I'm always miserable...

[MrConfidence]

It doesn't matter that I have a lot of stuff or that I'm talented, I'm always and will always be miserable. I can't be happy, swear it, my brain just doesn't want me to be happy. It's always doubting, caring what other people think, and negative. No matter what I do, I just can't stop being negative. And I'll also never have confidence, no, I've read tons of articles on confidence, tried to become confident, and there just seems to be something wrong with me where I'll never become confident, and I'm always insecure, and caring what others think. I'll never even APPROACH the girl I have the hots for, because I'll have enough balls. Maybe I should just see about suicide dude, I'm never gonna get better, I've tried for years, but I've never going to get better. I'm never going to fix my personal problems, I'm never going to get laid(I have no balls), sure I got a future in sports and music, but what does that matter if I'm always miserable on the inside. Guys might as well ban me, I'm never going to get better.

 

[waterispoison]

that sucks dude. well i guess you should just kill yourself then. but since you are going to kill yourself you might as well just talk to that girl because i mean..its not like its gona matter, you are gona die anyway so who cares if she rejects you.. if she does then all the more reason to commit suicide.

 

[PleasureKing]

How many DJ's does it take to make an AFC a man?
- one, but the AFC has to be willing to change

 

[Bjj_playa]

only you are responsible for your emotions, nothing or nobody else should have an affect on it except for you. if they do, you can change the way you react to situations...first by becomming aware. your living everyday habitually now, try being aware of instances where you see yourself being miserable when your out during your day and you'll see that you can easily change your mood. i was living like you for years, always frowning, and in a bad mood. happiness can be a concious state brought on by will alone...and how about you try being positive...your not going to change years of bad habits and conditioning overnight. but by thinking and feeling the way you are now i can tell you your only going to be seeing the same results. if your feeling down,..just put on a ****ing smile for 10 seconds...i dont care if you have to force it..i gaurantee your mood will change. only you can choose to be happy or miserable. just think about it. i did and my life is getting better everyday.

 

[bigw]

It doesn't matter that I have a lot of stuff or that I'm talented, I'm always and will always be miserable. I can't be happy, swear it, my brain just doesn't want me to be happy. It's always doubting, caring what other people think, and negative. No matter what I do, I just can't stop being negative. And I'll also never have confidence, no, I've read tons of articles on confidence, tried to become confident, and there just seems to be something wrong with me where I'll never become confident, and I'm always insecure, and caring what others think. I'll never even APPROACH the girl I have the hots for, because I'll have enough balls. Maybe I should just see about suicide dude, I'm never gonna get better, I've tried for years, but I've never going to get better. I'm never going to fix my personal problems, I'm never going to get laid(I have no balls), sure I got a future in sports and music, but what does that matter if I'm always miserable on the inside. Guys might as well ban me, I'm never going to get better.

Now listen here.

There is always something in your life that will kick you in the gut while you're down, but remember that there's a lot of other things in the world that'll pick you up, dust you off, and stick you back out there. You've got to have courage mate.

Don't worry, I know the situation, you think the world is against you and that nothing will ever go your way. Take it from me, a person who was EXACTLY like you last year, don't give up now. If you want to talk to me my msn is itisgoodtobeking@hotmail.com - Anyway, do you think women are the be all and end all of life? Of course they're not, and a DJ realises this as well.

Everyone cared about what people think, and everyone still does every now and then. No one likes to feel left out. But honestly mate, I've only realised how happy I could be this year . I know what you mean when you say, everything's too hard, nothing will work for me. I felt the same way, and people told me the same thing over and over 'Stop being so negative, you're bringing everyone else down" and "why are you feeling so down?" (I bet you've gotten quite a few yourself).

My advice to you. 1) Add me to msn, we'll talk
2) People do care about you
3) Don't do anything you'll regret, not only will you hurt yourself, but everyone else around you.
4) As soon as we get a couple of things sorted out, we can start thinking about women

But add me on msn, I'll talk to you. It's easier on there than on forums, I can type faster and get my point across easier

 

[Raikojo17]

seems to me that ur not really trying to change. if u really wantec change, than u would make an effort to, but ur just being lazy and staying where ur comfortable because really, ur afraid of change.
all these guys givin u sound advice andu refuse to take it and apply it to ur life. u have no right to sit here and whine if u didnt even try. y dont u give this advice a try, then if it doesnt work, then dont kill urself. never give up.
i have no respect for quitters. NONE. and u shouldnt either. dont become a quitter, be a fighter.

 

[bigw]

I know you guys are trying to help...but this seems to me like a very delicate situation here.......

 

[originaldj]

The reason half these people come on sosuave, including myself, is because at one point in our lives we felt like you. If your situation is as bad as you are saying than maybe you need some professional help.

You can be happy with what you have, just change your mindset, slowly, what I did when I started was whenever something bad happened to me I always looked at the bright side of it. And if I was really down I just had a few thoughts that always made me feel better.

 

[Quiksilver]

Originally posted by MrConfidence
I'm always and will always be miserable.

I'm never gonna get better

I've tried for years, but I've never going to get better.

I'm never going to fix my personal problems

I'm never going to get laid

I'm never going to get better.

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy buddy.

Believe in yourself first. No one can help you with this, one day you're just going to have to man up and bust out of that fortress of self-doubt you've built around yourself.

 

[Subtext]

hmm this is uncanny. sounds like you're describing me. i also have a pretty good life ( on paper) and a future in sports and music. i feel like no one knows me, and whenever people are laughing i think it's at me even though logically it probably isn't. i really can't help you because i'm basically at the same point as you. whenever i get drunk or do drugs i get real suicidal and i know if im near a gun at the time i will do it.
so yeah... just so you know you're not alone.
and if you decide to throw your life away, **** it you might as well just live as crazy as you want until it kills you. maybe something will happen to cheer you up.

 

[TheNewGuy]

Look at all these people feeding the troll.


I prefer to let evolution work it's magic, however.

 

[originaldj]

Congratulations you just posted the stupidest thing I ever read, Doing drugs and drinking makes you suicidal. THAN WHY DO YOU DO THEM.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Shut up, right now! Because the only person I see in here that hates you and doesn't believe in you is YOU.

 

[asdfghjkl]

My honest to god tip for you, stop masturbating...

 

[MrConfidence]

How many DJ's does it take to make an AFC a man?
- one, but the AFC has to be willing to change

I was willing to change at a time and I've posted several topics asking how to. I try to take the advice I'm given, but I'm still miserable and unhappy so there's either something I'm doing wrong or I'm incapable of change. I been at this forum since my freshman year and I still haven't got any better, that's why I think that even if I try, I'm incapable of changing. I'm a junior now.

only you are responsible for your emotions, nothing or nobody else should have an affect on it except for you. if they do, you can change the way you react to situations...first by becomming aware. your living everyday habitually now, try being aware of instances where you see yourself being miserable when your out during your day and you'll see that you can easily change your mood. i was living like you for years, always frowning, and in a bad mood. happiness can be a concious state brought on by will alone...and how about you try being positive...your not going to change years of bad habits and conditioning overnight. but by thinking and feeling the way you are now i can tell you your only going to be seeing the same results. if your feeling down,..just put on a ****ing smile for 10 seconds...i dont care if you have to force it..i gaurantee your mood will change. only you can choose to be happy or miserable. just think about it. i did and my life is getting better everyday.

I do try and control my emotions, but it doesn't work. I try to tell myself positive things, that I don't suck, that I do a good job at what I do, but none of it ever works. I'll try that 10 second smile thing, better than nothing.

Now listen here.

There is always something in your life that will kick you in the gut while you're down, but remember that there's a lot of other things in the world that'll pick you up, dust you off, and stick you back out there. You've got to have courage mate.

Don't worry, I know the situation, you think the world is against you and that nothing will ever go your way. Take it from me, a person who was EXACTLY like you last year, don't give up now. If you want to talk to me my msn is itisgoodtobeking@hotmail.com - Anyway, do you think women are the be all and end all of life? Of course they're not, and a DJ realises this as well.

Everyone cared about what people think, and everyone still does every now and then. No one likes to feel left out. But honestly mate, I've only realised how happy I could be this year . I know what you mean when you say, everything's too hard, nothing will work for me. I felt the same way, and people told me the same thing over and over 'Stop being so negative, you're bringing everyone else down" and "why are you feeling so down?" (I bet you've gotten quite a few yourself).

My advice to you. 1) Add me to msn, we'll talk
2) People do care about you
3) Don't do anything you'll regret, not only will you hurt yourself, but everyone else around you.
4) As soon as we get a couple of things sorted out, we can start thinking about women

But add me on msn, I'll talk to you. It's easier on there than on forums, I can type faster and get my point across easier

You're kind of right, but really it's just the fact that I'm always doubting myself and feeling as if everyone's plotting against me/thinks lowly of me that makes me miserable. I don't think the MSN thing will be a good idea, I've done it before, never worked for me. And the reason I think I'll never approach that girl, is because I don't know if I'll ever have the balls. I just can't get over that fear of rejection. There was a point where I wanted to change and start approaching women, but the fear of rejection was just too strong. For instance, at band camp there was this Abby chick who played the horn, who I thought was cute so I challenged myself to just go up to her, and start conversation, couldn't do it.

 

[WesCottII]

Well if you're sure, you might as well go away. How can we help?

 

[MrConfidence]

Well if you're sure, you might as well go away. How can we help?

I honestly feel the only help I can get is from a psychiatrist or something at this point. I might need to get some professional help.

Look at all these people feeding the troll.


I prefer to let evolution work it's magic, however.

Not very smart calling someone with half as many post as you a troll.

 

[WesCottII]

I honestly feel the only help I can get is from a psychiatrist or something at this point. I might need to get some professional help.

Right, well I'm a PT, I can't help you, and I don't see any other guys having an MD/PHD, so you've come to the wrong place.

 

[TheNewGuy]

Not very smart calling someone with half as many post as you a troll.

Would you care to explain what postcount has to do with this?

 

[bigw]

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You're kind of right, but really it's just the fact that I'm always doubting myself and feeling as if everyone's plotting against me/thinks lowly of me that makes me miserable. I don't think the MSN thing will be a good idea, I've done it before, never worked for me. And the reason I think I'll never approach that girl, is because I don't know if I'll ever have the balls. I just can't get over that fear of rejection. There was a point where I wanted to change and start approaching women, but the fear of rejection was just too strong. For instance, at band camp there was this Abby chick who played the horn, who I thought was cute so I challenged myself to just go up to her, and start conversation, couldn't do it.

I agree with the fact that you should see a psychiatrist, not for any shameful reasons. It will really help you

Don't worry, I had fear of rejection. It took me 12 times to figure out that it wasn't that bad. Seriously. If they reject you, move on. They weren't good enough for you anyway.

Like anything, set little goals for yourself It WILL help you. Just start smiling at women, looking in their eyes. That is the easiest thing to do. If they don't like it, try it with the next one

Start small, work your way up.