go astray for awhile, but please come back and give us an update now-and-then.
good luck

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Cya.

You'll be back.

Yep, as soon as he sees what his other alternatives are......

 

[al77]

Originally posted by cayman
You stray from reading posts and the Bible, then your mind will lose confidence and even worse, become happy with what you can get.

cayman,

This is a great insight! Once you lose the support this forum provides you'll start converting into AFC back...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by FratAndDiddy
look bro, dont make your situation complicated. you aint going to conquer the subject of women overnight. in fact no one conquers it.

It's not about the women...

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by h2o
...once i realized how worthless the numbers i collected had been, i don't think i can improve without continuing to read the stuff on here. i guess some people get rejections, and guys like me get worthless numbers, but it's still the same...though one gives you false hope, as if you're actually improving, but not really.

so yeah, i'm back...so much for trying to leave...]

Dude, this is why you feel so bad - it is not about getting the numbers - you have to be more selective in who you approach - make small talk and see if she is recptive to your convo - does she give you eye contact?

I can approach 100 women and get rejected by the overwhelming of them!! Just because I "approach" doesn't give them a reason to give upi the digits!!

Expand your social circle and join organizations where you can develop a more personal connection with the woman you meet!

 

[Feskaren]

i mean, i went from being the shyest kid ever who was called ugly and names, who was nervous in front of and even scared of women, to approaching them pretty comfortably in certain places.

Thats awesome dude. i was also shy and called ugly and names, .. are you getting any success? Post your picture man... i wanna see how you look. I'm barely approaching girls around here, but thats because i live in Turkey and dont know turkish. However i went out with my two year old cousins hot Lithuanian babysitter and her friend when i visited my aunt in Denmark(2 weeks ago). Damn she was like a 9,5 man. blonde, beautiful, 24 y.o. and she could drink vodka like hell. That really charmed me. And im seriously not kidding she was hot, a 9,5. My aunt set it up though, i didnt ask her out,( i was expecting a short plump girl with a mustache, u know, blind date) and i didnt try to close the deal, i guess i was to caught up in the fact that she was my cousins babysitter. dammit... sometimes im just such a fukkin idiot man. So AFC arghhh!...hmm but well, eh... ARrhgG! me angry, how could i... owww arhgg.. well anyway... just had to get it out. keep reporting man.

 

[h2o]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Dude, this is why you feel so bad - it is not about getting the numbers - you have to be more selective in who you approach - make small talk and see if she is recptive to your convo - does she give you eye contact?

I can approach 100 women and get rejected by the overwhelming of them!! Just because I "approach" doesn't give them a reason to give upi the digits!!

for most of my approaches, i haven't made much eyecontact before the approach. i know it seems stupid, but if i wait for signals, it's going to take forever to get anywhere? basically that would mean to just wait to approach what luck and fate throws my way. though, when i think about it, of those approaches, during the actual convo, i didn't get much eyecontact from those who didn't call me back. i mean, going with this logic, i shouldn't even have attempted to #close on some occasions where i did get a #.

yeah, i was actually hoping that in an attempt to do approaches and get numbers that i would be "ljbfed" by some of the girls and somewhat expand my social circle that way. that really hasn't happened either. i have good friends, but not too many women in those circles...they're afcs like me...i will try to get involved with other stuff though

i guess what you're saying, in essence, is that it's really stupid to make a goal of approaching X number of girls in X period of time because i will make myself do approaches when i'm getting no eyecontact and try to number close when i don't really find the girl compatible or she isn't interested.

i somewhat did think that "just because i approach" does show i got some balls, and since girls like a guy with balls, it would somewhat give her an incentive to "give up the digits."

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by h2o
...i somewhat did think that "just because i approach" does show i got some balls, and since girls like a guy with balls, it would somewhat give her an incentive to "give up the digits."

Hahahaha, yeah kid, all guys have balls - I think girls already knowthis.

I know you were speaking figuratively.

Bootcamp is good for teaching you not to be scared to approach so that when you do see a girl you like you won't hesitate or be scared to make a move! Gets you comfortable with approaching strangers!

It also depends where you approach - obviously at a club it is normal to talk to strangers and approach a woman!