i'm asexual o_O

[dannowillbookem]

i think it was the extremely religious, sex is bad upbringing that i had. or maybe im just a lazy gun. either way its killing me...its like i want to have sex, i pine to, but a good part of me doesnt care. and my gun sure doesnt want it, even though i beat off pretty regularly.

can religious indoctrination do this to you? am i gonna have to go back to my therapist?

 

[DJ_in_making]

wtf?! First off it ur talking about Christianity, no where does it say sex is bad. I hate it when people misinterpret this crap sex is good, period. Secondly if you don't want sex what's the problem? If you're horny have sex and if you're not don't have sex, no big deal. Oh and maybe the fact that you beat off regularly may be a big part of it???

 

[dannowillbookem]

put your right hand down the rear of your pants. locate your panties. now pull them out of your ass.

1. i was in a very religious setting, and anything remotely sexual was shunned and lectured as being demonic. rediculous? yeah. true? yeah.

2. i want to have sex but i can no longer bring myself to do it. i dont know why. lets just say if i had the choice between say uhhh going shooting or nailing pamela anderson, theres a surprisingly high chance that i will go shooting.

3. by regularly i mean...say once a week? max? its been really weird like that since the hospital.

 

[Vincent]

Hahahahaha, oh man this thread is fantastic.

Puberty is an interesting thing. For one thing you're not Asexual. By growing up in an extrememly anti-sex religious upbringing you have been basically told that everyone humps like rabbits and all people think about is sex. So you feel that since you're not having incredibly strong sexual urges all the time somethings wrong. Well you're perfectly fine. Don't feel obligated to want to have sex all the time.

If you're not in a relationship then you shouldn't feel obligated to want to have sex all the time. Just do what feels natural. That's the healthiest thing.

Religion is an interesting things and people often use it to supress human desire. You're at the age where you start to learn what things are important to you and what you believe. Don't let other people tell you what you should and should be doing. Just relax and find out for your self.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

GEEEZ-- For all things real and imagined.

I grew up in a VERY fundamentalist christian family and I've been horny all my life. I've never understood how the whole premartial sinful sex thing applies to todays society--- Use condoms and dont have kids out of wedlock-- those are my rules, and dont fk everything that walks.

 

[cant think of a user name]

Don't believe that media bullcrap about how "teenagers think about sex every 10 seconds", because frankly, it is damn near impossible.

Here's an example of some people brainwashed by the so-called 'experts':
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060620100252AAegPZv

 

[manbearpig]

I'm 18 and sorry, but I DO think about sex about every ten seconds. I'm horny pretty much 24/7. Maybe you're not getting enough protein, I dunno.

 

[cant think of a user name]

I'm 18 and sorry, but I DO think about sex about every ten seconds. I'm horny pretty much 24/7. Maybe you're not getting enough protein, I dunno.

How do you ever get anything done?

 

[dannowillbookem]

but i definetly have a lazy gun, and thats not normal at my age. i used to get those random boners in class, but now i rarely get hard for no reason. and i can watch the greatest porn movie for hours and never pop wood.

 

[Desdinova]

can religious indoctrination do this to you?

Yes it can, and I had the same problem. This type of indoctration makes you override your natural desires and links those desires to negative feelings. It can go deep into the subconscious. MANY religious people who were taught that sex is evil still have problems with sex AFTER marriage.

When you're told something over and over again, you'll eventually believe it. When you tell yourself something over and over again, you'll believe that too. Those two have worked against you for your entire upbringing. You now have years and years of conditioning to undo. Discrediting the religion that you were brought up in can help. Seeing that God didn't smoke your ass after you got laid is another way to help. You can also use the method that the religion used to make you feel sex is bad - tell yourself over and over again that sex is a normal and natural way to show your affection for a woman.

 

[Desdinova]

Here's a funny, but sad experience that I pulled off another message board....

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My cousin had just got back from attending her best friends wedding out of state recently. There she was telling me of the ceremony and all other things. Me; I don't do weddings, it just brings too much up for me personally. And I knew the groom that her friend married. He is SUCH the dudley do-right, a virgin at 29. She at 28. But anyway she then proceeds to tell me," I'm not marrying a brother. I dont care if I get [kicked out] or whatever, I can't take that chance!"

Now my interest is peaked because I know where this is heading.I replied back,"What do you mean?"

she then proceeds to tell me how her friend called her on her weding night crying, asking her what's wrong with her. The frustrated bride then laments that she could'nt be aroused for him, that she realized that she loves him as a person, and could not be sexually attracted to him in that form. My cousin, shocked and stunned, proceeds to give help and sugestions to get in the mood on their blissful night. The bride laments that when he noticed that she was not wet for him he could'nt stay erect once inside and could not climax. She then said she felt like she was screwing her " Fleshly" brother rather than the man she feel in love with. He asked if they wanted to just hold each other and pray togethe, she said she felt nauseous, and said no; went to the bathroom and vomited. The bride kept crying, wondering if she made a mistake.

my cousin made it up in her mind after hearing that and hearing my experience with my first time that She want a man that knows where to put it and how to handle her. In don't blame her. It brought back too much frustrating memories for me as well. I was'nt nervous, but because I could sense that she did'nt ejoy having me. I lost my sexual confidence, and in turn had a tormented sex life.

 

[RedPill]

Here's a funny, but sad experience that I pulled off another message board....

:crackup:

As brother Karma would say, "jesusthefvckbastardchrist!"

That story is wicked. Normally it takes a good few years, sexless nights, cheating, and financial ruin for an AFC marriage to fail. But on the wedding night? Messed up!

I'm reminded of all the weddings I've been forced to attend - they're chump conventions.

 

[bbestar]

The answer is...Not in my family it isn't.. My whole family was raised in the traditional roman catholic church in the philippines... Not the watered down version you see here in America. I tell you I can remember when I was four years old who was boss... My dad will step on you, anything that happens is automatically your fault, I never seen my dad kiss my mom in public, there are no wedding anniversaries, and it is either his way or the highway, and there is no highway. He is the commander the alpha, you can say he has a steel backbone.

 

[dannowillbookem]

i wanna fix my problem and start a support group for people who are sexually scarred by religion. seriously it pisses me off that my mum and all these assholles drilled this shiit into me as a kid and she still makes me go to church. im not religious, but part of me still feels like i am. i need to divorce my religion from me, but it feels so strange. like i would go to hell.

sigh. i just wanna have sex.