haha dont get me wrong I have a hard time thinking theese things on the spot as I get more relaxed its easy, you just gotta build this mindset that youre gonna have fun, not like its a challenge, as you progress towards that youll be more relaxed and with experience youll soon be good, take a break to work on yourself, that is the most abstract part of this, all the self help, I was like you, I didnt talk to anyone, I just did my thing at school then left only did the forced social stuff and I got tense around people in general, been doing the self help for like 1.5 years now,the stuff DOES kick in after a while, suddenly Im realaxed talking in groups, making jokes and getting social proof, I got really close with a girl, my confidence just goes on and on after a while.
All that just because I think better of myself, I got rid of all the BS I was telling myself "I cant do X" "Why would X like me?" when Istarted telling myself that the opposite would happen and that it was all good it felt FAKE, why would I le to myself? Im clearly a disgusting person one of theese things are true, well.. guess what youve been lying to yourself when you just pick the negative out of things, its all an illusion youve created for yourself and sadly it makes you act a certain way, no one wants to be around negative people, take it slow, dont try to run before you can walk, it will feel fake when you start getting rid of the negative stuff and chaning it for positive stuff just keep doing it, and youll suddenly get this feeling that when you say to yourself "Im confident" it wont feel fake anymore and so on, with bigger and bigger things, its just a defense mechanism, you get nervous cause you think youll get hurt from talking to a girl, which doesnt make sense.. but yeah it feels like its true because thats the outcome youre expecting, change that, that is the first step, when you change that youll be ready for everything else.
Trust me, I had something called social anxiety where Id just get nervous talking to anyone or having attention on me, its now all gone because I cahnged the way I thought.
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