Im eager to get out there and mingle but...

[georgie24]

i do not want to involve alcohol in the picutre, seems like having " a drink" is a must out here

i will not have " just one" or a " light beer" just not intersted...

maybe my angle is skewed but what do you non- drinkers do when out and about ?

 

[Tiguere]

Why you such a pvssy?

 

[PDubb75]

Why you such a pvssy?

That's just unnecessary...

Georgie, it is only "a must" because you care too much what people think. If you don't want to drink, don't drink. I have some friends that don't, and it doesn't affect their social life.

When I am DDing (although I usually still have a drink) I can still have a great time. If someone asks you why you aren't drinking, just tell then the truth; you don't want to. Don't even bother with excuses. If anyone cares enough that you don't drink, to the point they stop interacting with you, I'm sure you are not missing out on their company.

 

[runner83]

That's just unnecessary...

Georgie, it is only "a must" because you care too much what people think. If you don't want to drink, don't drink. I have some friends that don't, and it doesn't affect their social life.

When I am DDing (although I usually still have a drink) I can still have a great time. If someone asks you why you aren't drinking, just tell then the truth; you don't want to. Don't even bother with excuses. If anyone cares enough that you don't drink, to the point they stop interacting with you, I'm sure you are not missing out on their company.

Agreed.

If you give a damn about what people think of such a petty point as this, then you'll never reach your full potential.

 

[Strelok]

Guys I do agree with you about not giving a damn about other people approval however the average girl is not exactly the mature individual we expect her to be,it doesnt need so much for her or her friends to call you weird cause you're the only guy not drinking or not following any single club rule.

So I suggest a balance between the two,after all we're not doing to get someones approval but in order to get something.

I suggest you dont' get a drink by yourself but take very small sip from girl's one,this will allow you to drink not so much( or faking and dont drink at all) and establish some kind of intimacy with them.
It could even work as test to see if they're into you.

 

[MonkeyButt]

I didn't drink for years.
When I started to go out again, the excuse was "driving"!
There wasn't a person who didn't respect that.

If it's really bugging you, just get a non-alcoholic beer and sip the god awful thing. I used to do that on occasion too.

MB

 

[bugsquish]

In the UK (especially Scotland) there's a very regimented weekend drinking culture. If you're not drinking alcohol, or are drinking water which I do a lot, people assume you're on drugs :s

What you can do is drink coke and ice, just say it's Jack and Coke!

 

[squirrels]

i do not want to involve alcohol in the picutre, seems like having " a drink" is a must out here

i will not have " just one" or a " light beer" just not intersted...

maybe my angle is skewed but what do you non- drinkers do when out and about ?

Then don't drink. Set up dates in places that don't necessarily involve drinking.

That doesn't necessarily mean you need to AVOID it, though. If she insists on meeting up in a bar, be honest and cool about it. "I don't really drink, but I'll hang out for a while".

I'm not sure whether your motivation to not drink is religious, whether you're a recovering addict, or what the situation is...but the thing I've always found unusual about a lot of AA-cases and such is that even when they say they're "cured", they need to take PAINS to avoid even being AROUND booze because of fear of relapse. That's not "cured"...the alcohol is still controlling your life, just through fear and discomfort now instead of addiction and intoxication.

Someone who is truly "cured" of an addiction should be able to go into a bar and mingle with alcoholics without partaking. My friend's parents were both alcoholics at one time...they swore off alcohol and will NOT drink it, but they still throw parties where it's present.

Anyway...enough about addiction. Just don't drink if you don't want to drink. But don't act weird if SHE wants to. Don't be awkward about it or make her feel awkward about it, or she will likely not be into you. And if she gets awkward about it even when you're casual about it, maybe SHE has a "problem". This really isn't as big a deal as you're making it out to be.

The only problem you'll run into is that women are more inhibited when sober. They won't admit it, but that's WHY a lot of them drink...so they can have an excuse when they engage in "indiscretions".

 

[georgie24]

Why you such a pvssy?

how about i shove a funnel down your throat and pump the keg into your stomach until you tap out ?


thanks guys, im gonn afake the funk with a water and lemon and pass it off as volkda and tomic until i figure it out

 

[HalfAddict]

I look like the bastard child of John Popper and dames always ask me if I am the "guy from Blues Traveler".

Know what I did?

Grabbed a harmonica and started practicing. Be funny the next time some chick asks me that ****.

Who gives a **** what people think, drink water dude.

 

[squirrels]

how about i shove a funnel down your throat and pump the keg into your stomach until you tap out ?


thanks guys, im gonn afake the funk with a water and lemon and pass it off as volkda and tomic until i figure it out

You're 36 goddam years old. Start ACTING like it.

College and high school kids pass off drinks. You're a MAN. You drink when you want, you DON'T drink when you want. Anyone who has a problem with it can F**K OFF. That INCLUDES women. Get some ice-water. Pass if off as ice-water. If it makes you uncomfortable, then tell her you have to drive. If it makes HER uncomfortable, she's probably a bar-troll/alchy anyway.

No more whining about your emotional BPD drama, no more whining about drinking, no more walking on eggshells trying to make everyone happy. Reach into your pants, find your balls, and start using them.

Someone needs to throw your ass in the octagon or something...get your testosterone flowing again.

Go watch Fight Club.

 

[georgie24]

Im actively on it, trust me !

my nutsack had got soften last few years, im sooo on it!

 

[iqqi]

I think its only weird when you are at a bar and not drinking. Bars are for drinking. Sober guys are only there to pick up intoxicated women, and that is very creepy.

 

[runner83]

I think its only weird when you are at a bar and not drinking. Bars are for drinking. Sober guys are only there to pick up intoxicated women, and that is very creepy.

Rule #1 of attracting women: never listen to what they say, only judge on what they do.

As long as you are still having a good time, whether you are sober or not does not matter at all.

Don't focus on picking up chicks, focus on having a good time regardless of what others think.

Last time I picked up a girl in a club (18 yo, Hawaiian, over here for uni), I had quite literally walked into the club and was buying my first drink. I looked over, kept eye contact when she looked at me, then it went from there.

Admittedly this doesn't happen every time, but don't buy into any b/s that you need to drink to have a good time.

 

[Jitterbug]

If you look like a pvssy and say you don't drink, people will use that as an excuse to call you or treat you like a pvssy.

I very rarely drink these days, because of my sports (powerlifting), and I look like a muscular lifter, so nobody says sh1t when I say I don't drink. Plus I always look like I'm having heaps of fun so nobody's weirded out because I'm sober and they're tipsy.

 

[ELMER_GANTRY]

how about i shove a funnel down your throat and pump the keg into your stomach until you tap out ?

Now this is what you should say to someone when you're out and if they make fun of you for not drinking, not a member in the forum.

thanks guys, im gonn afake the funk with a water and lemon and pass it off as volkda and tomic until i figure it out

Looks like you had a few before you wrote this. Are you sure you don't drink?

Dude, why are you so worried about what other people think about you? Why should you care if you're not drinking and other people are as long as you're having a good time. You shouldn't live your life in the eyes of other people, and that is what you're doing by thinking and feeling this way.

Sometimes when I go out and I have an important day the next day, I might have just one drink or maybe nothing at all because I like to drink a lot when I'm out. Do I care if someone sees me not drinking an alcoholic beverage? Hell no I don't, and that is how you should be as well. Who gives a s*** what they think about you, and if they make comments to you, you don't want to associate with them anyway.

Don't go out and pretend to be drinking an alcoholic beverage when you're not. Why do you want to do that? Lie about it and be a fake? That is not the way to go. You know you are faking and there is no need to do that. That is very lame and you shouldn't have to fake having a drink because you're worried about it. Some guys might fake a drink to get chicks drunk so they can bang them later but that is a different story. If people see that you are faking a drink, they will call you out on it, then they will laugh at you and make fun of you, and you will feel very foolish for doing that.

If you are still worried about not drinking alcohol, then just tell people that you have a drinking problem. That is not a lie because you do have a problem with drinking. You don't want to drink alcohol, you don't like it, that is something you don't want to do. So therefore, you have a drinking problem, so tell them that, and any reasonable person would understand when someone says they have a drinking problem. There you go, now you won't have to be upset when you're out and not drinking while other people are.