Im getting tired of this not working out. Who is good at texting?

[Shootin4Dreams]

I need help with my texting here on what to do she hasnt replied. I made out with her and went with her to car but she was puking so friend took her home.

Her -hey its Justice, I just want to say thank you so much for everything you did last night. I really appreciate it!

Me- yea np, gotta try to hold your liquor. What are you doing tonight?

Her- hah. I normally do. I just have to make sure I eat before hand. & I have to work, why?

Me- Jw we going to be having a show later tonight and like you to come.

What type of work you do?

No reply

I need assistance from someone who knows how to text these chicks. Was it asking for date too early? Julien says on pimp to do that and i mean yall say dont text a bunch. So.....

 

[ThePasses]

Let me preface this by saying, I suck at TXTn because I don't have the patience for it and it lacks authenticity to me so it doesn't take much for me to cease effort when doing it.

Anyhow, from what you type, I think you did everything you were supposed to. Either she's juggling other people/has a man or chalked you up as a drunken mistake and has no intentions of doing anything with you again (has nothing to do with you). You threw out the idea of a meetup/hangout. After that, you have to be able to not care anymore if you get a straight up No or a No Response. You played it right.

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

Well me and its just my style, I always try to build a little more intrest/repoir before asking them out. I think you asked her out a line to soon. I started to notice that its best to have a little more banter first.

Also, I don't ask them what they do for a living until later on, alot of times after the bang. Some chicks feel like you might be a creeper when you ask them that to soon.

 

[ZTIME]

Text when you want, or don't text at all. Just make sure you read what her responses are. She said she had to work that evening.

Also, think of texting like digital ping-pong. Short fast to the point and never text again unless she responds. No response=game over.

Her: I have to work why?

You; doing a show tonight. You should go.

No answer = no more texting from you.

You made out with a drunk chick.............don't put too much thought into it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Acting like you don't notice when a girl fails to respond is a powerful thing. It's at that point that most guys fvck it up. I live by the one text rule. You get one text from me. If you respond, you get another. When you quit responding, I quit texting.

The absolute worst thing you can do right now is send that text that guys always seem to send, the one that is all question marks after she does not respond to the last message. Never, ever do that.

If she never responds back, and you are just dying to hear from her, you may text her about something different, but wait a couple days at least. Never acknowledge that you even noticed that she ignored the last text. If you are texting a lot of girls, then it's easy to not notice when one doesn't respond.

 

[EyeBRollin]

All you need to know about text game:

The phone is for setting dates.

Her -hey its Justice, I just want to say thank you so much for everything you did last night. I really appreciate it!

Me- yea np, gotta try to hold your liquor. What are you doing tonight?

Her- hah. I normally do. I just have to make sure I eat before hand. & I have to work, why?

There was nothing wrong with your text here, it was your approach that is off. You shouldn't be asking her on a date for the next day. That's just too soon. I would have just ended the conversation with a "np" and ghosted for 5-9 days (or if she reaches out before that time frame), then asked her out.

Keep it simple bud. You shouldn't be doing any texting. If she isn't talking about meeting up with you for a date, you really have no reason to talk to her. It's a little counter intuitive and scary at first, but trust the system.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Her- hah. I normally do. I just have to make sure I eat before hand. & I have to work, why?

Me- Jw we going to be having a show later tonight and like you to come.

What type of work you do?

Here's two very good reasons your texting sucks:

-She's already told you she's working, but you ask her out anyway. This shows either a lack of intelligence on your side, and/or ignorance of her message. Probably a combination of both.

-You start a text conversation about what work she does instead of cutting it short and telling her to let you know if/when she's free again. This tells her a) you have all the time in the world to have a text conversation with her rather than having other business to attend to, and b) consequently, you might go weird and clingy very quickly like most other guys because you're giving her too much attention even when you're not with her. That's why she's backed off.

THE PHONE IS FOR SETTING DATES. FULL. STOP.

There's nothing wrong with a bit of banter (2-3 texts over the course of a day). Even that is too much really. But NO deep conversations. What the fck are you gonna talk about on a date if you've already found out everything on text?

 

[marmel75]

All you need to know about text game:

The phone is for setting dates.



There was nothing wrong with your text here, it was your approach that is off. You shouldn't be asking her on a date for the next day. That's just too soon. I would have just ended the conversation with a "np" and ghosted for 5-9 days (or if she reaches out before that time frame), then asked her out.

Keep it simple bud. You shouldn't be doing any texting. If she isn't talking about meeting up with you for a date, you really have no reason to talk to her. It's a little counter intuitive and scary at first, but trust the system.

The phone is completely unneccessary. I've tried it both ways and it doesn't matter. If she likes you she will go out with you. If not she won't. No amount of talking will change that.