i'm banging this chick but she has a boyfriend

[trevor2003]

I meet this amazing girl about 3 weeks ago, we're perfect for each other, only thing is she has a boyfriend.

We were hanging out a lot these last few weeks as she was flirting with me a lot and trying to get my attention.

Today was her 1 year anniversery with her boyfriend (who is totally clueless that his girlfriend is cheating on him with me). She was haning out with him all day, doing the dinner and gifts bull$hit thing.

This is the first time I have ever been with a girl who is with someone else, and although i've been getting some action lately I still have these weird feelings because she still hangs out with her boyfriend everyday.

I'm 21 and she is 19, and her boyfriend is 18, unemployed, plays video games all day, 50 pounds over-weight, doesn't drive and is a total AFC.

I want this chick for myself, she is definately LTR material cuz she has the qualities i'm looking for, but she still hangs out with her boyfriend everyday and it's driving me nuts.

It kinda reminds me of the movie Scarface when Tony steals Michelle Phiffer from Frank..........i'm moving in and I wanna take over.

But this guy is MADLY in love with her and she still tells him that she loves him (I hear things).

She kinda said something to me along the lines that she doesn't want to break up with him because she doesn't want to break his heart (can you believe that)???

I'm kinda getting the feeling that she might not break up with him and is just using me for sex and cuz I have money and a car! (Don't laugh, it ain't a joke)

I don't know what to do??? I don't wanna share this chick, I want her as my trophy-girlfriend (she's hot). But I don't wanna say to her "listen, i'm busy and don't have time for this high school stuff, either dump him and date me or don't bother calling me anymore."

I really don't know what would happen if I said that? C'mon DJ's is that a good idea or bad?

Another option I have is to tell this dude that I got with his girlfriend, that would probally open his eyes because he really is totally clueless of what is going on.

Another thing that I was thinking about all day is that..............if we did start to date "how will I ever be able to trust this girl?". I mean she was dating this dude for a year, then all of a sudden I come along and she's all over me. She could pull the same **** on me. Can girls who cheat ever be trusted??

Anyways, give me some advice cuz I really am confused!!!

 

[squirrels]

Don't go behind the back like a pu$$Y and rat her out.

Personally, I wouldn't mind being "used for sex" right now. But if you're looking for an LTR, then start pulling back the affection/sex until she starts giving you what YOU want.

 

[Luveno]

Here's what you do

Keep screwing her, but just don't buy her anything, drive her anywhere, or generally give her any respect. She's 9.5, so what? She's an untrustworthy *****. Use her for sex until you are sick of her, then leave her out to dry.

 

[Wiesman44]

Don't get into a LTR with a girl that is known to cheat. There's plenty of girls out there. Who cares if she's a 9.5 ? Most girls that hot are undatable anyway. If i were you, I'd get a girl that wasn't so messed up. Screw her until you find a chick that doesnt screw around on the side, then dump her to the curb.

 

[trevor2003]

Originally posted by squirrels
Don't go behind the back like a pu$$Y and rat her out.

Personally, I wouldn't mind being "used for sex" right now. But if you're looking for an LTR, then start pulling back the affection/sex until she starts giving you what YOU want.

I won't go behind her back and tell him. However if she happens to all of a sudden tell me that she can't or doesn't want to see me anymore, then I have information that I can use to get revenge.

I'm going back to University in 2 weeks, she goes to the same school. I'll be 4th year, she will be 2nd, and her AFC boyfriend will be a freshman. I don't understand how hot chicks can date such losers sometimes, but anyways......

School starts in 2 weeks and i'd like to get this stuff sorted out before classes start so I don't let this chick f'uck with my head and affect my grades (it happened before with other girls, but it'll never happen again).

In the mean time I am gonna start to become more unavailable and try to firgure out what i'm gonna do.

 

[trevor2003]

Originally posted by Wiesman44
Don't get into a LTR with a girl that is known to cheat. There's plenty of girls out there. Who cares if she's a 9.5 ? Most girls that hot are undatable anyway. If i were you, I'd get a girl that wasn't so messed up. Screw her until you find a chick that doesnt screw around on the side, then dump her to the curb.

Believe it or not, this chick was a virgin until she met me!! I'm not lying, a VIRGIN!

She has been with this dude for a year and he has never f'ucked her!! Apparently she gives him head but he never banged her. She even made some kinda joke to me that she thought he might be gay, ya never know??

This chick does seem f'ucked up. Possible nut case and she has the most retarted/strict parents ever!

 

[MetalFortress]

If she will cheat WITH you, she will cheat ON you.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by trevor2003
Believe it or not, this chick was a virgin until she met me!! I'm not lying, a VIRGIN!

She has been with this dude for a year and he has never f'ucked her!! Apparently she gives him head but he never banged her. She even made some kinda joke to me that she thought he might be gay, ya never know??

This chick does seem f'ucked up. Possible nut case and she has the most retarted/strict parents ever!

Now THAT is the most f*cked up part of the whole situation!

That, plus you three will be in the same school...

"Back away, another day, cheating lady."

 

[Grey Fox]

Going after married women and women in serious relationships is bush league. Be a real DJ and pick up a single chick who can prove to be trust worthy. Cheaters always cheat again and you got no one to blame when some hot shot cheats with her and leaves you looking like a punk.

-Grey Fox

 

[the_great_gaia]

- This chic is not ur girlfriend, so don't think she's perfect for you.. this tells me that your image of the perfect girl is a girl that belongs to someone else...

- If she's cheating on her current boyfriend, she's not long term material.. whatever she's doing to him, she'll do to the next guy (i.e. you)

- It's very, very bad that you're beginning to have feelings for this girl, you're her emergency "i need ****" boy, there should be no feelings for her from you, unless she's gonna turn you into "sucker no. 2", fvck her like the slvt she is and leave it at that.

- Her saying that she loves you is BS, unless her definition of love means "having one than one relationship" because i know she's telling her boyfriend "i love you" too. This tells me that she's mind-fvcking you.

- Get it thru your head: she's using you for sex, and you should only be using her for the same thing.

- Don't make any ultimatums with her, she'll just keep her b/f and find a new emergency ****. She'll drop you. It's a bad idea. Think about it, she's cheating on her b/f now.. she'll cheat on her b/f later. Yea, you are better than her current b/f, but there;s someone out there better than you to her eyes. That's when YOU become the victim.

- If you tell the b/f that you're banging his bytch, she'll probably hate you forever. I don't think that is too bright on your part, and don't be surprized if he desires to see ur blood on the ground.

- NO GIRL CAN EVER BE TRUSTED. Who knows, you're probably not the only guy she's cheating on her b/f with.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Originally posted by the_great_gaia
- This chic is not ur girlfriend, so don't think she's perfect for you.. this tells me that your image of the perfect girl is a girl that belongs to someone else...

- If she's cheating on her current boyfriend, she's not long term material.. whatever she's doing to him, she'll do to the next guy (i.e. you)

- It's very, very bad that you're beginning to have feelings for this girl, you're her emergency "i need ****" boy, there should be no feelings for her from you, unless she's gonna turn you into "sucker no. 2", fvck her like the slvt she is and leave it at that.

- Her saying that she loves you is BS, unless her definition of love means "having one than one relationship" because i know she's telling her boyfriend "i love you" too. This tells me that she's mind-fvcking you.

- Get it thru your head: she's using you for sex, and you should only be using her for the same thing.

- Don't make any ultimatums with her, she'll just keep her b/f and find a new emergency ****. She'll drop you. It's a bad idea. Think about it, she's cheating on her b/f now.. she'll cheat on her b/f later. Yea, you are better than her current b/f, but there;s someone out there better than you to her eyes. That's when YOU become the victim.

- If you tell the b/f that you're banging his bytch, she'll probably hate you forever. I don't think that is too bright on your part, and don't be surprized if he desires to see ur blood on the ground.

- NO GIRL CAN EVER BE TRUSTED. Who knows, you're probably not the only guy she's cheating on her b/f with.

This is probably the best reply I've ever heard from a DJ under 20 years old on this forum. Speaks high on your DJ insite gaia. Nothing much I could add here other than:

You're starting your 4th year in college?! Wtf do you want to be in a committed relationship with a cheating chic like this one.

She's VERY early 20's, starting college...parties, frats, 21+ year old night club scene...this girl isn't LTR material bro.

Leave it be and enjoy your Senior year banging tons of college tail.

 

[-.-]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
If she will cheat WITH you, she will cheat ON you.

Exactly what I had in mind.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by trevor2003
I won't go behind her back and tell him. However if she happens to all of a sudden tell me that she can't or doesn't want to see me anymore, then I have information that I can use to get revenge.

Don't waste your energy with petty revenge on some trick you're banging. That's beneath you, man. It's revenge enough that she loses a prize such as yourself.

Seriously, just pull back. If she chases, it was meant to be. If she doesn't chase, then she's in it for just the sex, like other people have said. Cut her loose. (unless YOU can be in it just for the sex, but I don't think you can)

 

[JohnJones]

I'll chime in too. She's too young to be considered LTR material since that's a dicey age no matter what, she cheats on her b/f giving you more than she gives him (don't even want to think about what she'd do with the guy she cheats on you with).

Some/most women go through a time till their 25 or so (or longer if still in grad school) where some amount of cheating is part of the break up process, but it just looks as if she is being "confused" and has no intent of breaking up with him.

Further, if you're the first guy she's had sex with, and she's in college, and she's young, and she's hot, and she's cheating on him, I guarantee you that there will be some cheating drama at some point -- another guy or more will have been with her by this time next year.

 

[cave dweller]

my 2 cents

my 2 cents here

She is not LTR material. IMHO

Sooner or later she will cheat on you.

Try to keep your feelings out of it and keep her as a friend who will let you poke her every now and then.

A no commitment 'Booty call' could work for awhile, until she finds someone new. (then your history)

cave dweller

 

[D'light]

guys thank you so much for making this post. I am in the exact same situation, except I haven't f*cked her yet. I think I will do it this week though. I feel like a complete a*shole doing this to some guy though; but it might as well be me, becasue if not, someone else would be getting her. Thanks for opening my eyes to whats really going on here!