Im in trouble guys, I madeout with a drunk girl, when I was sober

hope7

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guys, I think im in big trouble.

I was at a party with my friend, and this girl introduced herself to me and my friends. And you can tell she's totally out of it. She's saying some crazy things when people say when she's drunk, like 'its important to have sensation in your life and stuff.'. Then she was saying how she's not going to remember most of whats happening this night, but she is going to remember the most important parts of the night. Then I asked her if she is going to remember me, then she kissed me on the lips.

Then I said, 'thats a good answer', then she kissed me again and forced her tounge into my mouth, and made out, then I backed into a couch so we could make out better. Some other stuff happened after, like me trying to call the friend that she came with, but she kept giving me the wrong number. Later, my friend found the friend the drunk girl came with. He prooved that he was her friend, and took us away.

After that, some guys came up to me and said that I have to leave otherwise they are gonna kick my ass. My friend went up them to ask whats the problem. During that, a girl came up me and asked me if I even knew her name, I said 'yeah, its ____', then she asked me if I even knew her before tonight, I said 'naw'.

Me and my friends left the party and my friend kept yelling at me all the way home about how I should never take advantage of drunk girls.

Dam, I wish I had knew better. My only excuse is cuz im 22 years old, and I never kissed a girl, and that was my first kiss. In other words, I was desprite.
It also had something to do with that I never drink and usually stay home on weekends, so I don't know much about drunk people. But thats not a real excuse, just what was going on in my head that justified my actions at that time. I know it was wrong.

I am home, the end of my story happened about 20 minutes ago. I ruined my friends reputation at that party, I can't go back to that guys house, and I feel dirty, and pathetic, and a loser.

How serious is what I did? What charges can they prosecute me for?
 

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hope7 said:
How serious is what I did? What charges can they prosecute me for?
First of all....CALM DOWN.

Making out with a drunk chick is not nice and looks really desperate on your part. (Really dude, weren't there any sober girls at the party???) However...unless you put your hands down her pants or actually had sex with her, the worst thing they can charge you with is being stupid.

It doesn't sound like she was putting up a fight or refusing you. In fact she kissed you first! However, she was NOT in her right mind and you should have backed off. You're 22, not some 15 year old kid, you DID know better.

You also better make an apology to your friend. And get used to those weekends home alone, it will be a while before he invites you to another party.
 

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If you show that you feel terrible about it and regret it, you will just look worse. Yeah, you know you messed up.

But you know there were benefits. You got to practice because it was your first kiss.

I would play it off and say something like "Hey, she was a good kisser, I couldn't turn her down."

Just watch out next time.
 

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What the fvck...

You are not going to be in any legal trouble....

I don't see why everyone got mad...
Were you in a room alone with her in the dark?!

Guy Wanting to be a Hero: "You need to leave."
You: **** you *****, all we did was make out, she kissed me first and stuck her tounge in MY MOUTH, stop trying to be someone's hero.

Guy Wanting to be a Hero: "Do you even know her name?"
I woulda said fvck you dude, you'd make out with her too if she came onto you. Stop trying to play hero.

Don't apologize for sh*t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG!
She came onto you!

Tell them they shouldn't have let her drink so much.

Peronally drunk girls make me kinda sick...
Like I wouldn't touch them.
 

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IT is a lesson...

Drunk = unstable and trouble.

just stay away from these. they are drunk, and don't remember. Even if you only talk to them, if something happens after you leave, you may be the one in trouble, cause out of luck, last thing she remembers is you.

And then, apart from being careful about your own a**, you dont owe an apology to anyone. If her friends were so concerned about her, they should've taken responsibility. Stupid act, yes. so what.

you did not make her drink more, drug her, or have sex with her. and the hero is possibly pissed because he has to show off, or seen that an opportunity just passed him by.

fu**king hate this hypocrisy.

just stay away from drunk women.
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

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Haha…

That’s fvcked up… it’s not as though you did anything cardinally wrong… you showed your inexperience by fvcking with a drunk chick but everybody’s done that… I know for a fact the dudes who came over to you will have done that during their time too…

You learn to minimise fallout from the situation… there was a point a few years back when kissing a drunk girl was fun but now I really don’t have time for that… I know recently I was trailed about near the dance floor at this upmarket joint by a real drunk chick… she was cuuuute, but so fvckin drunk that she wasn’t, lol… she was determined to kiss so ended up reluctantly let her do her thing then disappeared among people so that she could stumble off… but yea, a few years ago I woulda wanted a piece of that, now I really didn’t want to touch it… you’ll learn, and the guys and girls should shut the fvck up… people get fvcked up all the time and have drunken kisses and drunken fvcks especially at house parties… if some folk don’t like the heat then they should get out of the kitchen…

But yea… it’s on the girl… not on you… she got fvcked up and has to be held accountable for her actions… it was her who initiated after all… but there is an exception to this and that would be if this girl was criminally young, and at 22 you really should have known better…
 

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Get over it. We all make mistakes. Luckily, your mistake wasn't that big. At least you didn't sleep with her.
 

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Making out with drunk girls is an American institution that this country was founded on. The framers of our Republic would be spinning in their grave if they were to hear you be ashamed of it.

Why do you think Mardi Gras was invented? It was so women would have an excuse to get drunk and make out with random guys. Duhhhh!

You don't sound like a pathetic loser for making out with a drunk girl. You sound like a pathetic loser because you're worrying about it.
 

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JPFromTally said:
Making out with drunk girls is an American institution that this country was founded on. The framers of our Republic would be spinning in their grave if they were to hear you be ashamed of it.

Why do you think Mardi Gras was invented? It was so women would have an excuse to get drunk and make out with random guys. Duhhhh!

You don't sound like a pathetic loser for making out with a drunk girl. You sound like a pathetic loser because you're worrying about it.
Exactly.
 

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I see nothing wrong with what you did.

You did have sex, so you did not commit rape. you only kissed. no big deal. your fine. kissing is so petty. have no worries.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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There's got to be something here you haven't told us (or you don't know about), like she was the hot chick that all these guys have been trying to get with without success.

You were at a party, there was alcohol, what the hell did they expect would happen? Scrabble?!?

Your friend didn't care about you making out with some chick you've never seen before... he was scared he was going to get his head kicked in by the other guys at the party and he was taking it out on you.

The only mistake you made was going to a party full of d!ckheads.
 

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I agree, this is either a troll or you're holding something back. Kissing someone while drunk is so ****ing standard, I'm amazed someone would even bat an eyelid. I've seen guys take girls home in clubs that could barely stand. That I'd feel uncomfortable about but its not my place to intervene. Kissing a drunk girl, I just cannot see a bunch of 22 year olds getting so upset about something like that. Tell the rest of the story!
 

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LOL!

am i the only one to find this funny? :rock:
 

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Scorched said:
What the fvck...

You are not going to be in any legal trouble....

I don't see why everyone got mad...
Were you in a room alone with her in the dark?!

Guy Wanting to be a Hero: "You need to leave."
You: **** you *****, all we did was make out, she kissed me first and stuck her tounge in MY MOUTH, stop trying to be someone's hero.

Guy Wanting to be a Hero: "Do you even know her name?"
I woulda said fvck you dude, you'd make out with her too if she came onto you. Stop trying to play hero.

Don't apologize for sh*t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG!
She came onto you!

Tell them they shouldn't have let her drink so much.

Peronally drunk girls make me kinda sick...
Like I wouldn't touch them.
If it was that guys house, unless you had your crew with you, you could easily be outnumbered and beat up although they'd have to gang up if they were going to take me without some real pain returned. However, i'd just as much leave and call an f-buddy then stick around with a bunch of haters at some dude's party that i dont even give a sh1t about. You played it right who cares you were having fun, so was the girl. Big deal, a kiss who cares it was fun and you got out alive kudos :)
 

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Seriously i dont think you have done anything wrong... and i agree with scorched. People try to play the hero a lot, if there not getting ass then they want to make it hard for other people most of the time. **** honastly if a hot chick was up on me and started making out with me then i am sure i wouldnt resist. I might take a bunch of shots and get drunk too :). You did nothing wrong, but you should roll with a crew sometimes to back you up, at least your friend steped up for you though... even though he shouldnt have been a ***** and yelled at you on the way home. If girls know they act like Ho's when they drink... and dont want to act like one... they shouldnt ****ing drink. Everyone is responsible for there actions when drunk... even girls...
 

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I don't think we should be condoning this guy's actions. True, what he did was minor to say the least, but to act as if the drunk girl was responsible for her actions, well that's just not the way the law works. If he had sex with this girl while he was sober, he would be in some deep sh!t. Luckily, things didn't progress that far. The "moral" of the story I guess is that if want to make out with a willing drunk girl, then you better make sure you are pretty drunk yourself. If you are thinking about having sex with a drunk girl, DON'T!!! Even if you are also drunk, you still may face a rape accusation. The law is very protective of women in this area, so watch out!
 

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First of, thanks guys, you calmed me the fvck down. Alot of my freaking out had to do with that one guy wanting to kick my ass, and then the girl who asked me those questions, then my friends yelling at me and how I can never go back to that house.

Here are some more details to the story:

She was cute, not super hot. No other guys were trying hard to get with her, she was talking to other guys and the other guys were just having fun talking to her, nothing much more than that. Just silly talking with occasional random hugs.

First, I made out with her for about 10 minutes, not just a quik 2 minute makeout session.

It was a crowded backyard party.

It might have been racial, (im south asian). The party was mostly white people, and as I was leaving the party, they guy who wanted to kick my ass said "go back to iran". The girl I was making out with was white.

I never gonna deal with this crap ever again. Only sober girls from now on.
 

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I think you got intimidated a bit for fear of physical danger. Are you a small guy or do you work out? It sounds like you have a fear that the next time you make out with a drink girl, this will happen again. What makes you think that? If the next time you made out with a drunk girl and the outcome was her really enjoying it and wanting to hang out with you some more, would you feel differently about the outcome then?
 

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It wasn't physical danger. I am small (140 lbs) , but I workout (stronger than average guy at gym) and do bjj. I knew if it came down to it, I would defeat that guy in a fight. What I was really worried about is my and my friend's reputation. The party I went to was hosted a a pretty popular club on campus. I know lots of people who are in that club, even though they weren't at that particular party. I am worried other people are going to find out, and i'll be known as someone who takes advantage of drunk girls.

The drunk girl was pretty drunk, and I'm not gonna deal with someone at her drunkness level again. If the girl was just buzzed, then I would go for it.
 
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