I'm hopeless

[Viper423]

I have a lot of girl "friends" but have never had a girlfriend. I'm 17 years old for crying out loud and haven't even kissed a girl. I see all kinds of beautiful girls around and am always too shy to even talk to them. I mean, I'm not that bad looking of a guy. I have a nice body cause I workout a lot. My girl "friends" even tell me I have a hard body. I drive a fvcking Cadillac Escalade. I want a girlfriend badly, someone please help. And flaming me won't get anywhere, I'm sincerely crying out for help!

 

[P.I.M.P.]

I know this is probably the last thing you want to here man, but read the bible. It will tell you everything you need to know.

Get out there and try. Try talking to that hottie sitting by herself. Try asking her for her number. Don't complain you can't get a girlfriend, you have to get out there and find one.

I highly suggest reading up on some confidence posts though, and mindset. You place way too much happiness on women dude.

 

[-XL-]

Originally posted by P.I.M.P.
You place way too much happiness on women dude.

word

just go talk to that girl uve had your eye on..if she rejects u so what?its her loss

just get out there and do what ya can

good luck man

 

[The Bishop]

Originally posted by Viper423
I have a lot of girl "friends" but have never had a girlfriend. I'm 17 years old for crying out loud and haven't even kissed a girl. I see all kinds of beautiful girls around and am always too shy to even talk to them. I mean, I'm not that bad looking of a guy. I have a nice body cause I workout a lot. My girl "friends" even tell me I have a hard body. I drive a fvcking Cadillac Escalade. I want a girlfriend badly, someone please help. And flaming me won't get anywhere, I'm sincerely crying out for help!

You're actually in the best possible situation for an afc-to-dj transformation. You have all the intangibles down (good looks, nice ride) You just have to step up your game.

A year or so ago i was in a situation similar to your own (except I didnt have a license, lol) where i had lots of girl friends but found it impossible to get a girlfriend. But i worked on my game, stopped giving a shyt and eventually i got the attention of the girls, even unintentionally making a lot of my friends, who've known me for years, interested in me (I'll have write a post advocating against hooking up with your long time friends sometime).

Keep you're head up, man. A lot of the guys here probably have had the same experience as us; Just work on your dj skills. It might take some time, some practice, and some even some pain, but I'm sure you'll be reaping the benefits soon enough.

 

[Big Pimpin']

Cant your girl friends hook you up with their friends? You got a escalade! Drive around with your boys and if your too scared to talk to the girls let your friend do the talking for you. Its afc but its practice.

 

[digitalrat]

Never use your ride to pick up a chick. It's just lame. I mean for a one night stand or just fvcking but, not for a girlfriend.

 

[jmm854]

For some reason you've decided that having a girlfriend is a prerequisite for being happy. It's not.

Don't be one of those sniveling little b*tches that would rather whine about their problems than do something about it. If the girl is what you desire, make it happen.

As far as being concerned about your sexual experience, here's what I can offer. I got my first kiss at 17 as well, 2 months to the day after I found sosuave.com. I got my first bl*wjob 2 weeks after my first kiss. Don't sweat it.

It all starts with the attitude.

 

[jmm854]

I just read your post again and I'm not done.

I mean, I'm not that bad looking of a guy. I have a nice body cause I workout a lot. My girl "friends" even tell me I have a hard body. I drive a fvcking Cadillac Escalade.

I see all kinds of beautiful girls around and am always too shy to even talk to them.

This should be enough to realize that you've gotta take action. If you're around hot chicks all the time and you're getting nowhere, obviously you must realize LOOKING GOOD AND HAVING COOL **** ISN'T WHAT GETS THE GIRL. They will not come to you brother. So don't f*cking ball about not having a girl 'even though you've got the intangibles' because THE INTANGIBLES DON'T MATTER.

I want a girlfriend badly, someone please help. And flaming me won't get anywhere, I'm sincerely crying out for help!

WHY DO YOU WANT A GIRL?

You want some lovin? You don't need a girlfriend for that.

You need someone who will listen to your problems and feel sorry for you? Use your parents for that, because the chick will drop you.

You're just plain lonely? Then date a less than average looking girl that you won't find so intimidating.

For some reason you're thinking process is in the toilet. Dive in and give it some CPR baby! I mean, in your post you didn't say a damn thing about being rejected. Have you even gotten any numbers or asked anyone out on a date? I mean sh*t, I'd sympathize a bit with you if you went out and asked out 20 girls and got 0 dates but it doesn't sound like you've even put forth any effort. Seriously man, don't be a douchebag and b*tch about it until you've at least tried to get some girls.

Ask some girls out and get yourself laid.

 

[dbot]

The fact that you want a girlfriend so badly is your biggest problem. You need to "kill that desperation."

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16926

You will find that getting the chicks is much easier once you realise that you don't need them. One more thing... do you see the first two threads on this board? Read through those completely, several times. You'll find answers to all your questions.

 

[Viper423]

All of you are making perfect since...it's just that everytime I tell myself I'm gonna confront a certain girl I see, I always woose out, or she walks away before I get the chance.

 

[Mr. Latte]

I agree...this guy's in the best possible position to become a DJ. Why? Because he's not in denial. He's not telling himself that he's God's gift to women, and that women are just delusional. He realizes that there's something in HIMSELF that needs to change. Nobody makes a worse DJ than a guy who's not willing to sand off the rough edges.

 

[Cloud-uk]

mmm I agree, dont worry man, things are gonna get good over the next few months. Just be thankful you found this site! You really have to go and talk to some girls! I can see you might be at a bit of a loss about this, so I'm gonna make it real simple for you. And I want you to do this today. Find a girl, any girl, and find something about her, or what she's doing that you can talk about. A book she's reading, her necklace, her ass- anything. Its all been said bofore here, but the only way to overcome your fear for good is by chalenging it, not sitting at the computer and thinking about it. Just grab your balls and do it.

Its great to see how wealcoming everyone is to an AFC who wants to change, but if you need anymore reason to just go and do it, it's that people's patience with someone who wont help himself tends to leave pretty quickly

 

[elguato]

Originally posted by Viper423
I have a lot of girl "friends" but have never had a girlfriend. I'm 17 years old for crying out loud and haven't even kissed a girl. I see all kinds of beautiful girls around and am always too shy to even talk to them. I mean, I'm not that bad looking of a guy. I have a nice body cause I workout a lot. My girl "friends" even tell me I have a hard body. I drive a fvcking Cadillac Escalade. I want a girlfriend badly, someone please help. And flaming me won't get anywhere, I'm sincerely crying out for help!

Dude, if you drive an escalade you sure as hell aint a broke ***** ..hire a sexy-ass escort so you can get away from bein a virgin and not kissin a girl.. then you can calm your ass down and act smooth

 

[SuSHI]

When I see a really hot girl, and it scares me to approach her I do one thing....

Just think, she farts, as do all human beings!

It will totally kick her off that pedestal. LOL, seriously, how can you be intimidiated after picturing this girl farting (although this might even turn some guys on HAHAHA!).

It sounds stupid, but just try it and see what a difference it makes.

 

[jmm854]

Dude, if you drive an escalade you sure as hell aint a broke ***** ..hire a sexy-ass escort so you can get away from bein a virgin and not kissin a girl.. then you can calm your ass down and act smooth

No offense elguato, you're trying and you're new here...but that advice just happens to suck big fat rhinocerous ****.

 

[AmgineEX]

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Lame excuse. I totalled my car few months back, don't own a ride, my gf practically drives to every date and we split date costs 50/50 and she still sticks with me. I couldn't ask for more. Obviously, she's one of those rare girls who likes the person rather than the belongings. I've met with quite a few different types of women and let me tell you, the keepers definately won't want you because you have a nice car or body, those are just icing on the cake, they're the tippy top of the food pyramid under the "use sparingly." You need to charm the girl, car and looks can only break the ice, you need to keep it going. If you want a chick, go for it, you never had her in the first place so if she decides that you're a eligible candidate, she's yours and you won, if she's not interested, you're where you started at. What's the worst that could happen? She telling her friends that you tried to ask her out? Relax and go for it, set a goal and just do it, no more excuses. It gets easier each time.

 

[SnatchJP]

For you, the bible will work wonders. The main thing you have to work on is your confidence. (SO, to the rest of us DJs: STOP F*CKING PUTTING THIS GUY DOWN!!! his self-confidence right now is low enough already, don't you think?)

Anyway, if you want some confidence booster, I'm gonna give you a couple tips just to start you off.

First of all, if you can find a girl, any girl, and start a convo and get her number, you will have no more problems. Cold pickups like that are the hardest ones you can do, once you've done that, everything else will be breezy. If you're having trouble, think of it as trying to get rejected rather than trying to get a number.

Thats kinda diving into the deepend though. If you want to start a little slower, just try raising your "status" a bit (This post explains status a little: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33299) Correct your posture, make eye contact with people. When you do, smile and say hi.

In fact ,something that will get you started is just looking up and making eye contact and saying hi to at least one stranger. Every day. After a while you can start conversations with them. Then you can start upping the number. One basic thing that isn't mentioned here much is that you have to be comfortable with strangers if you want to pick up girls you've never met before.

Oh and once again, (and I'm saying this with my best intentions at heart) read the dj bible. Top-right corner of this page.

 

[Viper423]

Well, today at the gym I tried to hold eye contact with 2 different girls. Well, the first one, I looked at her, then she just looked away real fast and didn't look at me again. She was pretty hot, maybe an 8.5-9. The second one I made eye contact with looked at me for about 5 whole seconds, then I woosed out and looked away. I'm gonna read some of those articles in the dj bible later tonight, and thanks for the helpful advice you guys have given me so far. Any more would be great.