I'm NOT good with girls - my confession

skip2mylou781

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whoaaaaaaaa flamers BACK THE **** UP, u got my subject heading all wrong, mostly.....


I get angry too easily
I get jealous too easily
I get AFC too easily
I supplicate sometimes and give girls wat they ask for
I am too sweet and put them on a pedestal sometimes
Currently, I probly talk to 1% of the girls that I have met in the last 4 years
I am NOT muscular
I get defensive fast and am NOT laid back
I'm alot of things girls wouldnt like........

BUT


whats happenin here??

ive ****ed 58 GIRLS in the last 3 years, simply by hook up #'s im a PIMP (kissed prob at least 200 in total in the last 4 years)

WTF IS GOING ON HERE??

i SUCK, yet im GOOD???

hell just the last 10 days, i feel like i burned 10 bridges, got dissed by lotsa girls, get flaked on 5 times............but i ****ed 6 diff girls (including that 3some)

WAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD??

now listen, this ISNT bragging, this is me giving people hope!!!

u DONT HAVE TO BE the best guy out there................as long as you PLAY THE NUMBERS GAME, u will have good success

and no, i dont settle for ugly chicks, girls i end up hookin up with are all an average of HB7-HB8, i just happen to go for alot and get rejected alot.......and i still get what seems to be a PIMP #

guys.........if u suck...........its ok...........its a NUMBERS ****IN GAME!!!!


tryin to inspire u people
 

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ur my favourite person here right now.

All the analytical stuff ppl try to write is 5hit (eg Luke Sykwalker). There's enough of that in the bible.

U rule man
 

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you success is phenomeonal at your age, but there are two things that make me think "this guy's taking the easy route"

most of lays were not from cold-approaches, This takes balls to do, Internet is easier.
and secondly,


you rely heavily on your looks....now look at that guy ima str8 up pimp doesn't need to put much effort just because he's got looks..thats not what DJ is about

so yea your mad successful, but don't know how much of that is really hard cord DJ skills or just luck and the easy route.
 

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It is a numbers game, but you can influence it to a certain extent. I used to think that if I improved myself enough, I'd NEVER get rejected...and then I do, and the old self-confidence plummets. So yes, if you treat it like a numbers game it's easy sailing, but by fixing yourself up you can easily tighten the odds and make success more likely. Atleast you're not preaching that internet dating bull**** in here. 3 things I fixed up(easy as pie, took like 10 weeks)

1. Appearance - gym, hair, hygiene, etc
2. Clothes - style, etc
3. Relax around chicks - whatever, u know the deal

I wouldn't say I'm a pimp, or even have the success I'd like with chicks, but i improved alot after treating it all like a #s game.

P.S. goin to a pretty huge party tonite, ill have a FR for it this weekend.
 
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Hey skip buddy, those aren't flaws, those are "requirements" you look for in women, basically, just your conscience talking to you. As you go through the field, you'll find a group of chicks who meets those requirements.

donArjunmost you said this,
"It takes balls to do cold approaches, internet is easier. Secondly, you rely heavily on your looks....you don't need to put much effort just because you got looks..thats not what DJ is about....so yea your mad successful, but don't know how much of that is really hard core DJ skills or just luck and the easy route."

donArjunmost you are missing the whole point.
A don juan, or what I call, a man, is a guy who has searched his soul and found his self, his true self. He knows what he wants in life as far as his career and passions go, what he expects of his friends, business partners, etc.

Pook said called it, "uniting dream and day" I call it, "living the life you really wanted, despite others not believing in it."

A man is all about putting his energy and time, and EFFORT, into his passions, NOT WOMEN. See, actually, women can be a great distraction to a serious don juan.

That's why cold approaches and "field time" approaching chicks is a waste of time, because it takes up too much time, time that could have been spent making sales or networking to meet new clients.

That's why the internet is better, THEY ARE THE SAME CHICKS YOU SEE OUTSIDE ANYWAY...

You post a pic, send a note, they response, you go out, etc. etc.,

hey donArjun, YOU STILL...have to know how to game these chicks now, you don't just meet them off the net and have no skills and they are just going to fvck you, no, no, no.

As I said before, the same chicks you see outside at Arbys or "in the field" are right online, skip through the bullshyt and see who's serious, you'll know when she responds. Then build up your pvssy flow so when the weekend comes and you have time, go fvck.
 

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skip2mylou781 said:
u DONT HAVE TO BE the best guy out there................as long as you PLAY THE NUMBERS GAME, u will have good success
Yeah that's true. If you are getting rejected by some girls, then just keep plowing through. You said it yourself that you are getting success.
 

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Hint* Just because the bible tells you chicks like those things does not mean they actually do.. let alone give a sh!t in the big scheme of things. They don't have a checklist to see if you meet the "non-afc requirements" before they get horny. They just look at ya and if your not a complete loser and look good then there ya go. Play the numbers game just don't let it turn you into a guy that hits on every chick he sees like 20 years later. No PUA or "DJ" will admit that they probally get rejected just as much as you and do the exact same thing.

The bible is supposed to work as a placebo effect if you have not figured that out yet.
 
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Internet dating only works if you have a good pic, and better than average profile in my experience. I've played the numbers game and fvcked up every single time except with a FUG, and one person who is sticking.

So, there is no magic solution that is going to work with EVERYONE. I judged myself before as not having enough 'resolve' to use online dating - but the reality is, when you just get negative results all the time it sinks your self-esteem further. As I've said before, and I'll say it again, online dating has made me feel depressed as an experience as a whole.

If it wasn't for a fluke here and there, it would have been an absolute disaster.
 
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Luke.. how many girls did you go through and do you happen to be an old ugly nerd?

And.. I think skip is talking about myspace.
 
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Luke.. how many girls did you go through and do you happen to be an old ugly nerd?

And.. I think skip is talking about myspace.
I thought people have seen my pics on here. I got rated a 5-6 on hot or not, not like I got a 0 or 1 or anything, there were lots of guys uglier than I was. But, lets say for arguement, 5-6 were average, then I'd have gotten very poor results for my average look.

I concede I dont use myspace, I thought this was about internet dating in general. I used lavalife (intimate section) and plentyoffish and the results in terms of volume were pathetic.

I had sent interest mails to virtually every girl in town on plentyoffish with pics on and i sent smiles to virtually almost everyone on lavalife - dismal results. Time of focus - November, 2005, had a profile that said I"m a virgin, lay me - only one smiley (from the girl's).

February 10th-March 18th, 2006 - same profile, a few smiles (from girls, but they all flaked and one c&b miserably online), only one person came through which was a FUG.

On my more 'serious' profiles on the 'dating section - I've only meet a few people which have all c&b very badly, except for one person that's still in the loop. Dating section profile was on by after March 18, 2006 all the way until July when I just got totally discouraged at the very bad c&b dates I got, and the lack of responses.

But if this is a myspace thing - then perhaps it's another story.

I'm going to reiterate that my internet dating experience sucks, and only one person has stuck with me and that more like a fluke than anything else. So, I got a fluke FUG, and a fluke 'friend' so to speak, and that's all I have to show for $ 60.00 spent, and time and hours of grief. I do not feel as depressed on offline approaches even though I'm going nowhere with them - but at least you are engaging and interacting, all of which is better than just seeing no results every day on the computer screen with respect to effort invested.

On the other hand, I like my 'friend' - her personality, complexion, faith and all that -- but if she doesn't come through, then it would be an absolute disaster - I have no choices - did I play the numbers game? Of course I did. Did I go anywhere with it. Not to the extent that skip2mylou is portraying.
 
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Hey Skip2mylou781,

Send us a link to a pic, you can't be that bad if you're getting lots of success. Even if it is a numbers game, if you're not good looking, numbers aint gonna mean a thing.

I have a profile on true.com never registered though cos it's like $40 a month or something, but I've had 17 winks between 13/06 and 28/07 so I guess I can't be that bad looking, although most of em weren't attractive at all :(
 

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i already got a link to a pic of me on another thread, search for it lol

LUKE - a 5 on hotornot is basically the worst rating u can get cuz even when i was an ugly AFC 4 years ago, i got a 9.0 on hotornot and that deff was NOT what i was in real life back then lol
 

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Skip is young and good looking and plays the numbers game for sex.

Your old and use online dating services.

Get looking the best you can and go out and talk to every chick you see at some place where there is alchohol.
 

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Bvbidd said:
Hint* Just because the bible tells you chicks like those things does not mean they actually do.. let alone give a sh!t in the big scheme of things. They don't have a checklist to see if you meet the "non-afc requirements" before they get horny. They just look at ya and if your not a complete loser and look good then there ya go. Play the numbers game just don't let it turn you into a guy that hits on every chick he sees like 20 years later. No PUA or "DJ" will admit that they probally get rejected just as much as you and do the exact same thing.

The bible is supposed to work as a placebo effect if you have not figured that out yet.
Spot on. :up:
 

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people get the point of the thread right?

ANYONE can be good with girls, u just gotta go for girls....over and over and over......go for all the HB10s and ull get 1 eventually

simple
 
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skip2mylou781 said:
people get the point of the thread right?

ANYONE can be good with girls, u just gotta go for girls....over and over and over......go for all the HB10s and ull get 1 eventually

simple
You have just admitted yourself that you had a 9.0 on hotornot - so before you can use the 'ANYONE' statement, you have not accounted for the fact that you are better than average looking. A 5.0 is not the worst rating - it's better than 44% of guys that are on there at that mark - I know because I saw the percentage. A 6.0 goes right into like 'average', and I got a 6.0 on some pictures there - a 9.0 is a hot dude, you are better than average and you have great looks.

I'm sorry skip, the reason you are good with women is because of looks, not a numbers game. If I had 10 looks, was white and was a model, sure I'd likely agree with the 'numbers game' theory.

You see, skip, for the numbers game to work, you have to be processing allot of people through and getting c&b's until you weed out a few people you can deal with, but if you are only getting a drop once and a blue moon with a disproportinate amount of effort, added to the fact most people I'm meeting online are a bunch of phonies or people whose 'youth' has been used up by other prior relationships and boyfriends where I'm getting the left-overs, I would disagree that you can have a numbers game unless you have an outstanding profile and excellent rated pics or something. I know because I tried it, and I know the results I got, and why I've dismissed the online dating concept for now.
 

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Uh yeah he's obviously going to do better but it's BECAUSE of him trying for so many chicks is really the simple reason why he gets sex with as many chicks as he says.

This means, you try for a bunch of girls you'll get one Luke.

The whole "seduction tactics" thing is really more of a placebo to go out there and keep trying.

As far as skills go, if you try for your 20th girl or so you'll be more experienced and confident but other then that that's really all ya need.
 
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Bvbidd said:
Uh yeah he's obviously going to do better but it's BECAUSE of him trying for so many chicks is really the simple reason why he gets sex with as many chicks as he says.

This means, you try for a bunch of girls you'll get one Luke.
What I posted before, I sent a batch of smiles on the internet intimate personals on lavalife between February 10th to March 18, 2006, and all I got to show for it, and $ 20.00 in credits spent, plus a tonne of smileys, is just one FUG - which wouldn't even count because skip doesn't count FUG's on his list of online conquests.

So, I tried for a bunch of girls, and nothing to show for it except a FUG.

Bvbidd said:
The whole "seduction tactics" thing is really more of a placebo to go out there and keep trying.
We are talking about online dating on the intimate section on lavalife where you send out a bunch of smileys, and all you have is a pic and profile, right?
That online dating site, and plentyoffish isn't good at all for casual hookups, I tested it out before on that. The impression skip is giving is that it's easy to get online fvck buddies or quickies from people by just having a large volume of numbers - but I'm saying is I tried it.

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As far as skills go, if you try for your 20th girl or so you'll be more experienced and confident but other then that that's really all ya need.
I've sent smileys to LOT and LOTS of girls, not just 20.

Now, I haven't tried offline stuff - that's why I've changed from online to going offline and scraping online for now. I dont know about how Myspace compares to lavalife or plentyoffish, and dont want to know now because it didn't work for me.

Why? Maybe my picture wasn't attractive enough. After all, I am only average looking.
 

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WOW

"smileys on lavalife" DONT work....i dont even kno wtf that is, is that some kinda special AFC tactic????

LUke, u dont get wat i mean about hotornot.........my pic that got rated a 9.0, it was 4 years ago, i was skinny and somehwat average, in REAL LIFE, girls would have seen me and called me a 4 probably......so my 9.0 was realyl a 4 in real life - u cannot know how good u look by a HOTORNOT pic - PERIOD

i personally feel that 58 chicks in 3 years isnt even that much, cuz i still feel alot of nites i COULD be ****in a girl but im not, i dunno if im a sex addict or wat.

Part of my success could be that, when i wasnt THAT good with my game, id say outta the first 15 chicks i ****ed, only one was an HB8+, aka otheres were like HB6-7 on average, so i had to start somehwere, and lately, the last 10 i ****ed, on average have been HB7.5, with a few HB9s thrown in....im still learnin, still gettin there

FYI - college girls and high school seniors who are 18 are the EASIEST things ever (and the hot ones r easy too, which makes it so good!)


just play the damn #s............2 things u gotta know everyone:

1)GO FOR GIRLS WHO ARE IN THE SAME RANGE AS YOU IN LOOKS (if ur a 3, u aint gettin with a 9 off a cold approach, sorry to break it to ya)

2)take rejection as fun and a step to getting closer to ****in some girl/getting a gf
 

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Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't Skip only use Myspace when he's 'sarging' online? So why are we even discussing smiley's on an actual dating site. Completely different.

Second thing, smileys are like smiling at a girl you see in the street. She aint gonna come up to you and go 'hey sexy'. If she's interested, she'll wait for you to come to her. Wouldn't this be the same online? Just cos you send a smiley, doesn't mean she's going to send you a message.
 
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