ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
I'm not some hideous monster or anything, in fact I think I'm fairly decent looking actually. I don't think I sound weird either, though I do happen to hate my voice on camera (just like everyone else does too I suppose). My voice carries really well too. I know how to dress without overdoing it, I don't feel awkward at all really and don't feel really anxious to ask a question or make a joke in class even if it is a giant lecture hall with over a hundred other people (I did that today actually and had a lot of people laughing). So what's the problem? It seems that everyone I talk to is either super socially awkward or seems unfriendly. I'm in my second year of college now and it is bothersome because I'm not really having any sort of wonderful college experience like how some other people have had (from what people say and what some other acquaintences say about other universities). I have no amazing stories about college that others have, and I swear I'm not a weird person.
Something that I've learned is that if you feel awkward talking about something then the other person will too, so I made it to where I rarely feel ianh sense of awkwardness at all. I try being extroverted and a little more outgoing but people in my university don't really seem to be that social. Last semester, 2 great friends of mine apart of our group from high school visited since they were looking at places to transfer to out of their two-year school and somehow we crossed paths. It was me, them two, and 4 or 5 other guys whom I had never met before. Those guys I never met before didn't seem unfriendly towards me or anything and it didn't feel weird talking to them like it does some other people here. Maybe it's because we had two mutual friends. Yet, if I talk to someone else here through a mutual friend that I somehow made, it still feels a little awkward usually. I don't have a closed or standoffish body language not an angry or unfriendly-looking facial expression either, I try to be as aware as I can with that stuff.
And the thing that really bothers me is that I see some other people looking around feeling weird not talking to someone so I'll take it upon myself to be that guy to talk to them and strike up a conversation. It goes alright at first but afterwards it just fizzles out and dies because I've ran out of things to say without sounding like a stalker. I know you are supposed to ask them questions about themselves to get them to open up to you and all, but at the same time you shouldn't be interviewing them either. I try to talk about myself a little bit to connect with them a little bit or seem at least somewhat relateable but I know you also shouldn't talk about yourself too much because you don't want to come off as too self-centered. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm still a VERY confident individual but man it does kinda chip away at you a small bit when you tell a chick that you like her sweatshirt (not because you are flirting with her or anything, but because you genuinely do like the sweatshirt that she is wearing) and they just act like you don't exist. Maybe she just didn't hear you or something, but it doesn't make it suck any less. It's even more discouraging when you try talking to someone and they seem almost relieved to be talking to you but afterwards seem like they don't want to talk anymore and then just play on their phone or laptop.
First day back here in uni, and I had the same problem last year as well. I even played a sport here too and it didn't make it any easier to make friends or eat chicks. I'm not doing it this year due to commuting making too hard. Last year I would wake up at 4:45 in the morning to get to practice at 6. I had to train 27 - 33 hours a week, on top of the 18 credit hours of classes I was taking, not to mention that I was still working 26 hours each week at my job and was forced to participate in this mandatory study-hall type thing that all student athletes needed to do for an additional 8 hours too. And I was a commuter. That was way too much for me at 17 years old, especially since I was still adjusting from high school to college. I guess this is partially to vent too. Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
Something that I've learned is that if you feel awkward talking about something then the other person will too, so I made it to where I rarely feel ianh sense of awkwardness at all. I try being extroverted and a little more outgoing but people in my university don't really seem to be that social. Last semester, 2 great friends of mine apart of our group from high school visited since they were looking at places to transfer to out of their two-year school and somehow we crossed paths. It was me, them two, and 4 or 5 other guys whom I had never met before. Those guys I never met before didn't seem unfriendly towards me or anything and it didn't feel weird talking to them like it does some other people here. Maybe it's because we had two mutual friends. Yet, if I talk to someone else here through a mutual friend that I somehow made, it still feels a little awkward usually. I don't have a closed or standoffish body language not an angry or unfriendly-looking facial expression either, I try to be as aware as I can with that stuff.
And the thing that really bothers me is that I see some other people looking around feeling weird not talking to someone so I'll take it upon myself to be that guy to talk to them and strike up a conversation. It goes alright at first but afterwards it just fizzles out and dies because I've ran out of things to say without sounding like a stalker. I know you are supposed to ask them questions about themselves to get them to open up to you and all, but at the same time you shouldn't be interviewing them either. I try to talk about myself a little bit to connect with them a little bit or seem at least somewhat relateable but I know you also shouldn't talk about yourself too much because you don't want to come off as too self-centered. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm still a VERY confident individual but man it does kinda chip away at you a small bit when you tell a chick that you like her sweatshirt (not because you are flirting with her or anything, but because you genuinely do like the sweatshirt that she is wearing) and they just act like you don't exist. Maybe she just didn't hear you or something, but it doesn't make it suck any less. It's even more discouraging when you try talking to someone and they seem almost relieved to be talking to you but afterwards seem like they don't want to talk anymore and then just play on their phone or laptop.
First day back here in uni, and I had the same problem last year as well. I even played a sport here too and it didn't make it any easier to make friends or eat chicks. I'm not doing it this year due to commuting making too hard. Last year I would wake up at 4:45 in the morning to get to practice at 6. I had to train 27 - 33 hours a week, on top of the 18 credit hours of classes I was taking, not to mention that I was still working 26 hours each week at my job and was forced to participate in this mandatory study-hall type thing that all student athletes needed to do for an additional 8 hours too. And I was a commuter. That was way too much for me at 17 years old, especially since I was still adjusting from high school to college. I guess this is partially to vent too. Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
