I'm gonna ruin her!!!

[dk1990S111]

I think you need to watch frozen hahahahaha LET IT GO!!!!!

 

[hudpes]

Go for it man, then come back here to report how it went.

 

[Onetimeguy]

:kick: your such puzzy lol. Omg i was talking to this girl online that i never smash and she didn't have feeling for me now going to run a smear campaign for my butthurt. lol get overself you were seriously a friend and nothing more you develop feelings for her not the other away around. do we as men really condone such puzzy if we do then we need some help jeez.:trouble:

I wasn't a friend, this chick confessed her feelings for me first. She even went to the stage of telling me all her personal problems, i.e. we were talking about marriage and she told me that she might have problems conceiving as she suffers from a health problem.. Do I really sound like a f*ckin friend after this!!

And seriously bro, please go learn English...

 

[Onetimeguy]

They will just feel pity for you.:woo:

They'll feel pity for me - why? I don't have feelings for her any longer.

And I think neither would want anything to do with her after I tell them all the sort of stuff we discussed which includes loads of xxx convo's.

 

[Onetimeguy]

IT ONLY SHOWS YOUR OWN WEAKNESS TO BLAME HER FOR YOUR POOR JUDGEMENT.

It's clear she was not a smart investment of your time and energy. Somewhere inside yourself you already knew that along the way.

Even so, you chose to go for the ride. You chose to give up your time and energy in doing so.

You knowingly made a poor investment and knowingly kept pouring more of your resources into it.

I do blame myself and deep down inside a part of me did know she wasn't worth it.

Now you act pissed that you did not receive a return on your investment. Really? Ever consider self responsibility?

If she had been a woman worthy of your time and energy, I imagine you would be disappointed that she is choosing to see someone else, but without the big revenge drama proclamation.

To me it seems that you aren't just pissed that you gave up your time and energy on a poor investment and lost it. I get the impression you are extra offended that a woman, as lowly as her (given your description-see above quoted), you expected her to feel excited and lucky to finally be able to be with someone like you.

To top it off, not only did her lowly self not want you, but her lowly self already found someone else, and you haven't. I think perhaps that is why you are truly pissed.

To rant about revenging her by telling all she participated in an emotional affair is you screaming your weakness to the world.

It's screams weakness in every way.

I am responsible too, I'm not arguing against that.

I'm not pissed about that, I had no doubt that she'd find someone else, she is really attractive and most guys around her pretend to be her friend so they can get with her.

I am pissed because she hurt me like no one ever has and now the girls I date can sense a strong guard around me, I don't hate women, I just don't trust them no longer.

Strength would be owning up, to knowing you made a poor choice, & owning that you continued to pour your resources into into that poor choice, even though you knew better along the way.

Strength would be gratitude for having had this opportunity to learn and to own YOUR poor choices and to decide that you will only invest your time and energy into investments worthy of such. Wisdom is to know that should you ever be mid-investment and realize there is a question, you will immediately stop & re-evaluate & be congruent with only investing your resources into an investment likely to have positive returns, of the magnitude worthy of such.

Drop the weak revenge rant.
Be a man, and own YOUR mistakes, and then simply (and quietly) move on.
There is no reason to contact her or anyone related to her, or speak of what happened--period.
Only invest your time and energy, moving forward, into the life you want now.

I've tried the being strong thing and letting go but why should she lead a happy life after cheating on her ex and current bf. I'm gonna ask you a very simple question, answer it honestly bro. If your long-term gf had cheated on you, wouldn't you want to know? She also confessed to me that she slept with other men in her past whilst being in a relationship.

With you in that situation of her ex or current bf, now tell me if such a woman shouldn't be exposed?

 

[dk1990S111]

I've tried the being strong thing and letting go but why should she lead a happy life after cheating on her ex and current bf. I'm gonna ask you a very simple question, answer it honestly bro. If your long-term gf had cheated on you, wouldn't you want to know? She also confessed to me that she slept with other men in her past whilst being in a relationship.

With you in that situation of her ex or current bf, now tell me if such a woman shouldn't be exposed?

What makes you think that shes happy? Sounds to me like shes very unhappy and is looking for someone to make her happy whether that is by filling her hole mentally or physically.

As for the "wouldnt you wanna know", yes id want to know but on the other hand why do you care so much? they are in another country. Let them live their own lives and find out for themselves.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Originally Posted by Onetimeguy in Black

I am responsible too, I'm not arguing against that.
You say that, yet your words and desires are not congruent with taking responsibility and moving on.

I'm not pissed about that, I had no doubt that she'd find someone else, she is really attractive and most guys around her pretend to be her friend so they can get with her.
You had no doubt she would find someone else, yet you chose to stay, invest, and let your feelings develop. This isn't about blame and shame it is about self awareness so you can grow and move forward without baggage.

I am pissed because she hurt me like no one ever has
I encourage you to reconsider your perspective. She is not the one that hurt you. She is not the one that betrayed you. Seriously, take a breath and be open minded and consider, IT IS NOT ABOUT HER OR WHAT SHE DID OR DIDN'T DO. IT IS ABOUT WHAT YOU DID OR DID NOT DO!

now the girls I date can sense a strong guard around me, I don't hate women, I just don't trust them no longer.
You can maintain the perspective that you she hurt you and now it is not safe to trust women. IT IS A WEAK & POWERLESS POSITION TO LIVE YOUR LIFE FROM.

A stronger, more evolved and powerful position is to realize she NEVER took anything from you. She did NOT betray you. YOU BETRAYED YOURSELF! You knew better and you still went against your own better judgement. Again it's not blame, it is self awareness so you can choose to grow from it.

Weakness says women have the power and they can hurt me so forever more I must have my guard up.

Strength says, I am a smart evolved man who has a lot of insight into making choices that support my goals, evolution, and happiness in life. I know when I am choosing in support of those things and I know when I am tempted not. I know that it gets messy, hurts like hell and simply wastes my time and energy when I don't. You choose to commit to being a powerful man by committing to only make positive investments in your life moving forward.

In this situation, YOU CHOOSE to allow the messy and painful situation to occur, maybe not consciously but certainly by default, by not leaving when you knew better.

I've tried the being strong thing and letting go but why should she lead a happy life after cheating on her ex and current bf.
You have another choice NOW. Choose to learn, grow and move forward and live as the strong powerful man you are, or choose to stay distracted by what is or isn't happening in her life.

I'm gonna ask you a very simple question, answer it honestly bro. If your long-term gf had cheated on you, wouldn't you want to know? With you in that situation of her ex or current bf, now tell me if such a woman shouldn't be exposed?
Yes, I would. You are also not the relationship police. These (aside from her) aren't close friends of yours that you know well or even interact with regularly. Life will take care of itself for them.

She also confessed to me that she slept with other men in her past whilst being in a relationship.
The glaring question to me is, why did you allow yourself to participate in it, allow it to go on so long, and finding out she has cheated on other relationships, still continue? The HONEST answer to this question is imperative to not repeating this painful experience again. Consider it deeply.

Stop staring in the rear-view mirror and look forward at the open road ahead and where your journey is heading NOW!

Your life is about YOUR dreams and goals and happiness! CHOOSE to focus on that!

 

[TheGambino]

This is a troll im 100% sure.

 

[hudpes]

With you in that situation of her ex or current bf, now tell me if such a woman shouldn't be exposed?

You should focus on building bridges instead of tearing them down. You live under one, after all.

 

[Bokanovsky]

This is a troll im 100% sure.

For his own sake, I sincerely hope that he is.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Look man, I know what you mean. It isn't even the fact that she used you that pisses you off. It's the fact that she thinks that you are dumb enough that she can get away with it + the fact that she thinks she is better than you. You gotta stand up for yourself most of the time and not take that ****. But sometimes (not all) you just gotta sit back and learn from it. This is one of those times because she is so far away that you can't do any of that.

When I say it's not worth it, it really isn't. If she was closer to you, then it's your own deal, but you would be wasting your time with her. Plus, look at her life! She is an unmarried 33 year old woman whom you think is pretty hot and she is out playing video games? Wtf is she doing with her life? You are 25 and you are contemplating wasting your own time to 'get back' at her? Bro look, you wanna get back at her, you make her come chase after you by making her see how well you have done for herself and by making her regret all of her choices. Besides, long distance relationships never work out. It should be common sense nowadays.