I'm an idiot... at this rate I'm never gonna get laid.

[Popeyes]

Seriously WTF is wrong with me, I feel so stupid right now. Earlier today I got onto the bus and sat down. Then this HB8.5+ came on after me saw me looking at her and sat down right in front of me. The way the bus is set up the first part of the bus is llined with benched seats so the people sitting there basically face other people on the other benched seats directly opposite them, and can look out the window. Right after the benches theres a portion where the seats face forward, so the person seating in them would be looking straight ahead like in a normal car. Well anyways I was sitting in the 1st regular seat and the chick sat on the portion of the bench, directly in front of me. So anyways she starts messing with her hair preening or whatever, and looks at me once or twice(no EC because I was looking out the window), and the way she was sitting it was obvious she was trying to get me to say something. Well what happened was I didn't want to talk on the bus, because I'd feel wierd picking up a girl with an audience like that, so I was going to wait for her to get down. Now when the bus stopped I didn't want to get up because I wanted her to get up first so I could follow her and then catch up and start talking (we were both going to the buses last stop, a subway station) well she basically never got up on time really and just sort of sat there even when everyone else seemed to be getting up, so like an idiot I figured she didn't want me to talk to her or something similar like that, and turned and left out of the bus. But thinking back on it, she was probably still waiting for me to initiate convo.

I dunno right now I just feel really dumb. That was basically handed to me on a silver platter, and I don't often get blantant IOIs like that out in public, but I'm sure this chick knew that we both went to the same school together. Fvck this would have been so much easier than a cold approach if I didn't mess it up. I dunno why I even made this thread really, just venting I guess.. but have any of you ever had something like this happen to you.

How do I get over caring about what other people think in public. I dunno it just seems like I never see any guys actually picking up girls in public, so maybe thats why I feel wierd doing it.

 

[Chosen1]

Hmmm,I would call you and idiot but I would have to call myself that too. They say we guys wait to often for the right time to approach and unless you do it NOW it never comes. And trust me riding the bus (my buses seem kind of like your buses) I've seen plenty of guys trying to pick up girl and succeding and trying and getting blown off. My point is just talk.

 

[danielzxc]

I dunno why I even made this thread really, just venting I guess.. but have any of you ever had something like this happen to you.

YES, too many times. And i felt like a fkkn idiot afterwards too.

I know what you mean man. I HATE the idea that other people are gonna "listen in" and judge me, and in my head I imagine they are gonna think I am a fkkn loser if it doesn't go good. Of course, that's not true, but in the heat of the moment, that is what fkkn puts me off.

Still, if you just talk, it doesn't necessarily mean you are trying to pick her up. I mean, if you just said "Hey, you go to [schoo] don't you?", that's just a normal thing to say, it doesn't scream "PICK UP ATTEMPT" at all.

Anyway, chalk it up to experience.

 

[AtomicDog]

What about an excuse as an ice breaker e.g. the age-old "whats the time?". Then see how it goes from there.

 

[Lust]

Seriously WTF is wrong with me, I feel so stupid right now. Earlier today I got onto the bus and sat down. Then this HB8.5+ came on after me saw me looking at her and sat down right in front of me. The way the bus is set up the first part of the bus is llined with benched seats so the people sitting there basically face other people on the other benched seats directly opposite them, and can look out the window. Right after the benches theres a portion where the seats face forward, so the person seating in them would be looking straight ahead like in a normal car. Well anyways I was sitting in the 1st regular seat and the chick sat on the portion of the bench, directly in front of me. So anyways she starts messing with her hair preening or whatever, and looks at me once or twice(no EC because I was looking out the window), and the way she was sitting it was obvious she was trying to get me to say something. Well what happened was I didn't want to talk on the bus, because I'd feel wierd picking up a girl with an audience like that, so I was going to wait for her to get down. Now when the bus stopped I didn't want to get up because I wanted her to get up first so I could follow her and then catch up and start talking (we were both going to the buses last stop, a subway station) well she basically never got up on time really and just sort of sat there even when everyone else seemed to be getting up, so like an idiot I figured she didn't want me to talk to her or something similar like that, and turned and left out of the bus. But thinking back on it, she was probably still waiting for me to initiate convo.

I dunno right now I just feel really dumb. That was basically handed to me on a silver platter, and I don't often get blantant IOIs like that out in public, but I'm sure this chick knew that we both went to the same school together. Fvck this would have been so much easier than a cold approach if I didn't mess it up. I dunno why I even made this thread really, just venting I guess.. but have any of you ever had something like this happen to you.

How do I get over caring about what other people think in public. I dunno it just seems like I never see any guys actually picking up girls in public, so maybe thats why I feel wierd doing it.

First of all, get rid of all the negative self talk.

Secondly, no fvcking excuses.

"I didn't want to pick up a girl on the bus" is bullsh!t.

No excuses.

Thirdly, when in that fight or flight second, think : How am i going to feel if i DON'T approach?

Read my motivation thread in my signature.

 

[Jason88]

First of all, get rid of all the negative self talk.

Secondly, no fvcking excuses.

"I didn't want to pick up a girl on the bus" is bullsh!t.

No excuses.

Thirdly, when in that fight or flight second, think : How am i going to feel if i DON'T approach?

Read my motivation thread in my signature.

He's right. If she said fvck off would it make you feel any worse then you feel now? The people on the bus...fvck'em...do what you have to do

 

[ryannath]

You really just made up an excuse to be a psvvsy and not talk to her because of your BS reason of "didn't wanna have an audience." Rejection is better than regret like you are doing now.

And, yes, it has happened to me before where i was getting IOIs and I chickened out. I was at the casino and two girls, 1 slim blonde about a 7, and a brunette an 8, and they came and sat right beside me at one of the slot machines, and then they left for awhile after I didn't talk to them, then they came back about 30 mins later and stayed a few mins, and then when they were leaving, they both looked back at me and stared at me for about 10 secs and they were whispering to each other. I'm sure they were thinking, "How come this guy didn't talk to us."

They came back and GAVE ME A SECOND CHANCE to talk to them and I STILL DIDN'T.

I knew they liked me, but I just made up some bs excuses for it too like you did. Mine was that my aunt was there and I didn't wanna pick up chicks with her there.