Why am I angry? Alot of reasons. I'm angry I have always felt always alone/lonely. I'm angry cause I feel like I am forced to go long periods without dating some/getting laid/etc,and yet I always see people with someone and I am always alone. Like no one is attracted to me or wants me. Like everyone else is "free and liberated" and "part of the crowd/beautiful people" with there hot gf's. I see these people as followers,yet I am miserable. I hate all of them. Cause it's always the same thing over and over for me. It's like unless you are "perfect",they want nothing to do with you. It sucks. I mean,why is it every one else has someone and I don't. It must be nice to have someone to blow you whenever you want. Hell,even chicks have more experience than me,that's embarassing. Maybe it's my own insecurities,or paranoia.
I'm angry. A rant.
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How? How do you do it? Another thing is,no matter how much you try,what you do,they automatically stereotype you. Chicks that is. They won't even give you a chance. It's like it's rigged in there favor when we should be the ones in control. I blame those damned hippies in the 60's. Think it exists? doesn't it? I try to fight the urge to give in to social pressures,but it's hard. Perhaps I am too fragile minded in some ways. I have an idea of what I'm going through,the victim of the world thing. I don't know whats true and whats not. I have an unsure sense of self,and it goes back to years. I mean I think it's a serious fear,like I will be rejected due to lack of experience,and yet,I do nothing to solve it as life passes me bye.
First of all, don't get angry with yourself, There's no reason to be mad at you nor other people, personaly I don't believe in revenge or hate and my life is a lot more simple. Take care of yourself and learn to love yourself, I know it sounds clique and it is, but it is true. Once you learn to live with yourself and not to be needy and only then, you'll get the girls. Who the hell cares about what other people think?. As you said, YOU are the man, remember these simple 2 things and your life will be different:ItsOnNow said:
1.- When you're in a relashionshp with a woman, you're the most important person, act as such. Don't give out power, otherwise you'll be treated as scum.
2.- Don't give a flying **** about what other people think. If you begin to worry about the thoughts other people are having about you, you'll end up as a portrait of their frustrations. It might take you a while but once you learn to take the power from the very beggining you'll be the man you want to be. Believe me.
If you can learn these 2 rules, things will flow. As for that "club", no. I don't think that exist, there are AFCs and people getting some and that's about it, you're not more nor less important for being one or the other, but I'm sure you know wich one you want to be. And by the way let's be clear, you're not a victim of anyone else but yourself, most people carry this "victim" flag around. You're not a victim of the world, acknowledge this and stop acting as if it were.
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Master Don Juan
As far as women are concerned, you aren't really missing anything. A ******* whenever you want or sex when you please isn't always worth all the hassle that comes with it. Sure, it's nice to have a girl to fall back on, but a woman shouldn't bring a man his pleasure. A man should find pleasure in achieving his goals and being the best man he can be.
There are some guys out there who have great girlfriends because they are always improving themselves, and there are some guys out there who just get lucky with their genetics (physical). Either way, men have been obsessing over women in todays modern world only to learn in the end; your self-worth is more important than any woman can be to you. Any successful man who still has a good woman by his side in his old age, has a good woman by his side because he kept up his end of the bargain. He achieved to the best of his abilities and her feeling his manliness, latched in for the long run. She knows that being by his side isn't a right, but a privilege.
If I were you, I would be real with myself. How old are you? The younger the better, but don't be discouraged if you aren't. Are you really trying to improve yourself or are you cutting corners? Some guys hang around this board for years and spend more time ranting than getting out in the real world. Do you really feel like you're doing all you can to be the best man you could possibly be? These are all questions you should ask yourself. Daily.
Secondly, if you're searching for your significant other, you most likely won't find them. I've been in and out of countless relationships and I never really "found" a girl because I was looking. It's as if when you try the least and you aren't really looking for something, it just falls into your lap. If you will, it's sort of a vibe a man gives off. A man who needs a woman mopes around and sends out a vibe that he's not really a man without a woman. What woman wants this type of guy? Why would she want a man who will crumble when she is not by his side? A man who is content with himself sends off positive vibes to all women. He's in demand to all women because they can rely on the fact that he's solid; he will always be himself whether she is there or not.
All this hollywood BS tends to brainwash the young male youth into thinking that the way to a woman's heart is pleasing her. While this is all nice and well, a woman would much rather please a man. She would rather tame the beast than be force fed compliments and favors. A lot of guys call this "games", while 90% of the time these guys are just too inexperienced to realize what women want. They believe that a woman will only want you if you have to be chased. This is a common myth that young evolving DJs put into their brain after they've been nexted by some chick who just didn't like being smothered. Women don't just want a chase, they want solid foundations. They want a man who is grounded to who he is and there's no way that woman will budge him whatsoever. The cornerstone of being a man.
Anyways, I went off on a bit of a rant myself
There are some guys out there who have great girlfriends because they are always improving themselves, and there are some guys out there who just get lucky with their genetics (physical). Either way, men have been obsessing over women in todays modern world only to learn in the end; your self-worth is more important than any woman can be to you. Any successful man who still has a good woman by his side in his old age, has a good woman by his side because he kept up his end of the bargain. He achieved to the best of his abilities and her feeling his manliness, latched in for the long run. She knows that being by his side isn't a right, but a privilege.
If I were you, I would be real with myself. How old are you? The younger the better, but don't be discouraged if you aren't. Are you really trying to improve yourself or are you cutting corners? Some guys hang around this board for years and spend more time ranting than getting out in the real world. Do you really feel like you're doing all you can to be the best man you could possibly be? These are all questions you should ask yourself. Daily.
Secondly, if you're searching for your significant other, you most likely won't find them. I've been in and out of countless relationships and I never really "found" a girl because I was looking. It's as if when you try the least and you aren't really looking for something, it just falls into your lap. If you will, it's sort of a vibe a man gives off. A man who needs a woman mopes around and sends out a vibe that he's not really a man without a woman. What woman wants this type of guy? Why would she want a man who will crumble when she is not by his side? A man who is content with himself sends off positive vibes to all women. He's in demand to all women because they can rely on the fact that he's solid; he will always be himself whether she is there or not.
All this hollywood BS tends to brainwash the young male youth into thinking that the way to a woman's heart is pleasing her. While this is all nice and well, a woman would much rather please a man. She would rather tame the beast than be force fed compliments and favors. A lot of guys call this "games", while 90% of the time these guys are just too inexperienced to realize what women want. They believe that a woman will only want you if you have to be chased. This is a common myth that young evolving DJs put into their brain after they've been nexted by some chick who just didn't like being smothered. Women don't just want a chase, they want solid foundations. They want a man who is grounded to who he is and there's no way that woman will budge him whatsoever. The cornerstone of being a man.
Anyways, I went off on a bit of a rant myself
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I have been angry at myself for a long time for many things. Not being on top,moving ahead,getting my act together,etc. I am probably needy,but try not to show it,I think I am more lonely than needy. I don't want to be an emotional drain on people. I try not to care what others think,but I have idk,control problems.
The whole achieving your goals/being the best you can be,that's what's got me head fcked. Like I could be or have been what I want,but i fell behind in some ways. That's another thing,I don't want to be a people pleaser,constantly trying to please her,she should win me!!! Hah!!!
The whole achieving your goals/being the best you can be,that's what's got me head fcked. Like I could be or have been what I want,but i fell behind in some ways. That's another thing,I don't want to be a people pleaser,constantly trying to please her,she should win me!!! Hah!!!
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Master Don Juan
I don't think you have any problems. Over the past years I've seen guys come to the board thinking they have problems, only to find that it's all mental. Trust me, a mental funk is the worst funk you can be in. Even the most successful DJs have mental funks where no matter what they do, they can't succeed. You must look for a way to change your state of mind, then start a path forward. Maybe all it takes is reading a self improvement book and getting yourself psyched about being a better person. Maybe it's going to the gym and getting excited about how you're going to look in a few months. Who knows! Everyone is different. But you must have a passion before you start working towards your goals. If you have nothing to work for, then you most certainly won't achieve it.ItsOnNow said:
First thing first, don't hate yourself. If thing aren't flowing right now it is not your fault, if you made mistakes they are done and there's little that can be done about it, so forget it. Being alone is not loneliness. Improve yourself into a more interesting person, then you'll reach the top. Not always things are sweet and fast and we'd like them to be (And I know this because I'm like that too), acknowledge this. The more you push things around, the farest they'll get from you and this applies not only for women but for most things in life. Once you become more interesting you'll learn that you'd rather spend time with yourself but you won't be able to because more people want to be around you.ItsOnNow said:
It is and has been a total mental funk for a long time. I can't get excited about anything or very little in life. It's like I am slowed down. I have a passion,but don't follow it it seems or I don't realize my talents and abilities.
WC2
Master Don Juan
If you don't want to follow it, then it's really not a passion. When you find a passion you will not let anything get in the way. I wish I could help you with finding one, but it's something you have to find yourself. For me, it was a book I read 4 odd years ago. Right after reading it, nothing was going to stop me from being the man I wanted to be. To this day, I still go back and read parts of the book to reinforce what I felt so strongly about. hope you find your passionItsOnNow said:
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Quit trying to chase women and chase your dreams. Quit worrying about what the the next dude has and worry about yourself. You are lacking motivation and being lazy about it. You gotta go out and kill something! (figure of speech) Trust me; once you go out and start accomplishing things you will feel better about yourself.
Or you will come back here tellings us about your problems. We cannot fix them, we can only guide you. You gotta do it for yourself.
Or you will come back here tellings us about your problems. We cannot fix them, we can only guide you. You gotta do it for yourself.