im going crazy, need help

[j-flex]

since i found this site (2 years ago) i have been improving myself in all aspects, but i have been thinking a lot, and i havent get the results i want,
im not happy with my life at all, because i just dont fit in my society.


You see, im a good looking cat, im well built and all, im no nerd, but i am very introverted, im like tony soprano in some ways, i have been reading improvement books like crazy and i was making a very good progress in my life except with girls and friends! but i am way more confident,

that was until this week, when i started thinking about my life, i have ONLY 1 friend which he is the coolest guy i have ever met but he doesnt like to go out (even though he is very extroverted), i have a gf which she is very nice and good looking but she is introverted like me which sometimes makes me bored, but i still like her though.


i used to have more friends, but they were very negative people and it was affecting my confidence a lot so i cut them out. and it was great but now i kind of regret because they do go out to parties while im stuck with only 2 people (which are very positive though).

i was changing the way i think, becoming a more positive person, but i just dont see results in the areas i want (have lots of friends and girls), my life right now is very dull and i want to experience new things with new people etc. so suddenly i became very negative again, like if i lost all my progress except my confidence. i feel like im losing all hope with my social life.

when i am with other people i just dont click with them, im from mexico and the society here is becoming very femenine. all people my age goes to clubs, which i hate because they only put pop music and dance like little girls. girls are full of shiet thinkin their pussies are gold. i just hate being in clubs so much.

by the way i already read the site, the book of pook etc. in fact i have read most books about seduction. so dont bother telling me to do that.

one interesting thing is that i get along very good with american/canadian people, whenever i go there people love me and i get tonz of chicks.

do you guys experience the same thing? sometimes u improve like crazy but then you get discourage so bad and wonder if is worth it when you dont see the results?

 

[Interceptor]

You haven't seemed to plan out your Personal Mission in Life.
You don't seem to have any solid, important goals.

Fix that, and the rest will take care of itself.

 

[Faded Image]

Join the military.

 

[Rampage]

like one of the guys above me said, you need to set goals. Figure out how you want your life to be, then get a piece of paper and pencil and write down the goals you have to meet in order to get to where you want to be.

It sounds like your just living life one day at a time, you NEED to set goals. As for your old "negative" friends, do not go back to them. You should never have to settle when it comes to friends. or *****es for that matter. Find some new buddies to chill with, dont wait around for flawless friends, no ones perfect. But next time ur at they gym and ask somebody for a spot, start chattin with him, then go grab a beer, u two already got lifting in common

If you're not happy with your girlfriend and want lots of girls, you need to actually get out in the game and do work. Leave your girlfriend only if you are man enough to get out and actually approach and get some numbers.
Im sure there are clubs that play hip hop or techno music, whichever floats you boat. Hit those and game some chicks there.

I too notice how feminized society is getting and its disgusting. However its also good because every ***** out there is looking for a REAL MAN. So when you step into a club be a real man, they will notice. especially with all the feminine guys everywhere

 

[j-flex]

wow u guys nailed it, thats why i feel like that because when i have big goals i feel good, seriously thank you guys, my life right now doesnt have a purpose im just waiting for things to happen and it shouldnt be that way,

i just have to find out. any ideas on that??

one of my purposes in life was to get girls, but now i dont care about it as much because that is not a purpose is just a another hobby.


and by the way, fvck the army.

 

[Illusionist]

Join the military.

oh God please don't do this! trust me...

 

[Rampage]

If you havn't found you purpose, you need to. Dont confuse passions with your purpose. Getting girls is a passion or like you said, a hobby. Not a purpose. For example, an english teacher may love to pick up chicks, work on cars, skydive, and play basketball. But his pupose in life is to teach.

Often times you're purpose is related to your passions. I think it was confuscious who said "If you find a job you love you will never work a day in your life." This means combining your purpose with a passion. Take Michael Jordan for example. His passion is basketball, but he combined it with his purpose, to entertain.

Again, think about what you want to do with you life, imagine what you want to be. You will find your purpose. And remember, your purpose isn't about doing whatever to make youself happy, it's a lot bigger than that. Once you find it you will then have direction in life and can start completing your goals to get to the top of the latter and reach that image you had in your head.

Also, once you have your purpose and know where you are going, you will be a lot more attractive to chicks. They want a man who knows what he's doing and life and has direction. And once you set those goals to get to the top of the latter, you will gain real unbreakable confidence each time you complete one.