to make a long story short, last tuesday i went on an incredible "date" with a chick, ignored all signs and opportunities to kiss her, even at the end of the date. Then a few days later, (last friday), I did the same thing. I don't know whats wrong with me, but it seems that I just get into too deep and great conversations with this girl that I can't bring myself down from an intellectual to intimate level with her. So anyways, do you guys think it would be okay if I simply asked her out tuesday (which i know she will agree to), and straight up kiss her the moment I see her? Or would that come across as being too forced/pathetic???
im a wuss, and i need to fix this situation
- Thread starter seth03
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No don't do that. You still need to escalate the physicality properly. Everytime you date a girl in the first couple of months, you have re-escalate at the begining of a date. You can't just jump on her, when you haven't escalated at all yet, and expect her NOT to freak out.
If you're in an LTR, or a short fling there are exceptions.
You need to start kinoing her lightly. A small non-chalant touch on the hand or thigh short and sweet, not creepy, jokingly. Do this while smiling or after a slight joke, or talking point. Then you can do things like this: When you're about to leave for the venue, offer her your hand in a lighthearted manner, and say "Should we go?" (offer your hand). If she doesn't accept it, it's a SNUB, and you need to punish her a bit. Then when you've developed enough PHYSICAL rapport, make the kiss spontaneous. Sweep her off her feet with it. Don't make it too predictable, but also don't overly surprise her. example:
You are walking down the street with her hand in hand, (you've already escalated the physicality a bit), and she's talking about something. You are giving her good eye contact and smiling at her. Move your hand from holding hers, to around her waist slightly, and just say lightheartedly, "hey, you're spontaneous and fun right?" (smile) Of course she will say yes.
Then stop walking, take her by the waist, pull her close to you. And then, DON'T RUSH IT. Look into her eyes, smile, and say, "Kiss me". Don't wait for a response, but go in deliberately and slowly. If the kiss is passionate, then you can go open mouth, and make it worthwhile, BUT DO NOT USE YOUR TONGUE!!! You can only use LIGHT tongue if she initiates.
This way she has to kiss you or fear being a liar (she's not spontaneous).
There are of course many, many other ways that you can pull this off, this is just one example.
Now, here's a backup plan if she gives you a small, wussy kiss (signifying she might be unsure). You accept her little wussy kiss, and then you simply look at her smile, and say in a suave voice, "Hmm...That's not good enough, Now...Kiss me like you MEAN IT."
^^I've done that one...the results were her being "unsure" to her taking me back to her apartment.
Worst case, if you use that one, and it flops, you'll KNOW that she's not that interested in you, and you should probably next her.
Hope this helps. And good luck! Go for it man! It sounds like she's into you! If you DON'T MAKE A MOVE SOON, SHE WILL NEXT YOUR ASS FASTER THAN A TRIPLE CROWN WINNER. It's a test. The MEN will take what they want, the pussies will be left in the dust, while she goes out and finds someone who will TAKE her.
If you're in an LTR, or a short fling there are exceptions.
You need to start kinoing her lightly. A small non-chalant touch on the hand or thigh short and sweet, not creepy, jokingly. Do this while smiling or after a slight joke, or talking point. Then you can do things like this: When you're about to leave for the venue, offer her your hand in a lighthearted manner, and say "Should we go?" (offer your hand). If she doesn't accept it, it's a SNUB, and you need to punish her a bit. Then when you've developed enough PHYSICAL rapport, make the kiss spontaneous. Sweep her off her feet with it. Don't make it too predictable, but also don't overly surprise her. example:
You are walking down the street with her hand in hand, (you've already escalated the physicality a bit), and she's talking about something. You are giving her good eye contact and smiling at her. Move your hand from holding hers, to around her waist slightly, and just say lightheartedly, "hey, you're spontaneous and fun right?" (smile) Of course she will say yes.
Then stop walking, take her by the waist, pull her close to you. And then, DON'T RUSH IT. Look into her eyes, smile, and say, "Kiss me". Don't wait for a response, but go in deliberately and slowly. If the kiss is passionate, then you can go open mouth, and make it worthwhile, BUT DO NOT USE YOUR TONGUE!!! You can only use LIGHT tongue if she initiates.
This way she has to kiss you or fear being a liar (she's not spontaneous).
There are of course many, many other ways that you can pull this off, this is just one example.
Now, here's a backup plan if she gives you a small, wussy kiss (signifying she might be unsure). You accept her little wussy kiss, and then you simply look at her smile, and say in a suave voice, "Hmm...That's not good enough, Now...Kiss me like you MEAN IT."
^^I've done that one...the results were her being "unsure" to her taking me back to her apartment.
Worst case, if you use that one, and it flops, you'll KNOW that she's not that interested in you, and you should probably next her.
Hope this helps. And good luck! Go for it man! It sounds like she's into you! If you DON'T MAKE A MOVE SOON, SHE WILL NEXT YOUR ASS FASTER THAN A TRIPLE CROWN WINNER. It's a test. The MEN will take what they want, the pussies will be left in the dust, while she goes out and finds someone who will TAKE her.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
your issues are deeper than kissing her...
Why didn't you kiss her?
Do you not feel confident enough in kissing her?
ARe you afraid that you might loose her?
That's the question that has to be answered before you can move on.
Why didn't you kiss her?
Do you not feel confident enough in kissing her?
ARe you afraid that you might loose her?
That's the question that has to be answered before you can move on.
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
Don Juan Monk's "How to kiss a girl for the shy guys":
Step 1. Use good eye contact.
Step 2. Use good kino, think romantic.
Step 3. Kiss her on the lips or cheek.
Step 4. Kiss her on the lips.
Step 5. Kiss her on the lips.
Step 1. Use good eye contact.
Step 2. Use good kino, think romantic.
Step 3. Kiss her on the lips or cheek.
Step 4. Kiss her on the lips.
Step 5. Kiss her on the lips.
smoke city
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don't worry about it man. definitely go out with her on tuesday, but make it something fun and active (maybe fly a kite or bike ride or something) that doesn't afford you the opportunity to get all "deep" or whatever...
and just hang back and kiss her when it feels right.
if a woman likes you, being too slow is **always better than too fast -- women will generally hold out for a while (i.e. 3 or 4 dates) if you take your time (no matter how slow you take it), but if you're jumping the gun you can scare her away.
and just hang back and kiss her when it feels right.
if a woman likes you, being too slow is **always better than too fast -- women will generally hold out for a while (i.e. 3 or 4 dates) if you take your time (no matter how slow you take it), but if you're jumping the gun you can scare her away.
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if it's ment to happen it will happen bro. this isnt a movie where **** works out scripted. if it is ment to be it will randomly happen in the heat of the moment otherwise it is just fake and feels fake which sucks. who cares if it takes an hour or a year. as long as your not backing away from her when she is trying to kiss you. than your just fu king up.
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Definitely don't plan it, except for maybe 20 seconds beforehand. Some of the most memorable moments of my life are first kisses with girls. Particularly, one in a train station just before I was leaving for a week. One on a bridge after which I just looked at her and said "you kiss differently" dead serious (she really did).
Hmm, what's my point? Do something dorky. Actually, don't, you'll mess it up and actually be a dork. big difference
Im rambling. Forgive me. Just put your lips on her and squeeze her tits. Or something.
Hmm, what's my point? Do something dorky. Actually, don't, you'll mess it up and actually be a dork. big difference
Im rambling. Forgive me. Just put your lips on her and squeeze her tits. Or something.