I'm losing it...really want this girl back

[Soprano]

Long story short...

I'm moving in December, I was talking to this girl I used to know in the place I'm moving on the phone for almost a year, we were really liking eachother and were going to be together when I got there. She called and messaged me all the time talking about how she wished I was there right now, says she cant wait til i got there, trade pics, etc.... We definitely had plans and she definitely liked me..... Then one day after one week of no contact she says she got back with her ex... She's been living with him for about a month now.... We're being "friends", but I haven't been acting AFC (well maybe a little, but my reputation and respect is still in tact).... I still want her when I move there.... I've damn near been driving myself insane thinking about what to do next...i REALLY like this girl... Do I tell her how I feel? Do I not tell her a thing about my feelings just move up and start gaming her in person? give me some guidance...

I'm not a "feelings" kind of guy but I damn sure got some feelings about this chick.... I've been shopping around for years, this is the one I want...

 

[KontrollerX]

You've been acting AFC by agreeing to the "friends" angle.

Cutting her off would've fvcked with her ego and brought her back to you as she'd want to reclaim her ego validation as well she'd then want to get your company back that she missed.

Since you agreed to the false friendship she's got nothing to miss.

She's getting her cake and eating it too fvcking the other guy's brains out and having you still in her life in a safe angle where she gets all that she wants and you get none of what you want.

She's living it up, living the high life right now and you've enabled her to do so.

The right thing to do is to go cold no contact from this point on.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

Follow Metaphysical's guide to the letter when and if she comes around and starts begging for your time again as his guide will show you what to do to have all the power over her that you want and get everything that you want out of her...

 

[Soprano]

You've been acting AFC by agreeing to the "friends" angle.

Cutting her off would've fvcked with her ego and brought her back to you as she'd want to reclaim her ego validation as well she'd then want to get your company back that she missed.

Since you agreed to the false friendship she's got nothing to miss.

She's getting her cake and eating it too fvcking the other guy's brains out and having you still in her life in a safe angle where she gets all that she wants and you get none of what you want.

The right thing to do is to go cold no contact from this point on.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

Follow Metaphysical's guide to the letter when and if she comes around and starts begging for your time again...

thats very good advice thank you....**** i wish i would have done that to begin with...but oh well i can start now......i really want to tell her off but i probably shouldnt....i want to tell her off in the worst way but i also want to date her very badly....man im messed up right now

 

[KontrollerX]

"i really want to tell her off but i probably shouldnt....i want to tell her off in the worst way but i also want to date her very badly....man im messed up right now"

Women only respond and are only hurt by covert unspoken communication by a man who still holds some value in their eyes. She wanted to keep you around for the phony friendship angle incase the current man doesn't work out so you obviously still have a bit of value to her but by remaining in the friend's angle you gradually will appear weak and undesireable to her.

Anyway...

You withdrawing your time by going no contact speaks louder to her than every "you worthless fvcking wh0re!" type comment that you can utter.

Remember my friend she's amoral like all women and only thinks with her pvssy and fleeting emotions.

This is how all women operate.

Just press the right buttons by going no contact and following Dan's guide I linked for you and she'll be bouncing up and down on your rod again soon enough while the other guy cries in his Cheerios over his lost "one".

 

[Soprano]

"i really want to tell her off but i probably shouldnt....i want to tell her off in the worst way but i also want to date her very badly....man im messed up right now"

Women only respond and are only hurt by covert unspoken communication by a man who still holds some value in their eyes. She wanted to keep you around for the phony friendship angle incase the current man doesn't work out so you obviously still have a bit of value to her but by remaining in the friend's angle you gradually will appear weak and undesireable to her.

Anyway...

You withdrawing your time by going no contact speaks louder to her than every "you worthless fvcking wh0re!" type comment that you can utter.

Remember my friend she's amoral like all women and only thinks with her pvssy and fleeting emotions.

This is how all women operate.

Just press the right buttons by going no contact and following Dan's guide I linked for you and she'll be bouncing up and down on your rod again soon enough while the other guy cries in his Cheerios over his lost "one".

I was thinking more like "fat" and "huge nose" comments, but either way, I'll hold off

Thank you for the replies I def needed that

 

[moneyisking]

Soprano, you are a player. I know you got good game with women, so why is this one woman sticking in your mind? You don't need that sh!t, you got loads of other girls that are ready to please and date you. I think I heard this from some guy from forum: The moment you think she is the only one, you are done.

 

[Soprano]

Soprano, you are a player. I know you got good game with women, so why is this one woman sticking in your mind? You don't need that sh!t, you got loads of other girls that are ready to please and date you. I think I heard this from some guy from forum: The moment you think she is the only one, you are done.

her personality is like perfect for me, everything about it...shes affectionate...and she cooks...and shes hott...her sense of humor is perfect with mine...everything....but im glad i came on here for a reality check before i did anything cuz i was about to call this b!tch up and unload all my deep inner feelings on her lol would have been a disaster, and i was this close to doing it..

at the end of the day im self concious about my weight (working on it) so the fact that a girl that 'perfect' was soooo into me was like damn...

 

[Soprano]

Soooooo, if she is living with a dude, then she is just another indistinguishable wh*re - the question and problem is why you are soooooo eager to be with such?

Just another Stank-Hol!

OK, I just read that you were unhappy with yourself (your weight) - meaning that you will embrace someone who you see as better than yourself - even thought she is not!

It is a mental thing! Perception is NOT reality!

yeah i know its true, i jus got a hard time believing it to be true i guess

 

[Soprano]

pretty sure i've settled myself down now...i think i gotta chalk this one up though....oh well may as well use her for social proof and her hot friends--i gotta get something out of this lol.

 

[EFFORT]

pretty sure i've settled myself down now...i think i gotta chalk this one up though....oh well may as well use her for social proof and her hot friends--i gotta get something out of this lol.

Just let her go man. You can't use a woman you have these feelings for ,for social proof.

 

[Soprano]

Just let her go man. You can't use a woman you have these feelings for ,for social proof.

i feel like i need to get something from her/from the situation...like she owes me something

 

[Igetit!]

i feel like i need to get something from her/from the situation...like she owes me something

What?

Two times here you say,"I feel like I need to get "something" from her",or "I think she owes me "something".

What? What is it you think you're owed from her?


Because if you can't say what that "something" is,well how is she supposed to know what it is you want?


What I'd like to know is what you plan on doing WHILE you're waiting for her to give you whatever it is you feel you're owed.



You plan on putting your dating life on hold until you collect this "debt" from her?



I think you feel like she owes you an apology or something. Because she kept saying how much she wanted to see you and be with you,then one day of the blue...BAM,she's with another guy.



You feel blindsided because it was like,"I want to be with you,I want to be with you,I want to be with you...BAM...Me and my ex got back together.




And you know if the two of them got back together it didn't happen in the twinkle of an eye.


They must have been in communication with each other the whole time she was giving you all those "I want to be with yous".




I understand where you're coming from,but more than likely,you'll go your whole life waiting to get that "something" from her.



If after all the advice you've been given,you're still hung up on trying to get the closure,I doubt this reply will makes much difference as well,but at least continue to live your life while you're waiting on her to say she's sorry.

 

[Tyson420]

Obviously since you've invested so much into her, like time, money maybe, and definitely emotion.

I feel the same way sometimes.

 

[Soprano]

What?

Two times here you say,"I feel like I need to get "something" from her",or "I think she owes me "something".

What? What is it you think you're owed from her?


Because if you can't say what that "something" is,well how is she supposed to know what it is you want?


What I'd like to know is what you plan on doing WHILE you're waiting for her to give you whatever it is you feel you're owed.



You plan on putting your dating life on hold until you collect this "debt" from her?



I think you feel like she owes you an apology or something. Because she kept saying how much she wanted to see you and be with you,then one day of the blue...BAM,she's with another guy.



You feel blindsided because it was like,"I want to be with you,I want to be with you,I want to be with you...BAM...Me and my ex got back together.




And you know if the two of them got back together it didn't happen in the twinkle of an eye.


They must have been in communication with each other the whole time she was giving you all those "I want to be with yous".




I understand where you're coming from,but more than likely,you'll go your whole life waiting to get that "something" from her.



If after all the advice you've been given,you're still hung up on trying to get the closure,I doubt this reply will makes much difference as well,but at least continue to live your life while you're waiting on her to say she's sorry.

i certainly will keep on living my life and being with other girls

she's apologized profusely over it...i dunno why this keeps lingering in my head...she told me about how they were friends after they broke up and him trying to get with her during that time and her constantly shutting him down....and his actions being disgustingly AFC -- and I mean really AFC, he actually said he was scared about me moving there because he was worried she wouldnt spend time with him anymore.....so i thought nothing of it, my game was tight and this dude was a chump...then bam she's back with him...tha fckk??

 

[p-mosh]

Daamn! I've been reading the DJ forum for the past few months, and I just joined today to post something which is very similar to what you just posted Soprano. Although this girl didn't went back with his ex, I think we're on the same situation.

All I cant tell you: We're going to get out of this one bro!

 

[Soprano]

Daamn! I've been reading the DJ forum for the past few months, and I just joined today to post something which is very similar to what you just posted Soprano. Although this girl didn't went back with his ex, I think we're on the same situation.

All I cant tell you: We're going to get out of this one bro!

thats whats up man glad you could relate we'll get outta it and find better chicks....

 

[Soprano]

oh my good lord i've never come so close to failure and avoided it in my life....she called me this morning, i knew she was calling so i had mentally prepared and fckking wrote down on paper what i was going to say to her all about my feelings and how i felt about her and yadda yadda (how fckking pathetic is that right?).....instead of saying that, i ended the call after 2 minutes of teasing. she texted me immediately after saying that was a short call and how she liked hearing my deep voice.