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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
 

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Definitely wait a few days. Maybe even wait until the holiday weekend is over. Sunday night at a minimum.

If "boom" meant you fuccked her vag, then that is good to get laid only two weeks after an LTR ended. Better than most.
 

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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
let her contact you. fvck her again. find something or someone else to do in the mean time.
 

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She’s a bit close to home if it all goes pear shaped lol good for you though. Onwards & upwards. Give it a few days. She will probably message you. Good luck..!
 

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Nah, if you sealed the deal, texting the following day is fine (but keep convo text modest).

The "two day" rule is too well known these days and has become a cliché. If you hadn't done the deed, then yeah...wait 2 days to a week, but since you sealed it, waiting too long could potentially backfire (depends on the girl).
 

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Nah, if you sealed the deal, texting the following day is fine (but keep convo text modest).

The "two day" rule is too well known these days and has become a cliché. If you hadn't done the deed, then yeah...wait 2 days to a week, but since you sealed it, waiting too long could potentially backfire (depends on the girl).
Find myself agreeing with a lot of BWV posts. Agreed. A woman gave you her body (frankly its one of their only assets) least you can do is send a text. I usually send a quick "I had a good time with you last night" the next day at some point if you have interest. Some women get ghosted after because the dude has remorse and waiting too long will put you in that camp.
 

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I would send her just a little text the following night
 

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I think it's better to wait for them to message first, to gauge their interest level.

You have to ask them out, setup logistics, (most likely) pickup the tab, give them a good experience while being charming, etc, the least they can do is send a "thanks I had a nice time" text. Even passive/traditional girls will do this.

However, if you banged, some insecure women might interpret your lack of texting back as a sign you were just looking to pump and dump...still, if she can't even be bothered to send a simple thank you text, she probably lost interest at some point regardless, and you'll just save yourself the trouble.
 

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In my mind, she has a few dudes she’s still in open discussions with, I’d say text and say something along the lines of “hey it was great to hang out last night”. This way she won’t feel conflicted or a cumdumpster and it clears the roster for your next meat (typo intended). Now if she’s a plate you don’t care, but given your enthusiasm you want to keep that around.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Find myself agreeing with a lot of BWV posts. Agreed. A woman gave you her body (frankly its one of their only assets) least you can do is send a text. I usually send a quick "I had a good time with you last night" the next day at some point if you have interest. Some women get ghosted after because the dude has remorse and waiting too long will put you in that camp.
Also good for avoiding a false rape accusation.
 

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So I waited two days texted to setup next date on saturday, got what I thought was a enthusiastic response and a let's do something next week...... now it's Tuesday... nothing.....

Do I text again or keep waiting?
 

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Haha well sort of, had my first date since my LTR ended two weeks ago. She drove me home this morning, boom! Feels like the spell has lifted somewhat which is massive relief.

She happens to work right next to where I live so that's convenient, question is do I message her or wait.

I wanna say "last night was incredible" but it feels kinda simpy.....Maybe just wait?
Let her message you first, then respond.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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It really depends on the girl. If she’s mature and on the level (good luck) then there’s no problem with texting. I wouldn’t go with “last night was incredible”

id go with some reflection on what was discussed previously….or just go somewhere and do something, and show her something of interest. Anything which suggests you’re getting on with a fun life and not sat there fawning over her
 
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