I'm going in, I think. Please take a look and help

[ufotofu9]

So I'm a senior in college. Their was a girl who I was hooking up with last Fall. Blond, nice body, good personality, and the most addicting smell. Well, it ended when she told me she thought all I wanted from her was a hook-up (true at the time), and from then on we didn't talk...until this year. She is friends with my roomates girlfriend, and we sort of instantantly connected again. We've hung out a bit, studied together, drank some, but you know, only once a week, if that. She even called me last night drunk, but I was indisposed at the time (more on that later ).
But the truth is, I'm really in to her. I like the way she looks, dresses, talks, and most of all, whenever I smell her perfume...instant erection. I want to tell her this. I want to call her and meet up and tell her she was wrong when she said I was only wanting a hook-up last year, that I actually do like her. How can I approach this? We haven't hooked up this Fall, but I feel the liking could be there. She really pays me a lot of attention even when lots of other people are around, and I know she is comfortable with me. So how do I broach this subject?

On another topic, I haven't hooked up with a girl this year except when I went to visit my ex down in D.C. That is, until last night. I rarely have picked up girls at a bar for a hook up, but last night all the planets were alligned I guess, and I did. Just boosts my confidence a little, you know? Thanks.

 

[ufotofu9]

bump

 

[Walden]

It's often easier Djing from cold than from some kinda weird semi-friends state.
In these situations you have two options either tell her you think she's the poo and ask her out , or find some way to drop hints. If you're going the subtle way the try asking her of she's seeing anyone and what she looks for in a guy . Once she tells you about her ideal guy ( a funny sensitive AFC type who in realiy wouldn't get a look in) you start with the C+F about how you're really what she's looking for.
Apply kino as neccesary.

 

[ufotofu9]

Thanks buddy. ANy more suggestions

 

[ufotofu9]

So I think I'll just come out with it. Nothing to lose. Any other suggestions.

 

[ufotofu9]

UPDATE

So here's the update. 2 weeks ago she was over my apt chilling with my roomate, and I bust in drunk as hell (a saturday night around 2am). We're all watching a movie, and I'm being all flirty, but not being too obnoxious about it (I'm a good drunk). So I'm gonna talk to her and tell her what I wanted to say, when she says she was gonna go home. "Perfect," I thought, I'll walk her out and do it. But my ****block roomate and his girlfriend volunteer to walk her home. They are real cool but they can be such pains in the asses sometimes. So she gets home and I IM her, and tell her everything: I liked her back then, it wasn't just a hook-up, that I'd gotten over her but now that she's back in my life and the feelings are back. So she says, ya know, she has problems with guys, but that she'd like to hang out with me and see where it goes.
So we had fall break, and I called her Saturday. She was busy then. She didn't call back till today, and I was busy at the libe, so I talked for a minute and told her we should hang out this week and I'd call her. I already feel AFCish having said all that stuff drunk on instant message, so how do I proceed from here like a DJ? Thanks men!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dood have you not learned a single thing while you've been here?? NEVER EVER EVER NEVER, tell a girl how you feel about her 1st!!! Golden fukin' rule!! Now she's in the power position. She knows how you feel, effectively KILLING all the mystery about you. She knows she can have you WHENEVER she wants. Sure you'll try and play the game a little bit and not be needy, but let's be honest, your bragging about this girl like she's a saint. Your emotions are already getting the best of you. I wish I would have found this thread a few days earlier, because I would have told you that your friends walking her home that night was a blessing in disguise. I'll be surprised if anything happens now, live and learn.



PIMP

 

[Walden]

PS you can tell a girl how you feel so long as you follow it with a neg hit.

Drives em wild they can't figure it out.

 

[Pap]

PIMP is right bro. Careful about doing that...cuz when you tell a girl how much you like her without qualifying her first then you will are giving away your SOIs (statement of intent) too early and this kind of direct trigger will force the chick to decide right then and there if she wants you or not and you don't need to do that until you have her in isolation in a hookup location and you make the SEDUCE move to close the deal. That's when you want to make your SOIs known. There is NO point in giving SOIs beforehand...unless you are doing so in a C&F way, such as C&F roleplaying.

Cheers,

Papa
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